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Today my teenager was upset because.....

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Positivelypatient · 18/10/2021 00:03

On the back of the amusing threads about the irrationality of toddlers and their meltdowns, I have this for you.

Today my 17 DD is upset because I suggested booking an expensive (for me as a single parent) spa day for her and her sisters and me that we would go to on her 18th birthday. I hasten to add this is NOT in place of presents, cake and special attention for the birthday girl. Apparently I have made her feel worthless for suggesting she share her special day with her family. Confused

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fitflopqueen · 18/10/2021 14:42

Kids now grown up and away but ruined childhood as we didn’t have a dog (all working FT) and hadn’t been to Cornwall or Scotland…. Did have lovely holidays abroad though! We do have the dog now and she is everyone’s baby.

Rocketpants50 · 18/10/2021 14:43

Had to drive past DS school last week to a job, as he was having a bad morning I offered to drop him at school on way, 1st time ever, they normally walk. DD refused to come with us as would not get in the car with DS and friend, is now sulking as I have never taken her to school and I do everything for him.

Mummyoflittledragon · 18/10/2021 14:50

Pretty much everything, which comes out of my mouth is embarrassing to my 13 yo dd. So anything to do with periods, keeping herself safe (last year she told me “you’re obsessed with me being raped”), feminism etc. I seriously put my foot down as I had enough of the constant censorship of “can you just stop” pretty much every time I opened my mouth.

She is a massive prude - well, in front of me at least. Even when she recently cracked a joke, which was a bit naughty and joked along / eye rolled, I was embarrassing. So why bring it up?! Of course fine with her friend’s parents. They must be oh so cool!

She had the reproductive system in science during lockdown and needed help. That was fun. 😬 It’s called getting my own back. 😂

Yesterday she was invited to go into town with some friends but it didn’t work out and they’re going today instead. It’s not fair apparently because she’s on holiday so can’t join them. Poor kid. Such misery and distress.

We also took her to Center Parcs over the summer and deigned to go out one day as there were no pool slots. The moaning. At the end of the holiday, she had no issue telling me she had a much better time hanging with her friends at the park. The accommodation for the week alone was 3k… I’d much rather have been around a pool somewhere! But the park is free… so I was thinking just why bother?!

JudgeJ · 18/10/2021 14:51

@Moonface123

I don't know what's worse, the spoilt entitled kids or the parents thinking it's funny. It's s such sad, shallow reading.
We were no doubt difficult as teens in the 60s but I don't think anyone I knew would have spoken to their parents as these seem to, they seem to have learned to parrot all the terminology straight from US teen programmes. Their sense of entitlement shines through maybe they should have heard the words 'No you can't' more often rather than been negotiated with.
olderthanilookapparently · 18/10/2021 14:53

I have had (12YO so starting early) tell me he will not look at any hair cuts to explain what he wanted

Then had haircut and shouted that he didn't like it at all although he didn't tell me or the guy cutting his hair what he wanted ??

Wotrewelookinat · 18/10/2021 14:57

We chew too loudly apparently, and have bought a clock that ticks too loudly, necessitating the wearing of headphones continuously!

shakehandswithdanger · 18/10/2021 15:01

I agree with PP that some of these are appalling. It doesn't make it better that the thread is meant to be lighthearted. I wouldn't find the worst examples of my child's bad behaviour humourous or want to share them in a light-hearted thread.

But if it makes you feel validated or whatever, carry on, of course.

Nannewnannew · 18/10/2021 15:11

Many, many years ago my brother apparently complained to our parents that he was the only one in his class who didn’t know the story about the Marie Celeste, because we were the only family who didn’t have a tv!

EmotionalSupportBear · 18/10/2021 15:19

it IS funny. I'm reading these out to my 70yo mother and asking if we were like that.. she just chuckled and said yes, but so were they in the 60s.

DoYouLikeOwls · 18/10/2021 15:21

I don't get the stealth comment?

schnubbins · 18/10/2021 15:40

My teenager called me out for not telling him often enough that if he didn't work hard enough at school he would end up in a badly paid job.I apparently didn't emphasise the financial implications enough! He is now 21 years old and very ambitious and money wise . Still look back in horror at those teenage years .

Mummyoflittledragon · 18/10/2021 15:42

@DoYouLikeOwls

I don't get the stealth comment?
Talking about expensive holidays or what people buy maybe? I’m guilty of saying the same. Mine was in the terms of why did we bother as it wasn’t what we ideally would have done as a family, let alone if we didn’t have a dc.
Dearreader · 18/10/2021 15:47

Yesterday I bought in some cosy new pyjamas for DD who has covid and was lying on the sofa in her pants and a vest top. I asked her to put them on and she grunted and scowled is if I'd asked for something huge.

Eventually she put them on and then moaned "Why didn't just just ask me to put them onnnnnnnnnnnnn?!"

I did.

Glitterybug · 18/10/2021 15:53

*Mine get annoyed that I will not let them go out in my car alone when they both have their own cars which we bought for them and pay for tax, insurance and maintenance.

Apparently as my car is newer, better, more sporty and bigger than theirs they should be allowed to use it whenever they want*

Spoilt little shits!

Biffatcrafts · 18/10/2021 16:06

Not a mum myself, but sympathise so much with all of you.

