Bill splitter karma

[Payforyourowndinner]

I wanted to share this as often read stories on here of people getting stung by people insisting on splitting the bill when they’ve gone all out on cocktails and steak.

I went out with work tonight, and don’t go often. I was driving so no drink but did have a starter, main, and dessert.

There is a person who works for the company but not on my team who often hears about meals out and adds himself on. No one ever stops him. He does get on with some of the men on my team so all good, but he does go for the steak, wine, sides etc and insists on splitting and folks are too scared to challenge him for some reason. Now as he’s not on my team he’s not on my team WhatsApp group so I put it out there on the chat I wouldn’t be splitting, just paying for my own. A few added that they’d much prefer to do that (and a few of the newer staff are on a lower wage). No one updated the other man (why would they?) so out we went, all ordered. Some preferred one course with water, others the same as me. Some shared wine. He ordered- (I made a note as it was crazy)
bread and oil
A starter
bottle of Rioja
main (steak and chicken)
two sides
dessert
2 pints.
Now, I’m all for going for it, fill your boots, but pay for it.
The bill came, he said “usual is it?”, I said what do you mean, he said well spilt like always. I took so much delight in telling him that we had all decided to pay for our own, times are hard and we have junior members etc. Oh the face, the face!! He said he would never have ordered what he did if he knew we weren’t splitting and I took great delight in saying “you wouldn’t have ordered what you did if you knew you’d have to pay for it all yourself? Didn’t you see some had one meal and a glass of water?”
As we paid the bill I also made sure that they took our payments before his so he couldn’t wangle. He was so red, he paid and left without saying a word.

I can’t believe the cheek of some people.
hope it will make him think twice. I understand friends splitting bills but why would he assume colleagues from other teams would want to pay for his dinner.

I wanted to share the little win. When I was a junior I wouldn’t have stood up to him either, but menopause does things to a woman.

No he's not a twerp. He's a free-loading cunt preying on junior staff afraid to speak up.

I love this! What a satisfying comeuppance 😌

Is his name Dave? 😀

There have been a number of studies that show that when people know or expect they are going to split the bill they order more and/or more expensive than if they were doing the ordering in a non-split situation. Obviously this cf did it knowingly but many do it unknowingly or in the expectation that others will do they may as well too (so splitting the bill creates an upward spiral).

OP you are legend and you have given me a chuckle today! I can't stand it when people load up and then offer to 'split it shall we?'

What I find most amusing/shocking is that he fully admitted to hoping to freeload on other people!!!

At least try and have a bit of class and look sheepish. The outright hope for beers, wine and nosh on others and saying he was fully expecting that, is like slap in the face! Why should others pay for him.

I do believe in karma :)

100% everyone in your office agrees with you. There is nothing he can say to anyone without making himself look even more ridiculous.

Goid glad you showed him up. My friend 's daughter worked in a clothes shop. Lots of kids on under 21 min wage. Only did a few hours. All went to wetherspoons type pub where they take the order at table a few times and big boss ordered more expensive stuff and drinks whilst kids had 5.99 burger as it was then and the drink. He insisted split the bill. Some more senior staff had wine etc. Once she paid 16.00. A few tried to say but he literally wldnt have it. Friend was so peed and told her daughter to leave the job earlier than planned as was off to Uni. Friend went in shop to have it out with boss. On that day area manager was in and heard what happened. He looked a right dick. Apparently he gave the current staff money back. They never went out again with him!

It’s the lack of sense of fairness that’s astounding.

i was grateful to a colleague on a work meal as she pointed out I only had a cheap main and no drink when others said to split the bill.

Pmsl!

You only made him look tight because he is tight. I wonder if it hasn't crossed his mind that he is actually tight? If so, he's deluded.

No he doesn’t manage anyone. He’s not a people person
No, really?

😂😂😂

OP- Does tightwad have a partner, group share, mother he lives with that might read this???

'Hey tightwad, look at this brilliant post about this CF'!

'Hang on tightwad, didn't you go out with work last week'? 🤔

What an absolute arsehole.

There will always be 50% of the group who end up subsidising others when you split, so I’m all for bill splitting and hate that it’s looked down upon as stingy. I’m so glad splitting prevailed here!

And yet, I'm sure if you'd said "Oh - this means I'm paying £40 and I've only had £20 worth of food - tell you what! The 9 of you split the cost of my meal between you and pay for my dinner - it'll be an extra £2 each (I'll put in the spare £2 and another £2 towards the tip, so we don't have to worry about Hard Sums) and that'll be fairer than me paying twice the price, won't it?" - they would have gone crackers!

Wouldn't it be so very tempting in the future, on the occasion of either yours or his parting company with your mutual employer, to email him a link to this thread. 🤔

Thumbs up reply or at most ‘nothing unfair about paying what you consumed’.

Anything in-depth cf could pick holes in, at a push cf could say he did not agree, precedent set before etc All unreasonable but do not give him the chance to go there.

What would be funny too is if he came out again based on the pay your own, he orders a small starter and some water and then you all agree to split the bill, so he subsidises all the other wine and steak.

How very magnanimous of him! Let that be a lesson to you dinner.I hope you are suitably chastened. 😂

I think it's pretty obvious that he has been mouthing off about going to HR, getting you warned etc, and some kind soul, rather than let him make a complete and utter organisation-wide arse of himself, has pointed out the errors in his reasoning.

He is now trying to make a virtue out of necessity, and cover his embarrassment, hoping that not too many other people have realised what a twat he is.

Nothing gives me more joy than a CF getting their just deserts (or just desserts in this greedy pig's case). Well done!

No he doesn’t manage anyone. He’s not a people person
😂😂😂

Not content with one foot in his mouth he's gone and crammed another in.
His layers of twattish-ness knows no end. 🤣🤣

Nah!

Do't rub his nose in it. He's going to be looking for a chance for revenge if OP does that.

I'd let it go - least said etc

This is amazing, the bloody cheek of him to even say out loud he wouldn’t have ordered it if you weren’t splitting the bill 😡 I don’t know how people can be so brazen.

He’s not a people person

Quelle surprise . . . 🙄

If he's the one who leaves @Payforyourowndinner could also print out the link and paste it in his "Thank Christ you're going" card

This is what I fear too.

My sister always claims she has dyscalculia.

I’m not sure if she really does and I know other people who can’t seem to compute money at all so it might be true.

I genuinely wonder if this guy has misunderstood how these things work.

I have some quite frustrating conversations with my sister because she just doesn’t understand money.

Having said that, she does manage to function in the real world - that I know of.

But it interesting that this has come up now, because I have noticed that she relies on me completely to work out an accurate split of anything we do together.

I think there is a possibility that this guy genuinely doesn’t understand what’s happened. It would be handy if the people who are friends with him could actually sit down and explain it.

If he really thinks that he has subsidised other peoples food in the past and then been forced to pay a full bill this time, then that’s potentially complicated for everybody who works with him.

ever read Snakes in Suits - Psychopaths At Work? Sadly many scenarios in there were things I’ve seen.

I’d be interested to know what his workplace friend said to him.

Sadly, so many people are so awful, I wouldn’t be surprised if he sympathised with him, and then rang you to laugh at him.

Bottom line you may be dealing with a toxic combination of someone who doesn’t understand money, thinking that they’ve been wronged.

The better case scenario is that he is simply embarrassed.

I think I understand now why I was so bothered by him openly making that comment about if he’d known you weren’t splitting the bill.

It means that in his brain, everything he has done is correct. That’s why he was willing to say it out loud.