A new Neurodiversity support thread for those with suspected or diagnosed ASD, ADHD and other NDs

[PigPigTrotters]

Yet another thread for neurodivergent mumsnetters.

Lots of links in old threads.

Anyone is welcome, it's not just about autism.

(please ignore belly bulge; tucked shirt in to show my manly figure off)

My body is more manly than that and I always thought I was quite feminine. Took me a while to find a pic of me with my body in, because I hate my body! The snow one is January of this year, the other one woth dd is July of this year.

I'm actually much fatter than those pics show.

wow

       very man

 such male

Your body looks nice!

Small children think I'm a man but that's fine, there's a stage they go through where short hair = man

But grown adults should know better. Especially you, Mr UKIP representative standing outside the polling station at the last election, who called me sir.

I can show you a pic of my arse that dp took on Halloween if you like, then you'll erm those pics are just the camera being extremely kind!

I don't think you look manly at all

See not erm

You have renewed my faith in human perception

Your body is good. Nice boobs. Is it okay to say that?

Yes it's OK to say that! I like my boobs. I'll be sad to see them go when I finally lose weight
Here you go, I was picking DS2 up and DP thought it would be hilarious to snap a pic of my arse.

That's just foreshortening, that. Or is it rear-shortening?

I hate my body, too - I'm slightly above the healthy weight category, but more importantly I have a lot of loose skin from weightloss; I can't go out unless I'm completely covered up, as everything sags :(

I'm obese! I weigh around 16 and a half stone. It doesn't seem to shift at all

I hear you :( I'm just over 11 stone, but would prefer to be 9. I used to be 20 stone, though, so it's better than it was.

Polter is right; I wouldn't have put you at 16 stone.

Just good pics polter
And rat You've done amazing to lose so much weight! Can I ask how you managed it?

I hate having my hair cut but also hate having long hair, hair in my face is horrible. My ideal is going to the barbers as they cut it how I like it, similar to rat (I can also spend hours stroking my own head!) but then that carries a different but equally weighty set of social stresses as going to the hairdressers. At the moment I go to a walk-in unisex place who are mostly quite good and I'm growing one side long enough to tuck behind an ear.

The pic of me above in the black coat is from the other day, when I was referred to as "that guy".

I'm still very how you can be called a guy! I don't get it. How can people look at someone who is clearly a woman, with a woman's body and think "yep that's a man"
And we're meant to be the weird ones.

Because they're not looking at the body, they're looking at the set of social / cultural signifiers that we probably haven't even noticed!