Bill splitter karma

[Payforyourowndinner]

I wanted to share this as often read stories on here of people getting stung by people insisting on splitting the bill when they’ve gone all out on cocktails and steak.

I went out with work tonight, and don’t go often. I was driving so no drink but did have a starter, main, and dessert.

There is a person who works for the company but not on my team who often hears about meals out and adds himself on. No one ever stops him. He does get on with some of the men on my team so all good, but he does go for the steak, wine, sides etc and insists on splitting and folks are too scared to challenge him for some reason. Now as he’s not on my team he’s not on my team WhatsApp group so I put it out there on the chat I wouldn’t be splitting, just paying for my own. A few added that they’d much prefer to do that (and a few of the newer staff are on a lower wage). No one updated the other man (why would they?) so out we went, all ordered. Some preferred one course with water, others the same as me. Some shared wine. He ordered- (I made a note as it was crazy)
bread and oil
A starter
bottle of Rioja
main (steak and chicken)
two sides
dessert
2 pints.
Now, I’m all for going for it, fill your boots, but pay for it.
The bill came, he said “usual is it?”, I said what do you mean, he said well spilt like always. I took so much delight in telling him that we had all decided to pay for our own, times are hard and we have junior members etc. Oh the face, the face!! He said he would never have ordered what he did if he knew we weren’t splitting and I took great delight in saying “you wouldn’t have ordered what you did if you knew you’d have to pay for it all yourself? Didn’t you see some had one meal and a glass of water?”
As we paid the bill I also made sure that they took our payments before his so he couldn’t wangle. He was so red, he paid and left without saying a word.

I can’t believe the cheek of some people.
hope it will make him think twice. I understand friends splitting bills but why would he assume colleagues from other teams would want to pay for his dinner.

I wanted to share the little win. When I was a junior I wouldn’t have stood up to him either, but menopause does things to a woman.

Did his mate not tell him that’s because he bloody is!

He made himself look bloody tight!

Ahaha, he really doesn't get it, does he.

One real positive from this is that it seems to have been a good bonding experience for your team.

“he said you made him look tight”😂

That would be because he is... Fuck him.

BTW OP I am loving this thread. Great to see a CF getting shown up for what he is. Hopefully this means that he will back away from your department outings.

How do twats like him with the self-awareness of a blue arsed fly get a £50k job?! How!? Please somebody let me in on this secret.

Bless. He means he made himself look tight.

"he said you made him look tight"

Nope, he did that all by himself.

Haha I’m still laughing. Whatever anyone says he’s obviously the victim in all this. He was looking for a huge meal and drink for £45, didn’t get it and now the world is against him.
I did ask my work mate, wasn’t it obvious that if people ordered one course and water or pop then they didn’t want to split and he said “well he doesn’t think like that”. I just said good luck when you next go out with him” and then we had a work chat.

Dear Tightarse, can you pay for what you personally consumed?
Waaahhh no, I want other people to pay for what I ate! How dare you make me look tight!

I'm thinking for team bonding events, sack off the raft building, or constructing a tower out of raw spaghetti, string and marshmallows (yes, I have had to do this) and just have dinner with an external imported cheeky fucker.

made him "look" tight? Hahahaha.

Be a bit careful here OP. He is clearly unhappy and is going to try and punish you. So far, it sounds like everyone is on your side, but this can turn. I'd try to draw a line under it now and walk away. On some level he knew exactly what he has been doing and I would be concerned he'll be like an injured, cornered wild animal and will lash out.

Well, he's always looked tight, just this time he wasn't ripping off people who earns a lot less than he does while he does it.

Ask him to explain how he 'looks tight' when paying £83 for £83 worth of food and drink, but he'd have no such concerns if the evening had gone along with his plan to pay (say) £40 for his £83 worth?

Such a satisfying read! Well done OP! Can't stand a tight arse! 👏

@GingerIsBest yes I won’t be doing or saying anything else to anyone in work about it. Over as far as I’m concerned !!

I’ve loved this whole thread - thanks @Payforyourowndinner well done standing up for your team - you’re a good boss 👌😍

just out of curiosity, when people go out together, and want to pay for their own orders, how does it work out practically, should the waiter/tress be told before ordering the food, or when they bring the whole bill, should each then calculate their share from the menu card and ask for separate itemised bill? what about the tip? i have always done the split bill, but going on from this thread, would prefer to pay for my own but don't know how to ask for it without o🙀offending the table

I'm glad you spoke out OP.

I've never understood why a CF trying to get friends, colleagues etc to split bills are not confronted on the spot. I've only had a couple of incidents with arseholes of this kind (one a man, one a woman). We knew the moment they were ordering that they were way outside our budget and were told. No Facebook, no previous conversation about splitting a bill. It was so obvious, we had to say something and we did. You pay for your own food.

I've never understood why it's so difficult to tell off someone trying to take advantage of a group, specially with juniors in it.

Well done.

When we go out- we each go through the bill at the end and tot up our own total.
Then either cash on the table, or individual card payments.
We each add a bit for the tip.

People normally tot up what they owe and at a bit for tip ...

This works well if a close group of friends who trust each other ... however sometimes things can come unstuck if there is a tight wad in group who "forgets" to add up properly or add on a top ...and it ends up short

However i now only hang around with people who aren't like that and we normally end up overpaying on the tip as we all round up when toting up what we had!

Seconded.

Its so funny that he thinks there should be repercussions and is complaining about being "put on the spot" ie called out on his behaviour expecting younger team members on lower pay to subsidise him.

He made this more public by complaining about you on teams.

I love that one of your junior team brought you a hot chocolate

I bet everyone will be more careful in future.

This comment makes me more cross than his actual entitlement to people paying his way.

He's accusing you of something. He, the one entirely in the wrong. And what is he accusing you of? Damaging his reputation.

His complaint isn't "I should have been told the maths before hand, you should have given me fair notice the rules of engagement are changing". No, his gripe is that you pricked his ego. Because he obviously cares what the people he was with - the very ones he expected to pay his bill for him - think of him. And, the fact he cares what those people think of him, when he thinks so little of them, tells you all you need to know about this puffed up piece of manhood.

That makes is 100% a man versus woman thing in my book. If he had the brains, he'd probably be thinking you lacked grace in the way you handled this....because that's what women should be towards him. Gracious. Ego-stroking. Instead, you held him to a totally fair standard and in so doing hurt his feelings.

Leaves a bitter taste in your mouth (probably not as bitter as last night's feast repeating on him today).

This. Wise words.

Well done op.

However if we all had similar amounts we do split. Or we split the drinks / food separately if there are some people drinking and others not

Blame a woman eh?