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Do you ever suspect you may have aspergers? (Or do you know you have it?)

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CrapBag · 01/10/2015 13:14

It's something I have occasionally thought about.

I have frequently been told that I am honest (or blunt) and if people want an honest answer, they will come to me. I don't like to be rude and don't like the idea of upsetting people but sometimes I get the feeling I may have. A chat with a friend recently got me thinking and she said if we're talking and I don't want to do something or I don't agree I will just reply "no" and that's it. No discussion, I will just come out with it. She isn't the first person to say this to me. I genuinely can't understand why that may not be right.

Another friend once told me she thinks I am misunderstood and I don't mean any harm (true) but I'm not sure who is misunderstanding me or why.

I do like my routine. I don't like changing it. I would describe myself as set in my ways. I'm incredibly on top of things and organised (to the point people joke about me sorting their lives out). I am very black and white, no middle ground. I also have a very strong sense of fairness and hate injustice of any kind. I also find it very frustrating when people make a mistake on something and feel the need to correct it (I don't, I keep it to myself as I do know that would annoy people).

I have done the online test (I know, I know [http://archive.wired.com/wired/archive/9.12/aqtest.html here] and scored fairly highly.

I have always felt like I don't quite fit in although I think I do a pretty good job of covering this up. I feel like I am on the fringes quite often.

I know it doesn't really matter. I wouldn't say it affects my life although I do struggle with relationships quite a bit (not DH and DCs) mainly friends. I was just curious after my friends recent comment.

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CrapBag · 01/10/2015 13:15

clicky link

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TeamBacon · 01/10/2015 13:18

Yep. I've wondered about it for year, and the more I wonder and the more I find out about aspergers, the more I'm convinced. I keep thinking about seeking a diagnosis, but I'm worried about being laughed at. I'm meeting up soon with an old friend who I've been talking to about this, who has recently been diagnosed. We've been talking about it a lot.

"I do like my routine. I don't like changing it. I would describe myself as set in my ways. I'm incredibly on top of things and organised (to the point people joke about me sorting their lives out). I am very black and white, no middle ground. I also have a very strong sense of fairness and hate injustice of any kind. I also find it very frustrating when people make a mistake on something and feel the need to correct it (I don't, I keep it to myself as I do know that would annoy people). "

Yep. All of this. People just think I'm intolerant.

TeamBacon · 01/10/2015 13:19

*years

WestRyderPauperLunatic · 01/10/2015 13:21

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TeamBacon · 01/10/2015 13:22

This seems a good test as well, can't remember what I got now, will redo.

www.aspergerstestsite.com/75/autism-spectrum-quotient-aq-test/#.Vg0lcN9VhBc

BeautifulLiar · 01/10/2015 13:23

Yep, me. In fact my son is being assessed today to see if he has it. During the pre assessment the paed was asking if his bio dad did any of the following... and i was like "errr, no, but that sounds like me".

I'm awkward socially, and can be blunt (told MIL I hate christenings... at SIL and nephew's christening!)

I have a fantastic memory, especially for dates

If someone says they'll pick me up at around 11, I get upset if they're not there by five past

I remember a lot of random facts

I don't like change

I'm an all or nothing kind of person

TeamBacon · 01/10/2015 13:24

agh, it's not working. Sorry.

BuckBuckBuckBuckBuck · 01/10/2015 13:28

I wonder. Much like op for odd comments from others about me being odd or direct.

But I'm not organised or routine and love change. So I never score highly on the quizzes. And I do empathise with others, see other points of view. Interested in this thread.

LaContessaDiPlump · 01/10/2015 13:30

Just done it, scored 33.

I exhibited a lot of the classic behaviours when I was younger but have learned over the years what the 'right' things to do/say are and how to generally try to not give offence whilst still being truthful. DH says of me that I have absolutely no 'side' and display myself almost exactly as I truly am. I had a younger brother who was profoundly autistic too, so it's in the family.

I think I probably am but not sufficiently to have a major impact on my life.

LaContessaDiPlump · 01/10/2015 13:31

Posted too soon - many of the learned social behaviours have become 2nd nature to the extent that I enjoy parties now, because I know what to do and how to manage them. Likewise with social groupings in general.

