Today my teenager was upset because.....

[Positivelypatient]

On the back of the amusing threads about the irrationality of toddlers and their meltdowns, I have this for you.

Today my 17 DD is upset because I suggested booking an expensive (for me as a single parent) spa day for her and her sisters and me that we would go to on her 18th birthday. I hasten to add this is NOT in place of presents, cake and special attention for the birthday girl. Apparently I have made her feel worthless for suggesting she share her special day with her family.

Because Ididn’t want to revise Medicine through Time for her history mock exam
I’m happy to help and quiz her on it but no I’m not going to learn the whole bloody module off by heart so she can ask me any question at any time and I will know the answer!!

DD12 begged me for school trousers last week after disclosing she didn't feel comfortable 'being a girl or having a girls body'
Took her shopping, she tried on 5 pairs and settled on a pair I thought were slightly too short but she thought were perfect.
Every day since then she has worn a skirt to school, sneaked some make up on before going to school and has sent me photos of the teeny tiny ripped shorts she wants for her birthday!

DS16 had planned an evening out then a sleepover at a mates from college. Obviously I was massively out of order for ‘demanding’ the address plus house number of where her was going to be staying and ‘literally’ no one else’s parents would ever ask that 🙄
Then when his bus failed to arrive I offered him and his mates a lift, and I was permitted to give him as long as I didn’t ‘try’ to speak to any if his mates whilst I was giving them the lift.
Oh yes, and why do I need to get notifications and reminders about homework from college by text. Apparently it’s interfering and he’s perfectly capable of managing this himself lol lol lol. I have assured him that I have zero interest in interfering in his homework and if he did it in time college wouldn’t send me the reminders (which I haven’t asked for).

Thanks for all the nominations - we've moved this one over to Classics now.

I remember reading a story in the newspaper about a car crashing into a house into a 15 year old lads bedroom
His mother had to climb through the wreckage to wake him up
(he & his bed were fine by the way)
It reminded me of dd2 I am sure if the same thing had happened to her we would have had to wake her up

I came across this thread again and was cheered to see its ended up in mumsnet classics

Just wondering how you were doing, workworkworkugh? How is your son?

Sorry meant @workworkworkugh

😂😂😂too funny!

I posted on this thread a year ago.

My teen Dd is now lovely. Can’t believe she was ever difficult! But she was. Oh yes!

Apologise at once for such a horrible car.

Then sell it quick :-)

This threads reminded me of an epic wobbler dd once had because ds didn't know what he wanted for Christmas......this followed dd complaining her brother didn't get told no all the time (( yes dd, you constantly got told no because you asked for things 50 times a day ))

Apparently I favoured ds because he was so perfect he didn't even ask for a Christmas present. (( I actually think she was having a moment of reflection, maybe even guilt. Ds is not and was not perfect. He was just happy with what he got and liked surprises.

DD is now 24, and I swear she could be given the moon on a stick and she'd send it back to be dipped in glitter.

My young Gen Z cousin told me that my correctly spelt and perfectly punctuated text message to them, with details of their expensive birthday present from me, was ‘pass agg AF’ because of said correct spelling and perfect punctuation.

I abandoned the inadvertent passiveness and told them they were a twat and explained exactly why, with correct spellings and perfect punctuation.

Kids are weird but it’s more weird they don’t want free pizza because of their age 😁 Is it a girl thing? My sons friends would never turn down free pizza. My son told me off for texting ‘ok’ as it’s deemed rude but ‘okay’ is fine 😖

My DS19 phoned me to take me to task about my parenting. As a teen I neglected to beat him when he was bad and tried to talk to him. Any other proper parent would have hit him.
This has led to the ruination of his life as he looks back and acknowledges that he may have been bad as a teenager.

But the point was, him being bad was my fault. Also he can’t really respect me because I voluntary had him and raised him and a sane person would have abandoned him in a bin.

Oh and one more. When I told said son who I had so neglectfully not abandoned (?) that I was having another baby he fell to the floor in anguish at how bad his life was and shouted brokenly at me asking me why I hadn’t had a vasectomy.

just what you want to hear from a son who was doing GCSE biology.

Recent two week gorgeous holiday to Gran Canaria. 18yo DD repeatedly shouted at me for asking if she was coming for breakfast or dinner. I stopped asking and we went without her. Other times she wanted to go for breakfast or dinner and we weren’t quite ready, she stormed off and went on her own. Last family holiday with her unless she pays for herself.

She had the cheek to recently say “aren’t you going to take me away during Uni holidays?” Errrr no! 😱😂

What a bunch of brats! A few of the posts are funny, but most are about truly horrible teenagers! And no, I'm not out of touch with reality - I teach teens in secondary school.
I feel really lucky with our two - yes, some laziness & messiness around the house, but nothing like the stories on here. Both boys are polite, affectionate, not grabby or greedy. They are 20 and 18 now, so I doubt they'll suddenly change.
Thanking whatever gods may be for the way that the two of them are.

DD15 having a go at me for "hunger shaming" her when I suggested several snack foods after she went browsing through the cupboards less than an hour after her large meal.

DS13 staring blankly at me when I mentioned that I would like to be asked more than ten minutes in advance if he wants me to drive him 20 miles away to meet his mates and girlfriend. I said "Luckily, I can do it right now but just remember for next time, ok?" He replied "Don't worry, I'll just tell them I can't make it." I asked him if he didn't actually want to go, because of him very suddenly saying he wasn't going and the leaving it until last minute thing, only to have him storm off, muttering darkly, "Yeah, I'd prefer to stay here and NOT have any fun, that sounds brilliant....."
Ten minutes later he was at the front door asking me if I wanted him to wait in the car or was I coming now.

It'll be the full stops - apparently they are very aggressive!!

I told him that he had to switch off the Xbox and revise. This was extremely unfair of me apparently and he expressed his displeasure through the medium of slammed doors.

DS15 cried yesterday when I told him I’d taken a week off at half term. It’s going to ruin his holiday, apparently. He prefers his own company for 12 hours a day while I’m at work.

My 18 year old was outraged on Friday, because a friend liked a post I'd made on SM. Apparently, as his mother, it's "ridiculous" that I have friends who not only liked the cute photo of my dog, but also have stuck around for over 30 years. Seemingly, in DS' view, no one should like his mother as an individual in my own right.

Yesterday, he was disgusted that I'd dared to enquire how his job interview went. Displaying maternal interest in his life, when there's no one else around to observe it, is not acceptable, either. How dare I ask if he thought it went well?! It's "none of [my] business" apparently - even though he'll expect me to co-ordinate his lifts to/from (hopeful) place of employment, just as I organise how he gets to/from college. And he lives under my roof. And I'm his parent. How dare I...?!

Today, he will be furious because his day long napping will be disrupted by the fact that the council are finally cutting the tree which overhangs our garden fence and, more importantly, blocks the natural light into his bedroom, back. Even though he's the first to complain about how he has to have a light on at midday in the summer, because of this tree...

Normally, he's not brattish in the slightest. This week, however, seems to have been the tipping point and I'm reminded of the hell that occurred when his older sister turned 13. Less slamming doors and stamping upstairs, admittedly, but he finds other ways to show his displeasure that I happen to have pushed him out of my body and into the world...

Because l made her a doctors appointment.

Because I let her have friends over yesterday and two stayed the night. I dared to talk to her while she is tired.

Because I wouldn't let her use my phone charger as I was using it myself. Evidently her need is greater as I don't need to use social media to contact my friends urgently, but she does (to show off her new nail varnish)

Because she doesn’t like the song on the radio.....