A new Neurodiversity support thread for those with suspected or diagnosed ASD, ADHD and other NDs

[PigPigTrotters]

Yet another thread for neurodivergent mumsnetters.

Lots of links in old threads.

Anyone is welcome, it's not just about autism.

Chron

*Crohn even

Bottle I hate having any sort of workmen in the house, even down to the boiler man doing the annual check. I never know where to put myself.

I have had a rough few days, things with me and dp are not great. I don't want to go into too much detail but he did something that really upset me at the weekend, to the point where he packed a bag and left. He is home now, we are working on things. But I am hurting and just not myself right now.

I have been naughty and have picked up smoking again partly due to recent events but we have been doing it 'socially' for a while I.e the odd weekend when dd's have stayed at grandparents and inevitably it has escalated . We have ran out of tobacco though and have decided not to buy anymore so hopefully I can kick it. I really don't want to fall into it again. Dp usually finds it much harder to stop than I do but I am really stressed at the moment so I'm finding it a struggle too.

Life seems a bit sucky for all of us at the moment so (delete where appropriate) for all.

Yeah, I noticed that a lot of us are struggling- I know I find winter harder (usually up my dose of anti Ds but don't want to because I'm pregnant) and with half term and Halloween there seems to be a lot of disruption to routines.

Sorry to hear that Polter. Easier said than done I know but forget what your MIL thinks, it can't be helped. I hope you and your H manage to work things out. Relationship issues are rubbish.

It's really awful what a strain things can put on a relationship at times when you both most need someone to lean on.

And dealing with shitty things when there are already problems going on makes it worse.

How can I be bored, yet but want to do anything?

*not

I swear I corrected that.

Oh sorry polter only just saw that. I'll PM you, (once I work out where PMs are on this oojimiwot .)

I get like that rat. It's a horrible feeling. It's usually when I'm feeling low.

and with half term and Halloween there seems to be a lot of disruption to routines.

It's always a 'build uppy' kind of feeling at this kind of year. A long slow build of anticipation until Christmas.

I used to be most conscious of it in terms of helping the DC keep on an even keel (especially in primary school) but somehow, now they're older, I notice it getting to me more myself, probably because I'm NOT steering them through it.

I've noticed they with a few things.

This time of year....

Noticed that with a few things....

(I can't even type straight today )

Mmm, it's probably because I'm mentally tired - had CBT this morning (homework is steps 1, 2 and 3 of learning how to use buses - step 1 is going out to look at the timetables at the bus stop(!)), then spent a few hours planning a philosophy essay (it shouldn't really have taken that long; I couldn't concentrate and kept drifting off to do other things). Being mentally tired sometimes shows up as similar feelings to depression, which always worries me as I've had some quite severe depressive episodes in the past (to the extent of suicide attempts, hospitalisation and catatonia - I wish I'd known back then that you can cure catatonia with lorazepam! the doctor didn't suggest it, just said I had thought disorder and put me in hospital, which cured nothing and when I came out i slowed down even more - it kept showing up again for years; it's unbearable) and really don't want to get back into that state again.

Argh I hate this time of year. Germs everywhere. I hate that I've had to take time off with something that I a. Caught from work (several people have it) and b. Most people will have worked through. Since I have asthma, any bugs like this render me breathless (contemplated calling an ambulance at one point it was so bad but blue inhaler finally worked) so I can't work. I know my boss will be a PITA about it too Sorry, friend made a 'joke' by text about my sickness record which has pissed me off! Also I'm pretty sure I've spotted a troll on here but I'm too scared to point it out on the thread so have reported it and am waiting for the response...

Polter [mug] hot chocolate to soothe you at bed time. These situations are tough.

rat (can I call you ratty?!) all I've done all day is watch Netflix and play mindless games on my phone. Tried to crochet but I kept doing it wrong!

Please do Faith

Yeah, the mindless phone games - along with MN, the biggest time-thief in my life.

That's a horrible thing, to mock your susceptibility to illness

Sounds like you've definitely had a mentally exhausting day rat. That is probably contributing to how you're feeling tonight.

I am feeling sad tonight. Dp usually texts me from work, but he hasn't tonight. I know logically there's nothing stopping me from texting him, but I don't really know what to say. I don't want to give the impression that everything is ok when it isn't. Sounds stupid written down but I know what I mean.

I don't think she means it..she's probably an Aspie too. I'm incredibly defensive about the whole thing is the trouble. I'm still awaiting investigations for this abdo pain and need to ask my manager to change my shifts to fit in the prep for my colonoscopy (sounds worse than the colonoscopy itself!) but I doubt she'I'll be very amenable given that I'm leaving and I've just been off work again! What irritates me is I don't take time off work lightly! I tried to go out on Sunday and managed 30 minutes, by which time I was crying with pain. No way I could have done 2 x 12 hour shifts!

Ratty I go back to the spoon theory for energy. I can only achieve so much in a day. Therapy type-stuff takes a huge amount of energy!

Delete I usually text DH when I work nights but sometimes if I get caught up I don't have time til I know he'll be asleep. It's natural to be upset when you anticipate something that doesn't happen though.

I feel silly really - 50 minutes talking with a nice middle-aged woman in a comfy room, and a few hours lying on the bed, writing intermittently, and that's it, my brain is done in But it is what it is what it is what it is.

It doesn't sound stupid written down at all; if it's you who offers the olive branch, it doesn't feel the same as if he did, not at all. He's upset you, and I guess it feels to you like he needs to make the first move, or you'll look like you're accepting the way he treated you… or something? I could be getting this all wrong, obviously. That's my forte…

I think I ran out of spoons this morning, started raiding the teaspoon drawer by lunch, and am now at trying-to-eat-soup-with-a-fork. Better get to bed before I'm down to chopsticks.

Thanks faith i am trying to tell myself that he's just having a busy shift at work rather than it having something to do with the stuff going on between us right now.

Just finishing watching that programme on Channel5 about mental illness. It's basically an insight into what it's really like from people who suffer various mental health issues. It's been really interesting.