A new Neurodiversity support thread for those with suspected or diagnosed ASD, ADHD and other NDs

[PigPigTrotters]

Yet another thread for neurodivergent mumsnetters.

Lots of links in old threads.

Anyone is welcome, it's not just about autism.

Tableaux!! Yes!! Lay out scenes in cars, railways, blocks, dolls, and then--puzzlement. I liked laying them out in a pleasing way. And reading while I do everything except driving and sex.

Faith I can distinctly remember making elaborate 'sets'/'dens' to play in with Dsiss & then couldn't be arsed to play in them...
Come to think of it a lot of DDs imaginative play involves 'casting' me in roles & then giving me lines to say. I just thought it was the theatre gene....

My in-laws' house is basically worthy of 'Hoarders'. It's caused endless misery for me. I can't bear to touch anything there!

My DF has told me multiple times that he couldn't eat my spat out food when I was a baby, and I couldn't with DS either.

I'm extremely sensitive to bad breath (at least once a day I tell DH he needs to go to the dentist) and I cannot bear the feeling of me being sweaty and having clothes on.

I did lots of imaginative play but the lines between reality and the fantasy world I'd constructed were always very shimmery. I used to get angry when other people joined in because they inevitably messed it up, they'd go off script or try to change things. I couldn't do improvised imaginative play.

I was awarded a part in our year 6 play and tried to change the script of that too, the drama teacher hated my constant "helpful" suggestions!

Well my sister definitely has the theatrical gene! Has done adult am-dram and still plays instruments in orchestras and for plays. I think I got swept along!

Albadros I'm the same. I shower twice a day if I'm on nights because I can't go to bed sweaty from my night shift and can't go to work without washing either! I wear extra strong deodorant because I'm paranoid about BO.

DH and I had a lovely dinner out. Had a really good chat and made some big decisions.

Morning. DD is being loud today. She won't stop shouting.

Morning! I am enjoying time to myself. DD is at my Dad's, DH must have retreated to the spare room at some point. So I'm watching Netflix and enjoying the peace.

Hope she settles HSF.

Polter

Morning all! Polter, when my gran died, it was all logistics. There is always so much to do, and someone needs to have a cool head and keep organising all the changes. I think it may be a strength really, if an unsympathethic seeming one, because if everyone is swept away by grief, who remembers to buy extra milk?

*unsympathetic

polter I know how you feel.
I've gone through life thinking I'm just a cold hearted bitch because I don't cry or feel sad when something happens to someone I have no connection to. I can understand why other people are sad, but I don't feel.that at all.
I'm doing a safeguarding assignment at the minute and I have to write about FGM. Now, that's obviously not nice and I wouldn't want anything like that to happen to my dd but some of the women in college were actually in tears talking get about it. I was why are they so upset?
Or when DPs brother killed himself. Dp is depressed because of that whereas I'm like "well, you didn't get on anyway"

When DPs brother killed himself it was a while before the funeral, but that was because it was suicide and they had to investigate (he hanged himself, but didn't die straight off. He was in a coma for 4 days, they had to turn the life support off) and it was over Christmas/new year. (Did it on boxing day, died on the 30th) then they had to sort out the deed to the plot, which was in DPs dad's name, so they had to transfer that to dp (his dad died years ago) then he had to sign it over to his mum. There was a lot of faffing around.
I think they usually try and do it as quick as possible so maybe 2 weeks max?

Polter

Polter,

When DH's second set of grandparents died it was 'inconvenient' for me so I get it. With his grandfather I made the effort to go to the funeral and take DS1, even though it was a right faff, but when it came to his grandmother I didn't bother. I don't know how that looked but I was pregnant and we knew by then DS1 has terrible car sickness (funnily enough, we found out on the day of DH's grandfather's funeral when DS1 spent each car journey throwing up) and I just don't really 'get' funerals and their significance.

The only tough thing for me was whether I was going to the funeral or not

DPs mum hates me and wouldn't have wanted me there, dp said I didn't have to go, he'd be OK etc. But then he kicked off at me for not going

Polter. I hope all the arrangements go alright. I don't think it's weird or unempathetic to worry about how this will affect other things which are going on in your life at the moment and in the near future.

I don't cry or feel sad when something happens to someone I have no connection to

I'm the same. I turned up on the first school day after Princess Diana's death and explained to my classmates that they shouldn't feel sad because they didn't know her, just like they didn't know all the other people who died on that day.

Didn't feel sad when my grandparents died, either, even though I really loved them. They were old and in pain. Some guilt when my grandma died, for reasons I won't go into, and feeling sad for my dad, but not for myself IYSWIM.

Didn't feel sad when the boxing day tsunami happened.

Don't have an emotional reaction to films, books or TV - it's fiction.