I do think it changes as you grow up!

Godstopper · 01/10/2015 13:33

Yes, and met a psychiatrist the other week.

Conclusion: Likely, but little support in this area (York) unless you are having massive issues. As my day-to-day life is set up how I want it, and I've just completed a PhD (now job hunting), I'm not deemed a priority. Instead, I've been referred to CBT to help with the accompanying anxiety issues. Much more support available for children.

LaContessaDiPlump · 01/10/2015 13:34

Ooh, the blog of the day is very fitting.

BathshebaDarkstone · 01/10/2015 13:34

My family think so. I think I have autistic traits.

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CrapBag · 01/10/2015 13:35

"People just think I'm intolerant." Yes! Tbh I am pretty intolerant, people do think it as well though.

I am very empathetic. In fact too much, it annoys me. I know it can present different in females to males though.

I did score 38 on the test I linked and it said "Eighty percent of those diagnosed with autism or a related disorder scored 32 or higher."

Beautiful that also sounds just like me! I am a stickler for punctuality and I expect people to be there the time they have said. I have learned though that most people do not operate like this and can rock up any time with a "oh you know what I am like" grrr!

I remember a lot of random facts and dates. If something has especially upset me and I have dwelled on it I will remember the situation and conversation exactly. I then get frustrated when the other person says they didn't say that or pretends they can't remember (happened a few times in the past) because they have acted like a twat and don't want to own up to it.

I am the world's crappest liar too. Grin

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Sapele · 01/10/2015 13:35

How does anyone go about getting assessed as an adult? I looked into it a couple of years ago and the doctor literally laughed at me. I score around 45-47 on the AQ.

BeautifulLiar · 01/10/2015 13:39

Oh god, I can't lie either despite username DH thinks it's hilarious if I try to joke about something, I just can't lie!

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CrapBag · 01/10/2015 13:39

TeamBacon I can't get your test to load but it says it was developed at Cambridge which is where the one in my link was so there is a chance it is the same test.

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RosieCassMuggins · 01/10/2015 13:41

Doctors do laugh at you if you ask for an assessment. Angry

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CrapBag · 01/10/2015 13:43

Do you find you often don't get jokes too? Sometimes I do, if they are obvious but other times I haven't got a clue or I'm not even sure if it is a joke in the first place. My brother posted something from BritainFurst which may be a pisstake of Britainsfirst? But I really didn't understand it at all.

Just seen the blog of the day! Genuinely did not notice that! Grin

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LeChien · 01/10/2015 13:44

There's a Thread here for women who have or suspect they have ASD/ADHD.

The first post has a few different tests.

I've had an unofficial diagnosis and waiting for a referral to be assessed formally.
Sapele, I would try a different GP and explain why you think you have and why you would like to look into it, no-one should laugh at you for wanting to find out.

BathshebaDarkstone · 01/10/2015 13:45

I scored 36. Is that high? Confused

tormentil · 01/10/2015 13:47

I scored 27, but didn't really think Aspergers was a possibility for me. More curious about my sister-in-law who ticks a lot of the boxes. Rudeness is her forte. A couple and their two sons (12 and 8) were staying with her recently. During dinner she announced quite loudly that she didn't like children and that all children should be given passports at 12 and sent away from home. Oddly enough, she is a brilliant auntie.

LeChien · 01/10/2015 13:50

I score 46 on that test. My diagnosed ds scores 38 (but he is an extrovert, I am an introvert) my undiagnosed but suspected ds scores 39.
My very NT twin sister scores 5 - not sure how we've managed to be so different!

WestRyderPauperLunatic · 01/10/2015 13:51

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Itsbloodyraining · 01/10/2015 13:53

I am all the things mentioned above, I get the comments etc. I get extremely anxious if things aren't done the right way. I must be hell to live with, and my relationship suffers. However, apart from a fantastic memory recall, dates, facts etc, don't you have to be extremely intelligent? I'm university educated, but not a genius, and I don't have obsessions. I've always enjoyed socialising but feel like I know how to act by knowing a script and by watching what others do. I always say something that others will be shocked at, and I genuinely don't get what I've said wrong. I've only said what the truth is. I feel a diagnosis may help dh understand me etc.