Bill splitter karma

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I wanted to share this as often read stories on here of people getting stung by people insisting on splitting the bill when they’ve gone all out on cocktails and steak.

I went out with work tonight, and don’t go often. I was driving so no drink but did have a starter, main, and dessert.

There is a person who works for the company but not on my team who often hears about meals out and adds himself on. No one ever stops him. He does get on with some of the men on my team so all good, but he does go for the steak, wine, sides etc and insists on splitting and folks are too scared to challenge him for some reason. Now as he’s not on my team he’s not on my team WhatsApp group so I put it out there on the chat I wouldn’t be splitting, just paying for my own. A few added that they’d much prefer to do that (and a few of the newer staff are on a lower wage). No one updated the other man (why would they?) so out we went, all ordered. Some preferred one course with water, others the same as me. Some shared wine. He ordered- (I made a note as it was crazy)
bread and oil
A starter
bottle of Rioja
main (steak and chicken)
two sides
dessert
2 pints.
Now, I’m all for going for it, fill your boots, but pay for it.
The bill came, he said “usual is it?”, I said what do you mean, he said well spilt like always. I took so much delight in telling him that we had all decided to pay for our own, times are hard and we have junior members etc. Oh the face, the face!! He said he would never have ordered what he did if he knew we weren’t splitting and I took great delight in saying “you wouldn’t have ordered what you did if you knew you’d have to pay for it all yourself? Didn’t you see some had one meal and a glass of water?”
As we paid the bill I also made sure that they took our payments before his so he couldn’t wangle. He was so red, he paid and left without saying a word.

I can’t believe the cheek of some people.
hope it will make him think twice. I understand friends splitting bills but why would he assume colleagues from other teams would want to pay for his dinner.

I wanted to share the little win. When I was a junior I wouldn’t have stood up to him either, but menopause does things to a woman.

@MiniCooperLover i like it, thank you

I’d go the confused route. “This is an odd message. I don’t understand how you were put on the spot! We went out for a team meal and you chose to tag along which is great, but we were all paying for our own meals. I’m not sure where the problem is? Did you think people ordering a single course and water should pay for your multiple dishes?”

Oh my he is a right prick. I'd be tempted to put something in about his comment that he wouldn't have ordered what he did if he knew he had to pay for it. Let him screw himself over more

"I won't be doing that again"....Yes that's exactly what we thought after the last bill was split.

Eww what a cheeky and tight cry baby! He is pure ick.

Just say 'im sorry you feel that's the case. It was posted that everyone pay for themselves from now on as it can be financially unfair on others. Take care '.

If he comes back with more shit just ignore it

I'm only up to page three but I'm curious as to know where he is on the pay scale. I can hazard a guess...

Just give his message a thumbs up and leave it at that. He'll be seething 🤣

“I’m sorry, I don’t understand?”

He’s just making a fool of himself, hope he had indigestion all night.

I would reply ' it was a lovely meal and glad you were able to join us. Regarding being 'put on the spot', you understand that is what you tried to do with the whole team, by suggesting an equal split as the bill was being brought over? You are correct, it is not ok to be put on the spot, which is why we discussed beforehand that people would be paying their own way'

Ignore his message and let him twist out worrying about whether he’s said too much and embarrassed himself a second (third) time over. You’ve made your point perfectly already- nothing more to add!

Make him spell it out!

"You won't be doing what again?" And see what his response is. It's unclear if he means joining team dinners that he's not invited to, or expecting others to subsidise his meal. I'd want to see if he acknowledges he's a CF.

Go Girl.

@BirthdayRainbow we are local government so none of us on mega bucks, but I think he’s on about £55, which is a lot more than £25 which is what the junior staff are on!

'I'm sorry that you feel that way, but that certainly wasn't the intention. As I said last night, as a team we had decided in advance that everyone would pay for themselves. The reason being that some members of the team only wanted to order one course, and it is unfair that they would then be subsidising others that choose to have more. It is fairest that everyone pays for their own, and that is what will be happening going forward. As always, you will be welcome to attend.'

Wow, he sounds like an entitled glutton and a complete CF to question it, but a main and a glass of water sounds pretty miserable! Does no-one eat normally?!

Well done, OP!

Won't be doing what again?

Inviting himself along to other team's meals?

Eating more than he is prepare to pay for?

Shame you can't just reply with a thumbs up!

"Ok"?

"Thanks for the heads up/info"?

Eta. Or just ignore.

I'm overly invested in this thread😂

Can't believe he had to audacity to message you and call you out on him having to pay for his own food!

I would definitely do this.

A main meal and a glass of water is what I eat most nights. Whats not 'normal' about it?

I would be telling the fucker straight.
"You ordered 83 quids worth of food, knowing that less senior colleagues earning about half your salary are ordering in line with their own tight budget, and yet you, you tightarsed bastard think it appropriate for these colleagues to subsidise your greed?
I'm glad you won't be doing it again as you will not be invited to join us again you tightarsed greedy freeloading bastard"

As it's a work platform I'd reply along the lines of

'I'm sorry if you felt put on the spot by being asked to pay for what you ordered. As I'm sure you'll appreciate lots of people are having to be careful with money so the team had agreed beforehand to just each pay their own bill. That way someone who only budgeted for a main course and water would not have to pay for other people to have starters, side dishes and alcohol.'

Very factual and does not specify that HE was the tightwad, but gets the point across. And would not cause you any problems if it was shared with HR.