A new Neurodiversity support thread for those with suspected or diagnosed ASD, ADHD and other NDs

[PigPigTrotters]

Yet another thread for neurodivergent mumsnetters.

Lots of links in old threads.

Anyone is welcome, it's not just about autism.

I hate people touching my food. When I was a child my older brother stole a chip off my plate, so I stabbed him in the cheek with my fork. And drew blood

Yeah, crapping a Lego is really above and beyond.

Rat, you don't sound smug.

I hate sharing drinks, cutlery etc. with anyone except DH.

The main bodily fluid I have problems with is actually sweat. I HATE sweating so much. It took years (right up until very recently) for me to explain to DH I hate him touching me when I'm sweaty because of my own sensory problems and not because of some concern that he might think it's yucky.

He always said 'I don't care' whenever he tried to hug me and I told him I was sweaty. Then, when he was talking t about how much he hated light touch on his legs (when the dogs nose his leg or the kids tap him etc.) I explained that was how I felt about being touched when I'm sweaty. He's been much better since and often asks if it's okay to touch me.

DP likes to "share" my drinks. Even when I've offered him one of his own. Drives me potty. I've finally learnt to be able to cope with it, as long as we drink from different sides of the glass.

DP asked if he could have a drink of my Pepsi out of the bottle the other day. (I said no but he complained and i gave it him to shut him up) I didn't have anymore after he drank it. He's lucky I didn't stab him

Ugh, sweat. When I see sweat on other people, my eyes sting. Can't stand sweat, saliva, or sexual fluids. Hate being cuddled (can manage a brief, firm, dry hug), kissed, stroked, or tickled. Poor DP :(

I think I'm going to steal that as an expression of surprise. "Well, crap a Lego! I didn't expect that!"

Ewwwww. No. No no no nonononono.

We need new diagnostic criteria.

a) will defend own food and drink with forks, if necessary

b) averse to sweat

c) tableaux

rat that sounds about right
And yep it's Jose.

Is it just me that finds the noise of people eating irritating? Close your mouth when you chew ffs!

The "no"s were in relation to eating half-masticated food, by the way.

I hate sharing too and I can only share drinks with dp.

Hate hate hate using glasses and cutlery in other people's houses. I'm at PIL's this weekend and the only way I can drink from their cups is through a straw (although I drink mostly through a straw at home too). If I go to a friends house or something I usually refuse a drink unless (and this sounds awful and judgy but it's more about me than them if that makes sense) I feel that their house is particularly clean. There was one occasion a few years ago where I was given a glass of squash at a friends house and there was something FLOATING in it. Needless to say I didn't drink the drink but I also didn't have the heart to say anything.

Rat, your assessments sound similar to mine.
Your new diagnostic criteria sound about right too

I always think of the Mexican firefighter's sons when I hear the name Jose - Jose and Hose B (loses it in writing really!).

HSF I love that you stabbed your brother with a fork for nicking a chip. That is so something my DC would do!

I don't do Lego with people as I get too bossy, and they do it wrong!

Weirdly I am fine with drinking from glasses at a restaurant, as long as the glass looks clean (still mostly ask for a straw though) even though said glass has likely been used by hundreds of people before me. I guess in my head it's because I feel in a restaurant the glasses have to be clean otherwise people would complain and they'd lose business? It's weird though.

I learned yesterday that's called misophonia Fatty

My house isn't a show home by any means and it can get quite messy it doesn't bother me because it's my own mess. but it does bother me if other people's houses are messy. Just something about other people's dirt and mess that I can't tolerate.

I'm loving 'well crap a lego'
I might have to use that.
Re scripts etc.
I created entire musicals on our kitchen table with sets/ lights/costumes. I cast my sisters and wielded an auteur-like authority. Are you telling me that's not NT? I was about 6 when I started, youngest Dsis was cast as baby Jesus aged 5 months, but I played majority of parts, mainly because Dsiss couldn't commit to the rehearsal regime

The sensory thing is odd though- sometimes I'm addicted to the extremity of certain sensations too. Sex is either amazing or horrendous.

Crap a lego

I'm not fussed about the sharing thing....one thing I'm ok with!

Re assessments: I had a DISCO assessment, lots of talking! Questions about my childhood, habits, language development, sleep, social relationships. Then adolescence and adulthood. I'm clever too. Not like scary smart but clever. If I didn't have dyslexia I'd have probably been an academic! Despite that, I still studied at post-grad level (though that course was all essay based which made it so much easier for me!).

OhMuther Dsis and I did 'plays' every time we visited our grandparents!

I have bern drained today by DD! Super whingy! Very clingy. Over tired. Fortunately she's been shipped off to my Dad's so I have had chance to have a bath and watch Netflix while DH played on his PlayStation. Phew! Off out to dinner now to a nice, quiet restaurant that I really hope hasn't been done over for Halloween because I hate it