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Today my teenager was upset because.....

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Positivelypatient · 18/10/2021 00:03

On the back of the amusing threads about the irrationality of toddlers and their meltdowns, I have this for you.

Today my 17 DD is upset because I suggested booking an expensive (for me as a single parent) spa day for her and her sisters and me that we would go to on her 18th birthday. I hasten to add this is NOT in place of presents, cake and special attention for the birthday girl. Apparently I have made her feel worthless for suggesting she share her special day with her family. Confused

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StrongArm · 18/10/2021 12:40

when dd was around 17 we all went on holiday (I have since met dp but was still a single parent at this point)

it was a v luxurious holiday for me, I saved ages to be able to afford it. Dd and ds came with me. And me and ds made the most of it, went out every day. It was a beach holiday but with yoga and all sorts added in (which I knew dd loved).

dd sulked all the time. In her eyes, the wifi was shit, the food was shit, she couldn't talk to her boyfriend because of the time difference. She actually burst into tears twice during the week over something completely minor and refused to come out with us and just stayed in the hotel bed all day.

I was so relieved to go home and vowed never to take her on holiday with me again!

this week, she's staying with me, she's now 21 and was telling her partner about family holidays. She said when I was 17 we went to this amazing place, I had such a good time and really enjoyed it - the yoga was brilliant and it was so relaxing. Wasn't it brilliant mum, we had such a great time?

I nearly choked on my dinner!

polkadotpjs · 18/10/2021 12:42

So so many parallels here. I've just been told by DS "I've got to go away when you're on a work meeting so I'm telling you I'm not talking to you right now" with a finger pointing at the door to dismiss me. He's on TikTok recovering from Covid and I think, ready to get up and do some school work. It's so unfair apparently. I'm cutting him slack because of the Covid but would like to talk to him about how he is to make a judgement and even before Covid he orders me out of his room a lot even if I've been admitted by him. The second he deems the conversation over, he orders me out.

ScottChegg · 18/10/2021 12:42

@thewalkers

My 15year old is huffy with me because I have a song on my Spotify that he has(a song that came out when I was a kid, just revamped). 🤣 I've never seen someone performance delete a song before.
My 15 year old was very annoyed because I had "stolen" one of her songs which was on my spotify playlist that was on in the car.

It was on there because it was my most listened to songs of 2020 list and she'd played it ENDLESSLY on my alexa in the kitchen despite me begging her to stop. There appears to be no way to remove it.

ineedsun · 18/10/2021 12:43

@StrongArm

when dd was around 17 we all went on holiday (I have since met dp but was still a single parent at this point)

it was a v luxurious holiday for me, I saved ages to be able to afford it. Dd and ds came with me. And me and ds made the most of it, went out every day. It was a beach holiday but with yoga and all sorts added in (which I knew dd loved).

dd sulked all the time. In her eyes, the wifi was shit, the food was shit, she couldn't talk to her boyfriend because of the time difference. She actually burst into tears twice during the week over something completely minor and refused to come out with us and just stayed in the hotel bed all day.

I was so relieved to go home and vowed never to take her on holiday with me again!

this week, she's staying with me, she's now 21 and was telling her partner about family holidays. She said when I was 17 we went to this amazing place, I had such a good time and really enjoyed it - the yoga was brilliant and it was so relaxing. Wasn't it brilliant mum, we had such a great time?

I nearly choked on my dinner!

Did you call her out on it?
RobertsRadio · 18/10/2021 12:45

Reading this thread I'm remembering the time I complained loudly to my Mum about the (homemade) meals she prepared "the trouble with the food in this house is that it is too hot! I also complained that there were too many doors in the house as I was flouncing out of one of them. My Mum to her credit said nothing on either occasion.

We laughed about it years later. I loved my Mum very much, liked her company and we were very close. So there is hope 😄

jackstini · 18/10/2021 12:46

We are going away for half term and the first thing dd (15) checked was if we would be back for Halloween!

In fact we are, but she won't be going out for Halloween as she lied to us about where she was last time she went out and we told her she would not be going out with those friends again for a few weeks.
Am dreading that conversation - think she has forgotten...

We have been 'allowed' to miss UK Halloween twice before - as we were in Florida Hmm

Flossie44 · 18/10/2021 12:46

Apparently asking what lessons they have that day is pressuring them to think!! Not asking them what lessons they have that day, is utter neglect!!

bjjgirl · 18/10/2021 12:49

I have a cold and a sore throat, dd is fuming because my voice is now annoying her. I need to either not get a cold or not talk directly to her

couchparsnip · 18/10/2021 12:49

I am a terrible parent for suggesting that DD (13) should finish her maths homework from last week. Apparently the teacher said not to worry about about it.
Chinny reckon madam. You're doing it

Auroreforet · 18/10/2021 12:55

@SherBear1971

I have a friend whose son was mid rant who shouted " why can't we be a normal family and eat ready made lasagne instead of homemade!"
My ds was so jealous of his teenage friend whose parents let him choose frozen ready meals including a full English breakfast! Apparently we were really mean cooking from scratch with fresh, quality ingredients!
bjjgirl · 18/10/2021 13:02

Dd 12 also has meltdowns because I don't love the dogs enough. This is because I told her I love her and dd2 more than the dogs, and was trying to explain my love for them in terms they understand, she took from this that I can not possibly love the dogs enough, they are hers now as she loves them more than all the humans in her life.

