A new Neurodiversity support thread for those with suspected or diagnosed ASD, ADHD and other NDs

[PigPigTrotters]

Yet another thread for neurodivergent mumsnetters.

Lots of links in old threads.

Anyone is welcome, it's not just about autism.

He's upset you, and I guess it feels to you like he needs to make the first move, or you'll look like you're accepting the way he treated you

That's exactly it rat. You put it better than I ever could have but that's exactly what I was trying to say.

I like stuff like that Delete, I'll try to watch it. It's easy to read more into things when you're already sensitive, especially in this technological age. Imagine, 20 years ago he'd only have contacted you if there was a big problem! I hope you get some sleep.

Ratty We have a strange lack of big spoons lately ourselves! Hope you get chance to rest too.

She probably wouldn't have even had a mobile 20 years ago faith (in fact I wish it was 20 years ago as him & his bloody smart phone is what got us into this mess in the first place).

I would definitely recommend the show, I forget what it's called now but it should be easy to identify on catch up.

*he

for everyone.

Ugh. Spent 2 and a half hours working on my assignment and I've still barely scratched the surface.

How is everyone today?

I've had another sleepless night and have started up an unhealthy obsession with wanting a time machine right now.....

I've had a bad night too. Then when I finally did drop off at around 5, I was disturbed half an hour later with DS2 waking for the day 😴
A time machine would be awesome.

I managed about seven hours - I prefer eight, but this is fine :) Sorry to hear so many of you slept badly - hope today goes okay.

Today is a college day. Which means I really should be getting out of bed.

I've been unsettled by this virus/cough and bad dreams. Need to call my boss today, never a fun task!

Hope everyone has a good day.

Still ill here. However, DH is ill too and mentioned he'd probably not go to work last night so I gave him the choice of getting up with the boys or taking DS1 to school (I don't get a sick day from parenting so I think it's only fair we both chip in if we're both feeling crap) and chose the school run. I'm glad because it floored me yesterday.

I totally get the dithering over whether to message your OH or wait to see if he messages you when he's hurt you thing. I get myself in such knots over that sort of stuff. Should I wait or is that just torturing myself for no reason? Should I message or does that make me look weak/desperate/like I've forgiven etc.? It goes on and on.

I had a decent amount of sleep, but it took me ages to drop off and it was very broken sleep so I don't feel very rested. Dp has started taking the girls and taking dd1 to nursery in the morning when he gets in from night shift so I can have a bit of a lie in. He enjoys the bonding time and it makes things a bit more fairer for me too.

Love the time machine obsession, that would be so cool if they existed.

I'm excited because Teen Mom UK starts tonight, small things

OOh Polter!

I feel like we have loads of big decisions to make in the next few weeks: move or extend, holiday or not, buy classic car or not, DC2...or not?! It's too much to process and I want to do a tortoise and retreat!

Do you have a hair cut method?
The last time I cut mine I was about 6 and had no fringe for a while, the fallout from that (and a disastrous dog haircut) has meant that I've never tried it again.

I have an odd question. I like clouds, my favourite formations are called kelvin-Helmholtz, they're apparently very rare to spot. Except I seem to spot them regularly, three or four times in the last week. Is this just chance, or is this some superior pattern spotting talent? Is it because they are a special interest so my brain is wired in a way to spot them?

I saw some weird clouds when I was in France once. They looked like they were boiling in the sky; the movement was… spooky. When I get home, I'll see if I can find the photo - maybe you'll be able to tell me what they were, Pig!

Polter, I have trimmed my hair for years (to avoid the cost - both financially and socially - of having to go to a hairdresser) but properly cut it to a totally different style for the first time less than a year ago. I gave myself a weird asymmetrical cut and still can't decide whether I liked it or not.

The thing about hair is it grows back so you might as well go for it.

Pig, I suspect you're right with Is it because they are a special interest so my brain is wired in a way to spot them? but don't know for sure.

Rat, they could be asperatus clouds maybe.

I only let my mum cut my hair. I can't face a hairdresser and have only ever been 3 times in my life. Twice when I as a child and once when I went when DS1 was little and it was so flaming awkward!

I've been going to the same hairdresser for 10 years so I trust her! Tried someone else while she was on mat leave. Fine the first couple of times but last time she cut it really wonky! I'd leave it for now Polter

I don't know much about clouds...

I have a short cut, a #4 on the back and sides and 1.5" to 2" on top.

Benefits are that I can wash it in seconds, it dries quickly, when I wake up I just rub some clay in quickly, it never knots, it feels lovely to stroke when it's just cut (I sit there stroking my own head for hours…) and I can't really feel it on my head, weighing it down, pulling in the wrong direction, or tickling me, IYSWIM (can't stand hair in my face).

Downsides are that it needs regular cuts to maintain it, but that's not too bad as it's a very quick job (clippers round the back and sides, quick snip on top), and that occasionally I get mistaken for a man.

To be fair, I wear no makeup, flat shoes, jeans and a hoodie, every day, usually with a black leather just-above-the-knee coat with padded shoulders. And I'm a fairly masculine build, with very small hips and broad shoulders.

But on the other hand, GG tits. So there's that.

Clearly a man, right?