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Today my teenager was upset because.....

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Positivelypatient · 18/10/2021 00:03

On the back of the amusing threads about the irrationality of toddlers and their meltdowns, I have this for you.

Today my 17 DD is upset because I suggested booking an expensive (for me as a single parent) spa day for her and her sisters and me that we would go to on her 18th birthday. I hasten to add this is NOT in place of presents, cake and special attention for the birthday girl. Apparently I have made her feel worthless for suggesting she share her special day with her family. Confused

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zafferana · 18/10/2021 07:47

We took DS (13) to California and he told me that while he was grateful, he'd actually have rather spent the summer dicking about in our local park with his friends and that he was missing 'so much' being away with us.

blissfulllife · 18/10/2021 07:48

[quote backinthebox]@blissfulllife 🤣🤣🤣 yes, we’ve had style-stealing too! She thinks she’s being all edgy in her DMs and check shirts. Then DH tells her how much like me at the same age she is and she stomps off in her DMs in a huff![/quote]
Lol!

MrsRobbieHart · 18/10/2021 07:49

16yo sulked with me for two days because I made him eat breakfast, take a multivitamin and have a good night’s sleep. Apparently this is the height of cruelty.

Maerchentante · 18/10/2021 07:50

Took my then 13 year old cousin to Paris for a long weekend, she gave me the silent treatment for 12 hours because I had suggested she ordered her McDonald's herself.
That was after traipsing around the area for over an hour trying to find something that Madame would've liked to eat. She insisted on McD and then got miffed when I told her that she could order it, as she did speak some French.

LadyCatStark · 18/10/2021 07:54

DS is still a preteen but the hormones are kicking in. Today he is annoyed as he has to get the bus to school all week as I have to work. He’s especially annoyed that I can’t take him tomorrow as I have an INSET day and that means a day off… except I’m a HLTA and I’m doing the training 😂.

Theghostofchristmasarse · 18/10/2021 07:55

I have an eleventeen year old.

She hates me because I have put controls on her phone, which she has worked out how to get around, and will hate me more today because I'll be explaining why Melanie Martinez is not appropriate for her age group.

The thing that will really bloody get her raging is when I explain that her thinking she's trans and lesbian doesn't actually shock me and actually is totally normal and doesn't make her special.

Evil parent that I am, not being shocked by her being all different and shocking 🤣

(I'm actually worried and petrified for her but she won't be told that!)

AnnieLobeseder · 18/10/2021 08:01

Somehow it's our fault that DC1's (16yo) train ticket was missing this morning. "But I left it on the stairs on Friday! I knew where it was! Now it's missing!"

We've had to pay £10 for a day return instead. But of course this is our duty to pay, because we lost the ticket in the first place. It would be beyond cruel to expect the poor child to fund this extra ticket. How could they afford bubble tea for the week if they had to pay?

beigebrownblue · 18/10/2021 08:11

@Cameleongirl

For homework, DS (13) needed to read a book and explain the themes. He decided the best approach was to get Mum to read the book and tell him the themes, which he'd then write down .

Apparently I wasn't being supportive enough when I suggested he should also read the book and actually do the work. Grin

This is a child who's doing well in English and doesn't really need help, he just wanted to play online instead.

love this (not)
beigebrownblue · 18/10/2021 08:13

@TerrifiedandWorried

I opened the window in in my sons' bedroom. "What have you DONE??? It smells weird!". That would be fresh air.
Oh heavens I get this as well.
beigebrownblue · 18/10/2021 08:18

Last week I got my divorce settlement after more than five years.

Have been very sensible. No holidays booked. In first instance spent four days sorting finances.

After that thought I would plan a little treat for me.
Single parent, sometimes housework gets on top of me and we live in a seaside place and not on ground floor so windows need cleaner.

Rather than fiddle about with a seventy quid magnetic window cleaning thing I had the bright idea of getting a window cleaner as a one off!

I mentioned it to her, and by the look on her face you would have thought I had suggested a bank robbery.

No, mum I'll do it.

Never known her to clean windows...

So looks like I shall be getting a window cleaner clandestine(ly) is that even a word?

Go on, please laugh. This thread is really helpful and I've laughed out loud at every comment. It's also really helpful as I've often thought it was just me...

beigebrownblue · 18/10/2021 08:19

@AnnieLobeseder

Somehow it's our fault that DC1's (16yo) train ticket was missing this morning. "But I left it on the stairs on Friday! I knew where it was! Now it's missing!"

We've had to pay £10 for a day return instead. But of course this is our duty to pay, because we lost the ticket in the first place. It would be beyond cruel to expect the poor child to fund this extra ticket. How could they afford bubble tea for the week if they had to pay?

