Bill splitter karma

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I wanted to share this as often read stories on here of people getting stung by people insisting on splitting the bill when they’ve gone all out on cocktails and steak.

I went out with work tonight, and don’t go often. I was driving so no drink but did have a starter, main, and dessert.

There is a person who works for the company but not on my team who often hears about meals out and adds himself on. No one ever stops him. He does get on with some of the men on my team so all good, but he does go for the steak, wine, sides etc and insists on splitting and folks are too scared to challenge him for some reason. Now as he’s not on my team he’s not on my team WhatsApp group so I put it out there on the chat I wouldn’t be splitting, just paying for my own. A few added that they’d much prefer to do that (and a few of the newer staff are on a lower wage). No one updated the other man (why would they?) so out we went, all ordered. Some preferred one course with water, others the same as me. Some shared wine. He ordered- (I made a note as it was crazy)
bread and oil
A starter
bottle of Rioja
main (steak and chicken)
two sides
dessert
2 pints.
Now, I’m all for going for it, fill your boots, but pay for it.
The bill came, he said “usual is it?”, I said what do you mean, he said well spilt like always. I took so much delight in telling him that we had all decided to pay for our own, times are hard and we have junior members etc. Oh the face, the face!! He said he would never have ordered what he did if he knew we weren’t splitting and I took great delight in saying “you wouldn’t have ordered what you did if you knew you’d have to pay for it all yourself? Didn’t you see some had one meal and a glass of water?”
As we paid the bill I also made sure that they took our payments before his so he couldn’t wangle. He was so red, he paid and left without saying a word.

I can’t believe the cheek of some people.
hope it will make him think twice. I understand friends splitting bills but why would he assume colleagues from other teams would want to pay for his dinner.

I wanted to share the little win. When I was a junior I wouldn’t have stood up to him either, but menopause does things to a woman.

I love a bit of karma. We usually just pay for what we had. Some people are CF's I don't think he'll be gate crashing your meals out again.🤣🤣🤣

he's been caught and he is annoyed that it was so public.

Well done OP. I bet the rest of the team really appreciated you calling him out. What a cheek to have had. 👌👏👏👏👏👏

I feel it's bullying to do it on a work platform as he clearly wants to go down the bullying route.

Brilliant! I much prefer to pay for my own because I like to have a drink or 4 and sometimes choose expensive food, and would prefer to have the freedom to do that rather than feeling guilty that others are subsidising me.

I do love it when an absolute bell end outs himself AND gets his commupence! I think you can safely say he won't be coming again! His behaviour is taking the CFery to the next level!!! I wouldn't have been able to pay my small bill for being doubled over laughing!!! 🤣🤣🤣 Well played OP! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

I am so overinvested 😂

But a PP comment has made me wonder.... is it possible that he is that dense around money?

I now vaguely remember having conversations with people in my 20s where they would say something like, "but it's only a £3 difference. It will cancel out another time".

And then I actually explained the bill to them and they discovered that it's more like an £20 difference, they genuinely would take that on board and say sorry.

My best friend is also a heavy drinker and she ended up taking the lead in group meals saying that they needed to be separate bills. (We met at work). I have just remembered a few times where she went over the bill with individual people explaining why an equal split wasn't fair and it wasn't just a couple of quid. Some of them were genuinely angry till she explained in full (and I don't know how she had the patience).

Relevance being if he's not very bright, is it possible that he genuinely thinks he's been treated badly?

Knowing what I know of him, I just think he wanted others to pay for his massive dinner @EmmaEmerald
Still no response and not expecting anything now. My phone battery has almost died from checking and making updates!

I'd say "No you won't, because you won't be coming again and having most of your meal paid for by others on lower wages than you!"
He's got some bloody front that one!!!

I agree.

He was definitely angry from OP's description and this e-mail.

I guarantee he’ll end up playing the victim and telling others he is being bullied at work.

He has no morals and is happy taking from others. He is greedy and selfish but will never see what he has done as wrong.

Well done OP. You’ve stood up for us little people.

@Anewuser i still see myself as one of the little people, but I just refuse to be taken advantage of now. I’m definitely a lower earner than him !

I do wonder with people like this - what is the story that they tell themselves that justifies this behaviour? Because I genuinely do try to see the other person's point of view on things, and in this case I really can't construct a story where he's the victim.

Good on you OP! I'll bet you're a hero to the people in your team now.

Brilliant op, I salute you.

And I also offer to hold your coat in the carpark for you!

Absolutely excellent, OP. Well done. Hope he has learned some sort of lesson.

I’m all for splitting the bill for ease, if everyone has had roughly the same, but he’s just taking the piss!

I have enjoyed this thread. It is nice to hear about an instance of a freeloader getting their comeuppance when so many get away with it.

This thread is fantastic 🙌🏻

Reminds me of when my BIL and SIL used to come for meals with us when we were newly married, fresh out of uni and skint. They had three boys (let’s say 12,10 and 6) and would expect us to split between couples. We were too naive to say no and would end up subsidising 2 x adult meals, 1 x children’s meal, 3-6 soft drinks and x3 desserts. We still talk about it now!

In contrast, our own boys now are 8 and 11 and anytime we eat out and bill splitting is suggested, myself or my husband checks the bill, deducts our children’s costs, splits the adult portions and pays the extra on top. Similar happens if we know we’ve ordered extra drinks or dessert etc!

I think some people genuinely and unashamedly view getting any kind of bargain as a good thing, even if it involves ripping someone off or taking advantage. I doubt they'd see this behaviour as any different from scoring something good in a sale. You can see many tales of them on those "stingy people experiences" threads, and I wish one would come on and explain their mindset!

Well done OP! I bet your colleagues went home and gleefully told their families about him getting his comeuppance.

Good on you OP! I can't believe he actually admitted he expected others to subsidise him.

Very pleasing!

Perfect in every way OP 👌

Well done you Op!😁

Update- he hasn’t replied to me but one of the men on the team just got off a teams call with him. He rang me straight away and told me (whilst laughing) “he said you made him look tight”😂

The poor man eh!