Bill splitter karma

[Payforyourowndinner]

I wanted to share this as often read stories on here of people getting stung by people insisting on splitting the bill when they’ve gone all out on cocktails and steak.

I went out with work tonight, and don’t go often. I was driving so no drink but did have a starter, main, and dessert.

There is a person who works for the company but not on my team who often hears about meals out and adds himself on. No one ever stops him. He does get on with some of the men on my team so all good, but he does go for the steak, wine, sides etc and insists on splitting and folks are too scared to challenge him for some reason. Now as he’s not on my team he’s not on my team WhatsApp group so I put it out there on the chat I wouldn’t be splitting, just paying for my own. A few added that they’d much prefer to do that (and a few of the newer staff are on a lower wage). No one updated the other man (why would they?) so out we went, all ordered. Some preferred one course with water, others the same as me. Some shared wine. He ordered- (I made a note as it was crazy)
bread and oil
A starter
bottle of Rioja
main (steak and chicken)
two sides
dessert
2 pints.
Now, I’m all for going for it, fill your boots, but pay for it.
The bill came, he said “usual is it?”, I said what do you mean, he said well spilt like always. I took so much delight in telling him that we had all decided to pay for our own, times are hard and we have junior members etc. Oh the face, the face!! He said he would never have ordered what he did if he knew we weren’t splitting and I took great delight in saying “you wouldn’t have ordered what you did if you knew you’d have to pay for it all yourself? Didn’t you see some had one meal and a glass of water?”
As we paid the bill I also made sure that they took our payments before his so he couldn’t wangle. He was so red, he paid and left without saying a word.

I can’t believe the cheek of some people.
hope it will make him think twice. I understand friends splitting bills but why would he assume colleagues from other teams would want to pay for his dinner.

I wanted to share the little win. When I was a junior I wouldn’t have stood up to him either, but menopause does things to a woman.

Good response @Payforyourowndinner

Top class response op.

Bloody good for you OP! Much as I’d want to watch him dig a deeper hole for himself, I think the most irritating thing you can do (from his pov) is just not respond at all.

@Payforyourowndinner looking forward to his response!

He won’t be doing what again? Paying for his own dinner?

I think that should read:

"One family stole the TIP to pay for their meal."

So the person who did that was a thief who stole the tip left for serving staff. 🌹

Great response.

It's noticeable he's happy to put people on the spot to pay for his meal.

I won’t be doing that again”

Respond: Great! Ony fair that everybody pays for their own food, glad you agree and we got it sorted out!

Whatever he says next, and i suspect he won't say anything after your excellent response, don't engage with him any more. Even if he goes after it like a dog with a bone that someone else bought from the butcher.

Sorry that happened

I will never ever understand how people do the mental gymnastics to get to this point. I swear they must be wired wrongly or how could they talk themselves into that level of entitlement and cheeky fuckery!

Thanks @Spywoman one family stole the tip and used it to pay for their meal. Really put me off them.

@Merryoldgoat you hen do sounds perfect. I had a night out with male and female friends. I paid for the first round of drinks.

“I won’t be doing that again”
”You’re still invited next time!”

Fabulous response, I wonder if TW will reply to that at all! 😂

This must be made up OP - nobody is that cheeky

Well done on putting him in his place.

This thread should go into classics so we can find it again to link to for any MNer who thinks people are being mean and tiresome when they won't split bills and want to pay for their own.

I feel invested now lol

true cheeky fucker - when you stop them or call them out, they have a tantrum.

Brilliant work @Payforyourowndinner the messaging before was inspired.
Tw's message is so wonderfully passive aggressive, I didn't appreciate really means he's bloody angry, how dare you not pay his bill. I think some senior men see this as an ego boost, all my underlings paying for my huge dinner and too afraid to say anything, you've really pissed him off now. Be careful Op, Tw may hold a grudge.

This

Christ, this cheeky fucker should stop while he's behind. But why do I get the feeling he won't. I really, really hope he's stupid enough to take it to HR. Please.

I can't believe he's doubling down

Well done OP 👏👏👏👏

Wow. The entitlement of some people is astounding!

Has he responded?

What an absolute git.

@enchantedsquirrelwood it happened. I watched it unfold. And from all my years experience there are plenty of cheeky fuckers, most of them have money. Bloody tightwads

Hes been away on teams for 30 mins, so not read yet, but I’m either expecting no response, or a massive response.

He didn't appreciate being told to pay for what he ate and drank?!!! My eyes are rolling so hard right now. He's a free loader and was put in his place. Well done you. Your team must be feeling great, not subsidising a grown man on double their salary.