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Was anyone else at Snape Maltings today? Did Alan get his table?

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WonderfulSmith · 30/08/2025 22:31

Before I start I know it’s none of my business and I’m a bad person I’m sure but…

I was at Snape Maltings today which is a nice arts centre with a lovely shop selling all sorts of home wares and furniture. It’s very quiet and sedate.
Anyway, a woman started yelling at her husband. The whole place was pretending not to listen while giving each other looks. Turned out that he had ordered a perfectly innocent side table without talking to her about it first. She demanded that he cancel the order and he refused. He sat down on a sofa in the shop and she went and sat in the car. Every so often she’d come back and stick her head around the door, tell him the table was disgusting, and stomp back out.

When we left, Alan was still sat on the sofa. But I want to know how it ended. Are they still there now? Did Alan cancel the order?

Were any of you there?

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CountryMouse22 · 31/08/2025 17:38

Karistyleaftea · 30/08/2025 22:49

I hope someone lets you know the outcome.
Snape Maltings is rather lovely , fab Hepworth sculptures in the gardens I remember.

Apropos of nothing, I bought a nice pair of gold earrings at the Maltings eons ago!

AnnaQuayInTheUk · 31/08/2025 17:39

@CountryMouse22 I'm currently wearing a necklace and earrings I bought there a few years ago

FollowSpot · 31/08/2025 17:40

hotchocdrinker · 31/08/2025 15:20

Unfortunately I couldn’t speak to the staff as they were all busy. But, photo of green sofa and several coffee tables is attached if OP can identify the table in question?!

I like the green sofa.

I expect Alan will be back for it

WonderfulSmith · 31/08/2025 17:43

hotchocdrinker · 31/08/2025 16:47

So, update of sorts… the staff remember Alan and mrs well. There was a lot of shouting! The side table
itself is apparently not on the shop floor and I don’t know if Alan got the table or not, sorry!!

So neat and yet so far. Thank you for asking. If it’s not on the shop floor what was Alan pointing at? What did she think was so horrible?

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quantumbutterfly · 31/08/2025 17:52

SimpleSingleLife · 31/08/2025 17:22

You can definitely carry dogs round Snape Maltings smart shop. You just can’t put them down. I realised how heavy my 7kg dog was when I went to browse! I had to keep going outside to put her down and then steel myself to go back in to admire stuff.

You need a doggy bag.

LillyPJ · 31/08/2025 17:53

lotsofpatience · 31/08/2025 16:17

Is this the thread we make fun of someone being abused just because it's a man?
Good to know.

Edited

I think most people here are on Alan's side.

TalulaHalulah · 31/08/2025 17:58

WonderfulSmith · 31/08/2025 17:43

So neat and yet so far. Thank you for asking. If it’s not on the shop floor what was Alan pointing at? What did she think was so horrible?

I took it to mean that the table was no longer on the shop floor 🤷🏻‍♀️

FastMauveQuoter · 31/08/2025 18:14

friskybivalves · 31/08/2025 07:09

Snape Maltings was transformed in the 1960s by Benjamin Britten and the singer Peter Pears into a big concert hall (was previously an old malting house. House? Dunno. Place anyway…) and is where the Aldeburgh music festival is held every year.

#teamalan but I prefer the Olive lacquer if I’d had to stick anything in the boot.

My eldest son has played at that festival a few times. He was put up by one of the locals, a lovely slightly eccentric old lady. He could play in the orchestra for the live play performances.

Team Alan.

Ohnobackagain · 31/08/2025 18:20

Someone else might have bought the one you saw @WonderfulSmith

FortuneFaded · 31/08/2025 18:38

AuxArmesCitoyens · 31/08/2025 15:49

I want an Alan Bennett Talking Heads about this

Ask and you shall receive:

