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Payforyourowndinner · 02/04/2024 23:25

I wanted to share this as often read stories on here of people getting stung by people insisting on splitting the bill when they’ve gone all out on cocktails and steak.

I went out with work tonight, and don’t go often. I was driving so no drink but did have a starter, main, and dessert.

There is a person who works for the company but not on my team who often hears about meals out and adds himself on. No one ever stops him. He does get on with some of the men on my team so all good, but he does go for the steak, wine, sides etc and insists on splitting and folks are too scared to challenge him for some reason. Now as he’s not on my team he’s not on my team WhatsApp group so I put it out there on the chat I wouldn’t be splitting, just paying for my own. A few added that they’d much prefer to do that (and a few of the newer staff are on a lower wage). No one updated the other man (why would they?) so out we went, all ordered. Some preferred one course with water, others the same as me. Some shared wine. He ordered- (I made a note as it was crazy)
bread and oil
A starter
bottle of Rioja
main (steak and chicken)
two sides
dessert
2 pints.
Now, I’m all for going for it, fill your boots, but pay for it.
The bill came, he said “usual is it?”, I said what do you mean, he said well spilt like always. I took so much delight in telling him that we had all decided to pay for our own, times are hard and we have junior members etc. Oh the face, the face!! He said he would never have ordered what he did if he knew we weren’t splitting and I took great delight in saying “you wouldn’t have ordered what you did if you knew you’d have to pay for it all yourself? Didn’t you see some had one meal and a glass of water?”
As we paid the bill I also made sure that they took our payments before his so he couldn’t wangle. He was so red, he paid and left without saying a word.

I can’t believe the cheek of some people.
hope it will make him think twice. I understand friends splitting bills but why would he assume colleagues from other teams would want to pay for his dinner.

I wanted to share the little win. When I was a junior I wouldn’t have stood up to him either, but menopause does things to a woman.

OP posts:
devildeepbluesea · 03/04/2024 12:23

This thread is the best thing I’ve read in years. Great response OP - I’m hanging on your every post!

murasaki · 03/04/2024 12:23

I also bet he didn't know that the OP was in a meeting, so the delay in replying to him has wound him up further.

Hahaha.

Mugcake · 03/04/2024 12:24

Omg this is amazing! Well done calling him out, total CF! Can't believe he had the gall to message you afterwards too 😳 was he expecting you to apologise!?

Whatifthehokeycokey · 03/04/2024 12:25

I would be fascinated to know what narrative CF is spinning in his own head about this.

RachelGreeneGreep · 03/04/2024 12:25

enchantedsquirrelwood · 03/04/2024 12:15

This must be made up OP - nobody is that cheeky Grin

Well done on putting him in his place.

This thread should go into classics so we can find it again to link to for any MNer who thinks people are being mean and tiresome when they won't split bills and want to pay for their own.

I believe there are people around who are that entitled alright. Read a similar thread on a different forum some time ago. Groups of staff going out on Friday nights, bill split evenly. Until someone who didn't usually go, got wind of the fact that the less well paid staff were subsidising two people in particular on these nights out.

She went along and when the bill arrived, she grabbed it and allocated everyone their own bill, based on what they had actually had to eat and drink. The two were shocked at having to pay for their own expensive meals, cocktails and the rest. Big change of tune after that.

evtheria · 03/04/2024 12:26

This was a satisfying read. 😁

Toooldforthis36 · 03/04/2024 12:27

WarshipRocinante · 03/04/2024 09:48

I’d go the confused route. “This is an odd message. I don’t understand how you were put on the spot! We went out for a team meal and you chose to tag along which is great, but we were all paying for our own meals. I’m not sure where the problem is? Did you think people ordering a single course and water should pay for your multiple dishes?”

Absolutely this.

Tattletwat · 03/04/2024 12:27

Payforyourowndinner · 03/04/2024 08:44

One of my team who was there last night has smiled, said morning, and then “tightwad (not his real name) is working from home today, he can’t afford the commute in”, then laughed and walked off. Made me chuckle. He is his mate as well, but not as tight, clearly. It’s quiet so far but should fill up after 9

Don't assume most of the blokes you say get on with him do. They are just being polite and this he is a arse too.

I don't know why people let him add on in past and pay for him madness.

Whatifthehokeycokey · 03/04/2024 12:27

People definitely are that cheeky. Went on a big group holiday to Spain in my 20s and someone was consistently not paying the bill. We always came up short. We suspected who it was but really difficult to catch them. Had to all go round and pointedly make everyone pay, and then of course they stopped doing it so we never knew who it was.

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Payforyourowndinner · 03/04/2024 12:28

He’s back in green, but not read my message. Bet he’s muted me in a rage

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Strictlymad · 03/04/2024 12:29

I’ve no issue with bill splitting if all agree prior, all are of similar financial status and there isn’t huge discrepancy in the value consumed.

unfortunstely I have family with form for this. We were broke and ended up paying for them when we had had a wrap and chips! And it’s amazing how some gp crazy when it’s someone else paying, yet when their turn comes round all of a sudden they drink water…. It’s really quite unpleasant

Zonder · 03/04/2024 12:29

Sorry @Payforyourowndinner if I missed this but was he in the teams meeting this morning when people were discussing the idea of splitting? I hope so!