Oh fab.
beigebrownblue · 18/10/2021 08:21

@LadyCatStark

DS is still a preteen but the hormones are kicking in. Today he is annoyed as he has to get the bus to school all week as I have to work. He’s especially annoyed that I can’t take him tomorrow as I have an INSET day and that means a day off… except I’m a HLTA and I’m doing the training 😂.
oh lovely. Thanks for making me laugh this morning.
beigebrownblue · 18/10/2021 08:22

@Theghostofchristmasarse

I have an eleventeen year old.

She hates me because I have put controls on her phone, which she has worked out how to get around, and will hate me more today because I'll be explaining why Melanie Martinez is not appropriate for her age group.

The thing that will really bloody get her raging is when I explain that her thinking she's trans and lesbian doesn't actually shock me and actually is totally normal and doesn't make her special.

Evil parent that I am, not being shocked by her being all different and shocking 🤣

(I'm actually worried and petrified for her but she won't be told that!)

You've lived in a cupboard all your life, that's the problem lol
thewalkers · 18/10/2021 08:22

My 15year old is huffy with me because I have a song on my Spotify that he has(a song that came out when I was a kid, just revamped).
🤣 I've never seen someone performance delete a song before.

beigebrownblue · 18/10/2021 08:25

A few months back and having lived abroad for twelve years, I gently suggested to DD that she start her passport application. Adding that it is a little tricky to find someone to check I.D. as they need to have known you for four years be a professional etc. More difficult in Covid and for school leavers cos in holidays you couldn't just pop in and get it signed. She needs to passport later this year to go on subject research trip.

She complained about the whole system and the way it is organised and how stupid it was.

I gently explained it was strict and tricky because passports are important things and unfortunately faked sometimes etc.

Four months later, she still hasn't managed to get the papers i.d'd and very soon it will be my fault, I know...

beigebrownblue · 18/10/2021 08:28

@Etonmessisyum

My 16yo son moaned becuase I bought him new bedding, made his bed for him coming home from his dads after October hols and he doesn’t like the checked pattern. It’s blue on the other side. God knows why he has to be rude and ungrateful about it.
Absolutely fabulous. On the subject of which series, I often feel like Patsy with that very 'sensible' daughter...
beigebrownblue · 18/10/2021 08:30

@BluebellsGreenbells

DD is upset that I have covid because she might get it and miss her weekend away in 6 weeks time!
oh shxt that's awful. Hope you are okay.
TheWrongReasonMaybe · 18/10/2021 08:31

I offered my 17 year old cousin £15 to walk my 7yo to school a few times when I had covid a few weeks ago - literally would need to walk to my house, get my DD and walk to her school before carrying on to the bus stop to college (i was passed the 10 days but still felt rotten so wasn't going anywhere)

Apparently he couldn't commit and I'd have to call him every morning. He was also offended when my mum (who isn't related to him at all) came and did the school run for free for me!

Auroreforet · 18/10/2021 08:31

Ds school needed parent volunteers to take teens to football. Ds asked(told) me to help. I duly turned up and stood next to ds in car park whilst everything organised. Ds told me not to stand next to him, he didn’t move I had to!

TumtumTree · 18/10/2021 08:33

DS said something funny and I laughed. Cue DD huffing that it wasn't funny and how come I always laugh at his jokes and never at hers? Sigh.

Cantstopthewaves · 18/10/2021 08:36

Bought ds (12) a new winter coat. The coat he had been going on about and desperately wanted. It was expensive and I'd saved for it.
It had been delivered but I'd only just remembered about it the next morning so when ds got up and dressed for school I presented him with this much wanted coat thinking he'd be joyous.
Apparently I had ruined the day as he wasn't expecting it.

beigebrownblue · 18/10/2021 08:37

@TumtumTree

DS said something funny and I laughed. Cue DD huffing that it wasn't funny and how come I always laugh at his jokes and never at hers? Sigh.
It's your fault, you know. You have no right to laugh at anything anymore. You are a parent.
FatAnkles · 18/10/2021 08:38

I'm taking my 15 yo to visit her grandparents ALL HALF TERM. They live 80 miles away in the countryside. There is a bus tothe nearest town every 2 hours. My city-born girl is LIVID.

beigebrownblue · 18/10/2021 08:39

DD criticised me and said that 'everything I did' in terms of washing, cleaning, financing (ten months home schooling to get her through G.C.S.Es) didn't matter and came under the banner of

'basic parenting'

I spent the next few months racking my brains as to what 'basic parenting' might consist of....

any ideas?

Put then in a shed at the bottom of the garden and leave trays outside the door?

p.s. we have no shed.

beigebrownblue · 18/10/2021 08:41

@Cantstopthewaves

Bought ds (12) a new winter coat. The coat he had been going on about and desperately wanted. It was expensive and I'd saved for it. It had been delivered but I'd only just remembered about it the next morning so when ds got up and dressed for school I presented him with this much wanted coat thinking he'd be joyous. Apparently I had ruined the day as he wasn't expecting it.
oh that's hilarious, though sure it wasn't at the time..