Auroreforet · 18/10/2021 13:03

@SecretKeeper1
I cleaned my sons room and got accused of making it smell “like Victorian times”

Did you use lavender wax polish and put camphor mothballs in the drawers? Grin

CointreauVersial · 18/10/2021 13:05

Oh, the Spotify thing is hilarious.

DD1 and DD2 had a standup screaming row, because DD2 had added some songs to her Spotify playlist that were already on DD1's playlist. Apparently it's HER music, and no-one else in the world is allowed to listen to it.

MarieT · 18/10/2021 13:06

The stealth boasting on this thread is hilarious Grin

Tupperwarelid · 18/10/2021 13:07

He doesn’t know how he is going to do his foreign language spoken mock exams with a mask on. School has large number of Covid cases so there are asking students to wear masks in communal areas again.

bjjgirl · 18/10/2021 13:09

Oh and both my dds have declared October and November as pointless, they just want it to be Christmas so they can play Xmas songs.

They are "over" Halloween 😫

alloalloallo · 18/10/2021 13:09

My teen DD got very upset with me over the weekend for looking in her room for a “smell”, locating and removing an old, half eaten bowl of cornflakes and milk and then opening her window

I was embarrassing by gagging and retching - honestly, it was rank

I’ve upset her today by refusing to leave work to drop off her PPE to college - she doesn’t like carrying it around so wanted me to drop it off in time for her practical lesson.

thequeenoftarts · 18/10/2021 13:11

Teens, can't live with them and can't fucking drown em either sigh ....Aren't they lucky we can't lol

Opal8 · 18/10/2021 13:13

@Helpmyson

My 16 year old called me a bitch because I have refused to change our flights, back from long awaited holiday, so he can celebrate Halloween with his mates I feel.your pain , why are they so horrid to us ? Will it ever end
This isn't funny
SecretKeeper1 · 18/10/2021 13:14

[quote Auroreforet]@SecretKeeper1
I cleaned my sons room and got accused of making it smell “like Victorian times”

Did you use lavender wax polish and put camphor mothballs in the drawers? Grin[/quote]
Lol. I used wood polish spray on the windowsills, perhaps that was it!

notacooldad · 18/10/2021 13:15

This isn't funny
I nearly posted the same.
To me that's crossing a line.
Ivevhad some right humdingers with my kids but it's never got into insulting name calling.

EggsellentSmithers · 18/10/2021 13:16

@couchparsnip

I am a terrible parent for suggesting that DD (13) should finish her maths homework from last week. Apparently the teacher said not to worry about about it. Chinny reckon madam. You're doing it
You’re the only person I’ve ever heard say “chinny reckon” other than DH 😂
Opal8 · 18/10/2021 13:16

@notacooldad

This isn't funny I nearly posted the same. To me that's crossing a line. Ivevhad some right humdingers with my kids but it's never got into insulting name calling.
I have 18 Yr old and 13 Yr old ds's.

They have NEVER called me a misogynistic slur.

Really sad the op thinks it's amusing.

If he says that to her what what he saying to his peers? :(

DidgeDoolittle · 18/10/2021 13:17

Mine are all grown up now but this has reminded me of the horror of teenage boys.
Mine were mortified as I had the audacity to make them granary bread sandwiches. Apparently they would be the only ones in the whole school to have the utter humiliation. Everyone else had white sliced. Everyone.

I took ds2 to JD sports to buy him this very expensive, trendy warm coat. He sulked and pouted throughout. Then this young sales bloke told him that perhaps he ought to be grateful his mum was buying him such a nice coat. He did manage to grunt his thanks after that.

Went to a sports shop with ds3 when he was about 15 to buy trainers for school. To his horror there was another 15 year old lad there, also with his mum buying trainers. My ds grunted and sulked until I lost my rag and told him off. The other boy snorted with laughter. Until his mum promptly told him off for laughing. Both boys went home without new trainers, but us mums went and had a coffee together. Smile

Opal8 · 18/10/2021 13:18

@DidgeDoolittle

Mine are all grown up now but this has reminded me of the horror of teenage boys. Mine were mortified as I had the audacity to make them granary bread sandwiches. Apparently they would be the only ones in the whole school to have the utter humiliation. Everyone else had white sliced. Everyone.

I took ds2 to JD sports to buy him this very expensive, trendy warm coat. He sulked and pouted throughout. Then this young sales bloke told him that perhaps he ought to be grateful his mum was buying him such a nice coat. He did manage to grunt his thanks after that.

Went to a sports shop with ds3 when he was about 15 to buy trainers for school. To his horror there was another 15 year old lad there, also with his mum buying trainers. My ds grunted and sulked until I lost my rag and told him off. The other boy snorted with laughter. Until his mum promptly told him off for laughing. Both boys went home without new trainers, but us mums went and had a coffee together. Smile

This is excellent 👌