Neurodiversity support thread for women with suspected, diagnosed or self-diagnosed autism, ADHD and other NDs #18

[PolterThreadStarter]

As usual, latest support thread.

Welcome

I'm sorry I caused alarm Polter. I'll go back to lurking.

(I don't use facebook these days anyways, all my family are on there. I prefered it when it was still "the facebook" and only fellow students used it)

We're being trolled here now?

I see.

Erm, this troll has been active the last week or more.

I feel a bit like that too Ferrets, but MN is pointless as a place to seek/give support if every other poster is a troll. The fact they've found this thread on a board which is not on active even if you opt in to SN is my final straw I think. And maybe that's their purpose, to shut down disability support, but you'd have to be a real cunt to do that.

Ah, they'll get bored next week and move on to something else, and like you say this board isn't very easy to find so I doubt it will happen as often here.

Yeah, I've been away for a while.

I'd be interested in a closed FB group. I think there are pros and cons over a thread here on MN but at least trolls wouldn't be such an issue.

Chou you didn't cause alarm at all the wonder of this thread has been that new people have come along and been accepted and supported and rightly so, I think this thread has made a tangible difference for lots of people, me included. I hate that trolls can make us lose this and make this not feel like a supportive place, but we do need to be careful.

We're being trolled here now?

Yep it's the poster thats had their name reset by mumsnet over several names now, they've also been pming people and in the other SN boards. delightful

I probably wouldn't have gone for dx without this thread.

I went with report and ignore.

Yes, new people are always welcomed on the thread and that's part of what makes it so great. It's been a bit of a lifeline for me at times and if/when I do get an assessment it will be largely due to this thread and the people on here.

Someone attacking (even with words) people at their most vulnerable is sick.

This thread would definitely carry on as new members will always need support. It just means that for some of us facebook is easier/we are more comfortable with it etc.

And I do know notreallyarsed she's my friend

Could someone compile a list of names who want to join and I'll create the group tonight? I'm just out at the minute poke-hunting.

Thanks HRF I worried I'd put you in a difficult position saying that!! I'd love to join if it's ok with long standing members? (If not, I totally understand)

I think polter is setting something up people.

Not difficult at all. Through talking to you I'd say you're definitely one of us

Thanks

I'm having second thoughts now because on the one hand I hate the idea of an 'elite group' and on the other I am sick of not trusting anyone here. It's a big leap of faith to out ourselves to each other!

So, I'm thinking, FB secret group, bit not a big secret, and anyone who posts here and can be verified by another regular can join. We will need some basic guidelines e.g. No outing and no bringing stuff across forums.

I've possibly lost track of the days.... but the last time I bumped into the troll seemed enough days ago to have been last weekend. I'm sorry.

Right. I'm going with report and ignore from here on. lucky me I'm up early since we are an hour ahead and .... you know kids!

I have to go. My quiet space has been invaded by DD who needs to rearrange everything because she is tired. Not that she'll be likely to fall asleep.

Ok, I've set up a group, it's very basic and I don't really know what I'm doing, PM me or Fatty here or on FB and once it's set up we can start adding people. You will need to be a FB friend to join.

It's not to replace this thread, more to supplement it.

Hm. Not sure about FB group. I don't know any of you IRL. I know HerRoyalFattyness through another thread on here (sweary cave) but not IRL.
Will we still post on here? Seems like MN are good at deleting the troll posts when you report them.

I'll still be here. MN feels more me than FB, it's more that some of us would like to discuss stuff we don't want shared on here, but other FB groups, for me anyway, are too big and impersonal.

Oh I'll definitely still be on here too.

Get a life.

So bored of the trolls already.

I'll still be here too. I wouldn't have felt confident enough to get a diagnosis without this group.

I reported and ignored. I couldn't be bothered.

It seems I missed some hairy-toed twattishness... I'm definitely up for a secret FB group - fair warning though it'll take me months to figure out who is who from here to there!

Dh and DS just got home from 4 days away without me, DH ha gone straight to bed and told me to 'go away, you're annoying me' when I suggested I wasn't horrible because I'd cleaned the house whilst they were away. I don't think he's ever going to understand how shitty it makes me feel to constantly be picking up after him and for him to basically throw rubbish on the floor. He doesn't understand any of the things that would be so easy for him to do but he refuses just because he thinks they shouldn't matter.