It were a Saturday, which is never a good day to go to Snape Maltings as it’s full of people who think they’re better than you just because they know what tapenade is. Still, it’s either that or garden centre, and I said to Marion, “Let’s make a day of it.” Which, in our house, is code for: “Let’s argue about things somewhere more picturesque.”
Anyway, we got to Snape, parked up, had a coffee that tasted faintly of damp cardboard and something called “single origin.” I didn’t ask what origin, I thought it might be something unpronounceable and I’d only embarrass myself.
Well, she went off to look at scarves. Marion’s got this thing with scarves - she thinks if she finds the right one, she’ll be the sort of important person who walks in important circles.
I hadn’t meant to buy the side table, not really. I’d just admired it; quietly, in the way you might admire a bishop’s handwriting or a well-behaved spaniel. And before I knew it, a young man in a waistcoat the colour of a fresh bruise had appeared and was asking whether I’d like it gift-wrapped or “left in the raw,” which made it sound like a soft cheese.
It was the sort of shop where the furniture is arranged less like stock and more like exhibits in a museum. Quiet music played - Chopin, I think, and the lighting was all very soft, like a dentist’s waiting room that had gone to finishing school. You weren't meant to raise your voice. Or breathe too hard. Not in Suffolk. Certainly not in Snape Maltings.
“Alan.”
I turned, receipt still warm in my hand.
“What have you done?” Marion, arms already folded, which is never a good sign, stood by a lamp shaped like a pineapple and was radiating fury.
“I just, I thought it would go nicely in the hallway.”
“You bought it? Without me? Without so much as a “Oh Alan, please, tell me you’re joking.”
“Lower your voice,” I whispered, attempting martial diplomacy.
“Oh no,” she said, lifting her chin in that way she does when something’s about to become a scene. “No. No, Alan, I will not lower my voice. You’ve just spent nearly two hundred pounds on a table that looks like it’s holding its a reel used in outdoor play at a nursery!”
“It’s a hand crafted table made by artisans in Jaipur,” I muttered.
“It’s a bloody eyesore! And where exactly were you planning to put it? Next to that hideous umbrella stand you brought home from your weekend in Ludlow?”
The assistant, who had clearly realised we were no longer the sort of couple who could be sold matching occasional chairs, began polishing the same corner of a sideboard over and over, his face set in a smile that said I am not here. I do not exist. I have never existed.
“It’s not like I bought a sofa, Marion!”
“No, you bought a table that costs more than your weekly pension!”
A woman near the cashmere throws audibly gasped. One of those gossamer-haired types with fingers like cocktail sticks and a handbag that looked like it hadn’t been touched by human hands since the Thatcher era.
I could feel the side eyes of tourists glancing at me whilst also intently studying the soy candles.
“I don’t understand,” I said, feebly, “why everything has to be a conference. It’s a side table.”
“No, Alan. It’s a betrayal. Inlaid with treachery. You know I have very strong feelings about side tables.”
“I thought you were just being silly.”
Well now look who’s being evicted from the spare room.
By this point, I was standing next to the table, the very table, which now seemed to be wilting in shame. If furniture could crawl away from its buyer, this one would have taken up jogging.
We bought it, of course. That is to say, I bought it, and Marion signed the receipt with a pen like it was a declaration of war.
It lives in the hallway now, next to the umbrella stand, where neither of us look it directly in the eye.

FishPie2 · 31/08/2025 18:45

I honestly hope Mrs Alan is a member of Mumsnet and is going to settle down with an after dinner sherry and come across this thread.

quantumbutterfly · 31/08/2025 18:50

FishPie2 · 31/08/2025 18:45

I honestly hope Mrs Alan is a member of Mumsnet and is going to settle down with an after dinner sherry and come across this thread.

Surely sherry is an apperitif for sophisticates that shop at Snape's, but if she reads this thread she might need the bottle & a straw. She can pop it on her new side table.

TheDogsMother · 31/08/2025 18:57

@FortuneFadedAbsolutely superb 👌

FeetLikeFlippers · 31/08/2025 18:59

WonderfulSmith · 30/08/2025 23:17

Good call. The problem is that not everything they sell is on the website. It might have been this one shop.snapemaltings.co.uk/collections/coffee-tables-side-tables-and-stools/products/yaxley-round-side-table

Well I wouldn’t be happy having that in my house but I suspect the incident wasn’t just about the table! Also, everyone saying “poor Alan” - yes his wife sounds like a nightmare but where are all the usual comments criticising him for putting up with it and not telling her to do one? If Alan was female and had posted this himself, I can guarantee that half the comments would be “well it’s your fault for letting your partner treat you like that”!