Mydietstartstomorrow · 03/04/2024 12:30

Payforyourowndinner · 02/04/2024 23:25

I wanted to share this as often read stories on here of people getting stung by people insisting on splitting the bill when they’ve gone all out on cocktails and steak.

I went out with work tonight, and don’t go often. I was driving so no drink but did have a starter, main, and dessert.

There is a person who works for the company but not on my team who often hears about meals out and adds himself on. No one ever stops him. He does get on with some of the men on my team so all good, but he does go for the steak, wine, sides etc and insists on splitting and folks are too scared to challenge him for some reason. Now as he’s not on my team he’s not on my team WhatsApp group so I put it out there on the chat I wouldn’t be splitting, just paying for my own. A few added that they’d much prefer to do that (and a few of the newer staff are on a lower wage). No one updated the other man (why would they?) so out we went, all ordered. Some preferred one course with water, others the same as me. Some shared wine. He ordered- (I made a note as it was crazy)
bread and oil
A starter
bottle of Rioja
main (steak and chicken)
two sides
dessert
2 pints.
Now, I’m all for going for it, fill your boots, but pay for it.
The bill came, he said “usual is it?”, I said what do you mean, he said well spilt like always. I took so much delight in telling him that we had all decided to pay for our own, times are hard and we have junior members etc. Oh the face, the face!! He said he would never have ordered what he did if he knew we weren’t splitting and I took great delight in saying “you wouldn’t have ordered what you did if you knew you’d have to pay for it all yourself? Didn’t you see some had one meal and a glass of water?”
As we paid the bill I also made sure that they took our payments before his so he couldn’t wangle. He was so red, he paid and left without saying a word.

I can’t believe the cheek of some people.
hope it will make him think twice. I understand friends splitting bills but why would he assume colleagues from other teams would want to pay for his dinner.

I wanted to share the little win. When I was a junior I wouldn’t have stood up to him either, but menopause does things to a woman.

You’re my hero! 👏🏻
i absolutely hate bill splitters!

Sauvblanctime · 03/04/2024 12:30

Absolute CF!!! Well done on sticking him out!

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Payforyourowndinner · 03/04/2024 12:31

@Zonder no hes not on our team, but under same company / section so not included. He just likes going to other team meals. I say the more the merrier, if you pay for yourself !

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Icanttellyouanything · 03/04/2024 12:32

Payforyourowndinner · 03/04/2024 12:28

He’s back in green, but not read my message. Bet he’s muted me in a rage

Probably had to go for a big poo after eating so much.

PossumintheHouse · 03/04/2024 12:34

Payforyourowndinner · 03/04/2024 12:31

@Zonder no hes not on our team, but under same company / section so not included. He just likes going to other team meals. I say the more the merrier, if you pay for yourself !

So he basically crashes all of the teams in your company and pulls this stunt every time to get a slap up meal on everybody else? How has nobody lamped him by now?

Toooldforthis36 · 03/04/2024 12:35

Icanttellyouanything · 03/04/2024 12:32

Probably had to go for a big poo after eating so much.

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🤣🤣🤣

Zonder · 03/04/2024 12:36

Payforyourowndinner · 03/04/2024 12:31

@Zonder no hes not on our team, but under same company / section so not included. He just likes going to other team meals. I say the more the merrier, if you pay for yourself !

So he didn't hear the guys this morning agreeing they wouldn't do this with junior colleagues? Maybe someone needs to send a whole company email with guidance for a team + extras meal!

murasaki · 03/04/2024 12:36

PossumintheHouse · 03/04/2024 12:34

So he basically crashes all of the teams in your company and pulls this stunt every time to get a slap up meal on everybody else? How has nobody lamped him by now?

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He's like Six Dinner Sid in human form.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Six-Dinner_Sid

Six-Dinner Sid - Wikipedia

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Six-Dinner_Sid

Mercurysinretrograde · 03/04/2024 12:39

I once went on a work trip and we were joined by colleagues from another firm who were also working on the project. These people joined us each night at the local restaurant. The first night one of them “forgot his wallet” and we all paid for him. The second night when he forgot it I said “don’t worry we’ll wait here while you pop back up to your room and fetch it”. He had to do a walk of shame and didn’t forget it again. Well done OP, nothing as awful as a tightwad.

Hecatoncheires · 03/04/2024 12:39

Icanttellyouanything · 03/04/2024 12:32

Probably had to go for a big poo after eating so much.

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Hahhahah!!! 😆

Fraaahnces · 03/04/2024 12:39

Honestly, I would take all of the receipts to HR and explain the situation. How he was such a glutton and expected everyone to pay - and then had the temerity to simply tell the entire team this.

BaconMassive · 03/04/2024 12:42

I wouldn't bother HR with minor disagreements that happened at an informal social event.

Cuppachuchu · 03/04/2024 12:43

Being a tightwad/miser is a very unattractive trait. As is being a cheeky fucker. He got his. 👏👏👏

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