Today my teenager was upset because.....

[Positivelypatient]

On the back of the amusing threads about the irrationality of toddlers and their meltdowns, I have this for you.

Today my 17 DD is upset because I suggested booking an expensive (for me as a single parent) spa day for her and her sisters and me that we would go to on her 18th birthday. I hasten to add this is NOT in place of presents, cake and special attention for the birthday girl. Apparently I have made her feel worthless for suggesting she share her special day with her family.

@JufusMum

That home doesn’t feel like home anymore when DD returned from uni because we’d bought different hand wash 😂😂

I don't have a teenager yet 7yrs to go for that joyous period but my 6yr old might as well be a teenager the now

I don't know what's worse, the spoilt entitled kids or the parents thinking it's funny.
It's s such sad, shallow reading.

@bendmeoverbackwards Like the kid calling the mum a bitch. The bratty child who didn't like the car she was bought as a present so refused to drive it. The general ungratefulness towards parents bending over backwards to try and please their spoilt children to name but a few

Teen dc think that it is grossly unfair that:

1. they have to pitch in by doing a chore a day
2. I will not give them cash on demand (no questions asked)
3. Fund all their social activities
4. Buy the latest phones/clothing/whatever
5. I expect them to leave their phones and actually talk to me during mealtimes
6. They have to use their front door key (I am expected to open the door if I am in the house, working, in the middle of a meeting, or in the middle of the night)

@Cantstopthewaves

Bought ds (12) a new winter coat. The coat he had been going on about and desperately wanted. It was expensive and I'd saved for it. It had been delivered but I'd only just remembered about it the next morning so when ds got up and dressed for school I presented him with this much wanted coat thinking he'd be joyous. Apparently I had ruined the day as he wasn't expecting it.

wow such a selfish mum

Some of these are horrible, not funny at all. sad

like what

Being called a bitch by a 16 year old male son for starters.
A 17 year old telling her mother who is working 3 jobs that she doesn't know anything about work because she doesn't do any for 2nds.

Teenagers being livid because their parent wants to celebrate a birthday.

I know my kids have driven me up a tree at times but at least they are respectful and never done any nasty name calling.

@hiredandsqueak

My dd is upset that I didn't insist she take her wellies when she refused after I suggested it might be a good idea to take them considering the rain we have had and she's out in the Peak District. Apparently if I knew she would need them then I should have been more assertive and put them in the car for her even though she said no, huffed and rolled her eyes at my ludicrous suggestion. Apparently it would be appropriate for me to offer to clean the now mud caked trainers for her because it is somehow my fault she didn't take her wellies

I am an equally negligent parent. On more than one occasion my DS has refused to pick up a coat as we leave the house, despite having been told that it is raining/is forecast to rain heavily and arguing that he is old enough to decide whether he needs a coat. Then when it's raining when we arrive at school I get some variation of 'Where's my coat/Didn't you bring my coat' and 'Huff, suppose I'll just have to spend all day wet then, huff, thanks, huff, YOU wouldn't like getting wet. huff don't you even CARE'

I woke mine up this morning with a clean shirt for her to wear, put it on an open drawer (room is a bombsite) and told her.
i got OK MUM JUST GET OUT whilst she whipped out of bed as if I was an electric eel.

OMG, I am laughing so much at "smells like Victorian times @SecretKeeper1!

@Lanique

My list is endless:

We had the temerity to suggest earlier that we all go to Antigua next Summer after their exams, but it might clash with 'other things' such as parties and drinking in fields with their mates

We 'threatened' to take them back to New Zealand for another Christmas next year, which was totally unacceptable as they like Christmas at home and could mean them missing out on Christmas parties. Bless them the poor lambs are still traumatised by the experience of being made to spend Christmas Day on a beach in Abel Tasman National Park a few years ago.

We took them to Dubai three years ago and dd2 still hasn't got over us 'making her' miss Halloween.

Other than that they're perfectly lovely girls that are, believe it or not, not spoiled at all other than in cases such as the above where the possibility of 'missing out' is too much to bear 🙄

To be fair, any parent who thinks a family holiday is a suitable place for a teenager is mad. If the child has friends who they could be spending time with instead of being on a family holiday, then that madness can be multiplied by a thousand.