AtlanticStar · 31/08/2025 19:01

the80sweregreat · 31/08/2025 16:27

Atlantic star
Alan is the man who wanted to purchase the table at a place called snape maltings.

But the reference to Alan doesn't appear until the end of the thread. Before that he is only referred to as 'her husband'. At what point did you ascertain he was called 'Alan'? Did you hear her say his name? Further confusing me is that the woman is then referred to as Mrs Alan? Is Alan his surname? Does the wife call her husband by his surname, in which case were they both educated at private boarding schools? I totally get the situation, but not the random Alan at the end.

Boiledbeetle · 31/08/2025 19:04

AtlanticStar · 31/08/2025 19:01

But the reference to Alan doesn't appear until the end of the thread. Before that he is only referred to as 'her husband'. At what point did you ascertain he was called 'Alan'? Did you hear her say his name? Further confusing me is that the woman is then referred to as Mrs Alan? Is Alan his surname? Does the wife call her husband by his surname, in which case were they both educated at private boarding schools? I totally get the situation, but not the random Alan at the end.

Title of thread

Was anyone else at Snape Maltings today? Did Alan get his table?

Apologies that wasn't actually supposed to be in bigly letters!

AtlanticStar · 31/08/2025 19:05

Sorry @the80sweregreat for my response to your post. Just realised you are not the OP, @WonderfulSmith is, so I'm struggling with their name as well as Alan's 😂

Ireallycantthinkofagoodone · 31/08/2025 19:12

@FortuneFaded Superb, just superb 🙌

BeenOnAJury · 31/08/2025 19:19

@FortuneFaded you have made my evening. My weekend actually. If you don't write for a living, you should.

the80sweregreat · 31/08/2025 19:20

I called Alan’s wife Mrs Alan ! It could be wrong , they may not even be married .. I guess that having an ‘ older ‘ name like Alan means that I am assuming they are Mr and Mrs !! Wrong of me , she may have been a partner of his or a sister or aunt or anyone really !
I know a couple who have been together for 38 years and not married and gets annoyed when people assume they are!
Calling her ‘Mrs Alan ‘ was just my idea of a bit of joke , but it isn’t that funny really!

CrystalMighty · 31/08/2025 19:25

BeenOnAJury · 31/08/2025 19:19

@FortuneFaded you have made my evening. My weekend actually. If you don't write for a living, you should.

This!

WonderfulSmith · 31/08/2025 19:44

AtlanticStar · 31/08/2025 19:01

But the reference to Alan doesn't appear until the end of the thread. Before that he is only referred to as 'her husband'. At what point did you ascertain he was called 'Alan'? Did you hear her say his name? Further confusing me is that the woman is then referred to as Mrs Alan? Is Alan his surname? Does the wife call her husband by his surname, in which case were they both educated at private boarding schools? I totally get the situation, but not the random Alan at the end.

I referred to Alan staying in the shop on the sofa in the opening post, long before the end of his thread. I knew he was called Alan because the woman I assumed to be his wife/partner called him Alan. I didn’t report everything she said verbatim as I don’t remember it all and it’s not important.
And calling her ‘Mrs Alan’ is just a shorthand way of saying Alan’s wife.

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blizymitzy · 31/08/2025 19:45

@FortuneFaded do you write novels about a lovely Scottish island and its weight loss gang?
your writing style is very familiar.
if so I love you and your books .
if not completely ignore me and enjoy your Sunday evening 😊

FortuneFaded · 31/08/2025 19:49

blizymitzy · 31/08/2025 19:45

@FortuneFaded do you write novels about a lovely Scottish island and its weight loss gang?
your writing style is very familiar.
if so I love you and your books .
if not completely ignore me and enjoy your Sunday evening 😊

Thank you. Not guilty. I do write professionally though.

2Magpies24 · 31/08/2025 20:07

Was it Sir Alan?