Neurodiversity support thread: Women with suspected/self-diagnosed/diagnosed ASC & ADHD

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No sign of our own forum yet, so for now here's a new support thread for women on the autistic spectrum and/or with ADHD. Newbies more than welcome!

The old thread is here.

Here are some helpful links for newbies:

List of female AS traits by Tania Marshall.

List of female traits by Everyday Aspergers

Musings of an Aspie- Cynthia Kim's blog (one of the few sources I have found about being a parent with Aspergers)

Autistic Women's Collective

Recognising ADHD in women from ADDitude Magazine

Resources for women with ADHD from ADDitude Magazine

Adult ADHD support (coming soon by the looks of things)

Books

Aspergirls by Rudy Simone

You Mean I'm Not Lazy, Stupid or Crazy?!: The Classic Self-help Book for Adults with Attention Deficit Disorder by Kate Kelly (I haven't read this one but I have heard it recommended many times- apologies if it's no good!)

I took off Tony Attwood because it was about people with autism rather than for people with autism. Anyone else got any book recommendations?

Online tests

(Online tests are not 100% certain but can give you a very good idea and a starting point for talking to your GP if you're seeking diagnosis)

RDOS Aspergers quiz (the best one IMO)

AQ test

ADHD test

ADHD questionnaire for women

If any of those don't work, it's because I'm cooking the DDs' dinner and I'm shit at multitasking. What's that burning smell?

I think I've just been massively insensitive...
A colleague of mine is pregnant but off work waiting for a scan as she had a bleed. We work with children and I texted her at lunchtime to reassure her that we'd survived and so had the kids. In my defence, it's a standing joke that the day's not been too bad if we still have the same number of kids we started with. It wasn't until I was driving home that I processed what I'd put, the penny dropped and I realised how it would sound.
The question is, do I ignore it (as she has done, she replied but without mentioning what I'd put) or do I apologise when I next see her?

Thank you. I'll just keep my eye out on AIBU for a thread about insensitive comments in case I'm on it!

Polter's right, I think all ASCers can sympathise with you. Once I actively questioned a colleague I didn't know that well whether her twins were IVF or not and I cringe at the sheer amount of times I've made faux pas(ses?) in the past. I doubt that most NTers ever notice .

New area just in time for the end of this thread :) Who wants the honours of starting the new one - Polter? And is it worth splitting the ASD and ADHD components or would it be better to keep them together? Sometimes I feel like the differences are so vast that I'm sort of intruding, but other times there is overlap and it's nice. Plus there's that feeling of "I know there's something "not right" with me but I don't know what" which is nice to have on one thread rather than split.

Too many choices :o Maybe we could just have a Neurodiversity thread and then if people want to start separate ASD and ADHD or PDA or SPD threads they can?

Ah fair enough. I'll start it now then if you want. I was about to say I am waiting for my dinner to cook and then suddenly realised I have no idea what time I put it in There's an ADHD moment for you.

I, too, like that we are all in a thread together. Whilst I don't have a dx yet, I score high for both ASD and ADHD. There's a lot I relate to and it's so great to read other's experiences, thus feeling a little less alone! :)

Any later links which have been posted which are worth including in the OP? I'm going to remove the "coming soon" one which has never, ever come, and possibly merge the two ADDitude magazine ones since it has so many women-friendly articles now, if that's okay. I'll leave the ASD links because they look okay to me.

It's shiny! New thread