Source - used to be a teenager and am not mad

@Helpmyson

My 16 year old called me a bitch because I have refused to change our flights, back from long awaited holiday, so he can celebrate Halloween with his mates I feel.your pain , why are they so horrid to us ? Will it ever end

Haha when I was a teenager, my mum was arranging for us to go to university open days, she arranged to go to this one city I had never heard of and I didn't realise how far away it was, I thought we would just be going for the day, I arranged to meet up with a boy I really liked that evening. On the day, my mum was telling me to pack my stuff and I was like why? And that's when I found out we were going for the whole weekend.. which meant I wouldn't be able to see this boy that night, I kicked off 🤣 like seriously kicked off, the biggest tantrum in history. We ofcourse ended up going and had a lovely time, and I ended up going to that uni, I feel so bad about it now, my mum was doing a good thing for me :( anyway point of my story is that he won't always think you're a bitch!

@TerrifiedandWorried

I opened the window in in my sons' bedroom. "What have you DONE??? It smells weird!". That would be fresh air.

This made me laugh so much.

Mine get annoyed that I will not let them go out in my car alone when they both have their own cars which we bought for them and pay for tax, insurance and maintenance.

Apparently as my car is newer, better, more sporty and bigger than theirs they should be allowed to use it whenever they want!!!

Because she had double Art which she haaaaaaates.

@MarieT

The stealth boasting on this thread is hilarious

Doormats? Luxury! When I were a lass we used flattened cardboard boxes.

Our morning went like this
Teen: This shirt doesn't fit. It's the wrong one!
Me: All your school shirts are the same size. It fit last week.
Teen: No, it's too tight at the collar. I can't breathe!
Me:
Teen: Oh, wait a minute, it's because I had the collar turned up. It's fine.

@AmazingBouncingFerret

I allowed my 15 year old son to connect his Spotify during a car journey.

He was OUTRAGED to find out that I knew all the words to Gangsta’s Paradise.

This has made me LOL, my tweens hate this about me too!

My 17yo is pissed at me because I won't let her go to a (parent free) firework party on bonfire night. Apparently the parents will buy the fireworks for the 16/17 year old but are then off to the pub 😱😱😱

I should preface this by saying that as a rule she’s not a bad sort. But I did have to laugh at DD18 ringing me in high dudgeon because she had got a parking ticket. The reason why, she hadn’t changed the car reg on the parking app to the new private reg we had bought her for her recent birthday. Despite being told to do so. This was of course mine and her dads fault.

She was swiftly informed with much laughter to ‘jog on’.

She was also raging because she didn’t get any dinner money last week despite being informed I was implementing a system whereby every time I found something of mine in her room I hadn’t said she could borrow I would knock a pound off the amount I was going to give her. I think she was in zero balance by the Wednesday the week before. Have only had to knock a quid off for this week so perhaps the message is getting through.

@mizu

DD1 almost 17 looked at me across the table yesterday and told me she didn't like the way I ate

Oh that's nasty.

@thequeenoftarts

Teens, can't live with them and can't fucking drown em either sigh ....Aren't they lucky we can't lol

"Mark Twain said, "When a child turns 13, you put him in a barrel with only a hole to feed him through. When he turns 18, plug the hole."

8 years ago I took my 17 DD for a job interview, it paid £10 an hour, Wow.
She was going on about transport to get there and the person behind the desk said I could have a job as well.
I had to force my child to do this job, she wanted the money but would say I am not doing it loads of time.
I worked 35 hours a week for the 4 weeks the job was available, my DD did 10 hours a week and was Livid I got paid more than her.
All the money I earnt was paying for a family event that included her, her money was just her spends,

my 15yo is embarrased by me because i have the audacity to drive a 'racing car' with a loud exhaust whilst being a Goth.

His friends think i'm cool... i'm not sure which offends him more.

[quote SpiderPlant101010]@bendmeoverbackwards Like the kid calling the mum a bitch. The bratty child who didn't like the car she was bought as a present so refused to drive it. The general ungratefulness towards parents bending over backwards to try and please their spoilt children to name but a few[/quote]
@SpiderPlant101010 I agree that calling a parent (or anyone) a bitch is appalling and I'm sure the person in question dealt with it appropriately. But this is a light-hearted thread! The spoilt-ness and self-centred-ness is very common in teens. They do become very unreasonable and selfish, it's a normal part of development.