My BFF, who is a mum, asked for my help arranging a surprise for her DD(17) who had had a pretty rough time during lockdown etc.. I love her DD very much so said yes immediately. Between us my BFF and I arranged a surprise sightseeing flight in a private plane belonging to a friend of mine, to be followed with a girls lunch and shopping trip.

We both thought she'd love it. Hmmm... come the morning of the treat day, I went to my BFFs house for breakfast and to reveal the surprise to DD. I was also acting as chauffeur for the day as my BFF doesn't have a car during the daytime as her husband uses theirs to go to work.

We both were so excited to tell DD of the plan for the day. On hearing it all she just looked at us both and yelled that she was sick and tired of people going behind her back, she had no intention of "doing what you want me to do" and she was going back to bed. So off she stomped. BFF and I were totally gobsmacked and just silent for ages after her outburst.

The only thing we could do was to take her DD at her word, so we went and did the flight ourselves, had a great lunch and a pretty successful shopping trip by ourselves.

Got back to BFFs house later in the day and DD was there. Her only comment was "typical, you two went and had fun all day and left me out again."

There really is no winning sometimes Confused

hellswelshy · 18/10/2021 16:06

Gosh this is meant to be a light hearted thread, I think some people who have posted need to get a sense of humour....you really need one with teenagers Grin

specialsauce · 18/10/2021 16:07

@AmazingBouncingFerret

I allowed my 15 year old son to connect his Spotify during a car journey.

He was OUTRAGED to find out that I knew all the words to Gangsta’s Paradise.

Grin Grin Grin they hate it when we know 'their' tunes better than them!
chicadelmonton · 18/10/2021 16:16

I offered our teen cheese when he said there was nothing in the fridge and well, that was the wrong thing to say because apparently only old people eat cheese

MondayYogurt · 18/10/2021 16:20

This whole thread is very Olivia in White Lotus vibes.

floweroverload · 18/10/2021 16:20

@beigebrownblue

A few months back and having lived abroad for twelve years, I gently suggested to DD that she start her passport application. Adding that it is a little tricky to find someone to check I.D. as they need to have known you for four years be a professional etc. More difficult in Covid and for school leavers cos in holidays you couldn't just pop in and get it signed. She needs to passport later this year to go on subject research trip.

She complained about the whole system and the way it is organised and how stupid it was.

I gently explained it was strict and tricky because passports are important things and unfortunately faked sometimes etc.

Four months later, she still hasn't managed to get the papers i.d'd and very soon it will be my fault, I know...

@beigebrownblue Slight side-track but if you renew online you can nominate a contact to authorise the photo online too. We just did this a couple of weeks ago and it's amazing time saver
TabithaTiger · 18/10/2021 16:20

My crime today was to mention I was planning to make sausage casserole for tea "why would you even DO that? NOBODY eats casserole"

I was also in the wrong for not responding to DS. He was in his bedroom upstairs with the door shut, I was downstairs in the lounge with the radio on. I obviously have a problem with my hearing.

bendmeoverbackwards · 18/10/2021 16:20

@Wotrewelookinat

We chew too loudly apparently, and have bought a clock that ticks too loudly, necessitating the wearing of headphones continuously!
Yup - eating, chewing, drinking, breathing, laughing - all too noisy!
BlowDryRat · 18/10/2021 16:35

@bjjgirl

Dd walks in the bathroom while I have a shower to brush her teeth (she does knock and I tell her I'm in the shower) - she is then pissed of I'm Naked.
DS did this when he was about 3: marched into the bathroom while I was having a shower and then huffily asked for privacy while he weed.

He's now 11 and I am in deep trouble for calling him 'pumpkin' infront of his friend. It is entirely my fault that he is now known as pumpkin to his friendship group.

I also forgot myself when he did a particularly good thing during a football game and shouted, 'Well done, muffin!' across the pitch. Oops.

onelittlefrog · 18/10/2021 16:36

@Positivelypatient

On the back of the amusing threads about the irrationality of toddlers and their meltdowns, I have this for you.

Today my 17 DD is upset because I suggested booking an expensive (for me as a single parent) spa day for her and her sisters and me that we would go to on her 18th birthday. I hasten to add this is NOT in place of presents, cake and special attention for the birthday girl. Apparently I have made her feel worthless for suggesting she share her special day with her family. Confused

To be fair to your daughter, it's a bit presumptuous to assume you get to decide what she does for her birthday. At 17 there's nothing wrong in her wanting to spend it with friends, most people do at that age.
Pippyweather · 18/10/2021 16:38

I had to drop something off at my sons school for him the other day. He's a boarder in the next town and had forgotten his trainers or something like that so i said i'd drop them off at lunch.

I parked in the car park that adjoins where they all queue up for lunch and got out of my car to stretch my leg that felt a bit crampy. I was dressed as normal and the car was clean and i had no music on.

I suddenly got a text saying, "GET BACK IN THE CAR!!!!!!!! IF YOU DONT I WONT COME OVER TO YOU."

Apparently i had to pass the trainers through a crack in my window as he was passing between the cars to go to lunch.

I was so tempted to shout "LOVE YOU!!" to him when i drove out of the car park past him.

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