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Today my teenager was upset because.....

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Positivelypatient · 18/10/2021 00:03

On the back of the amusing threads about the irrationality of toddlers and their meltdowns, I have this for you.

Today my 17 DD is upset because I suggested booking an expensive (for me as a single parent) spa day for her and her sisters and me that we would go to on her 18th birthday. I hasten to add this is NOT in place of presents, cake and special attention for the birthday girl. Apparently I have made her feel worthless for suggesting she share her special day with her family. Confused

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lescompagnonsdeloue · 18/10/2021 11:54

@LowlandLucky

If my children had called me a bitch there life would have been so bloody hard. Why would you allow your child to disrespect you ? Having a strop about having to share her birthday, fine, have nothing but a card, she is 18, an adult not a bloody child.
I agree. Some of these are really funny, but an adult calling her mother a bitch? That's just awful.
DeJaDont · 18/10/2021 11:54

My 14 year old desperately wanted to get her belly button pierced and I said yes. This is Not Ok as she then had to get her belly button pierced..... even though I said she didn't have to do anything she didn't want to do.

The same kid then went ballistic when I said she had to tidy her bedroom before going out with her friends. It was ABSOLUTELY IMPOSSIBLE for her to tidy her room on command and she had to feel a sudden urge to tidy to motivate her. She can't follow orders Just Like That! So I pointed her that she literally follows orders ALL DAY in school and then goes to follow her more orders at cadets twice/three times a week. Pointing this out was also unreasable and none of her friends have psychopathic monsters as parents.

EmergencyPoncho · 18/10/2021 11:59

My DD16 spent 3 hours at work yesterday, proceeded to whine about a non issue for 40 mins after: during that time, I picked her up, listened and gave a solution. At 40 mins of listening, I apparently VERY RUDELY, told her to draw a line under it so we could get on with our evenings.

EveningOverRooftops · 18/10/2021 12:00

I asked DC to load the dishwasher, have a shower and sort school uniform earlier in the day so it was done and DC could piss about doing whatever. DCs only daily chore is loading the dishwasher as they use alllll the bastard dishes and doesn’t bring them down.

DC then blamed me at 10pm I hadn’t reminded them, threw a tantrum they were tired and ‘didn’t have time’ to do the ‘ridiculous amount’ of chores I give them every day Hmm

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Positivelypatient · 18/10/2021 12:01

@godmum56 - oh she would've got all that as well as a lovely spa day out with afternoon tea, champagne, a £100+ spa treatment etc etc etc. but you know, who am I to foist such torture on her

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PiglingBlonde · 18/10/2021 12:01

@KittyMcKitty

Last year my then 15 year old was very cross (shouting / tears) because I didn’t ask her about her day the second she got home - apparently nobody in the family was interested in her life. The previous day there had been shouting / tears because I said hello and asked her how her day was when she got home - the pressure we put her under was too much and didn’t i under she just needed time to be by herself.
OMG. This is absolutely my 14yo DD.
Ruralbliss · 18/10/2021 12:02

@EveningOverRooftops 😂😂your teens are leading parallel lives with mine!

FawkesThePhoenix · 18/10/2021 12:09

@sueelleker

I did geography in secondary school and guess what...part of the module was learning about rocks!

Not quite sure what point your trying to make?!

2389Champ · 18/10/2021 12:14

Absolutely loving this thread. All so familiar!

My DS used to argue for nearly an hour about doing a timed maths exercise that literally took 2 minutes to complete!

If it’s any comfort (and maybe a tip!) my adult DS and DD both admitted that as teenagers they found it much harder and felt worse having to deal with sad, disappointed mum than raging, shouting mum. I just wish I’d known that at the time - I would have exploited it far more!

FreezerBird · 18/10/2021 12:15

Yes, at school rocks definitely happen in geography.

I made DS16 take his coat off yesterday.

SecretKeeper1 · 18/10/2021 12:15

@TerrifiedandWorried

I opened the window in in my sons' bedroom. "What have you DONE??? It smells weird!". That would be fresh air.
I cleaned my sons room and got accused of making it smell “like Victorian times” Grin
Feedingthebirds1 · 18/10/2021 12:16

[quote Positivelypatient]@godmum56 - oh she would've got all that as well as a lovely spa day out with afternoon tea, champagne, a £100+ spa treatment etc etc etc. but you know, who am I to foist such torture on her[/quote]
Would you/could you be mean brave enough to go with your other DDs and leave her to do her own thing on her birthday? Grin

2bazookas · 18/10/2021 12:16

@Positivelypatient

On the back of the amusing threads about the irrationality of toddlers and their meltdowns, I have this for you.

Today my 17 DD is upset because I suggested booking an expensive (for me as a single parent) spa day for her and her sisters and me that we would go to on her 18th birthday. I hasten to add this is NOT in place of presents, cake and special attention for the birthday girl. Apparently I have made her feel worthless for suggesting she share her special day with her family. Confused

She's quite right; you definitely should not share your spa day with that entitled little minx. With the money saved , you can enjoy an extra treatment for yourself. You earned it for the past 18 years, 
I hope you have a lovely day without her.
amazeandastonish · 18/10/2021 12:18

Mine is raging because apparently I breathe too loudly?

And because I refused to let her walk to school in the rain and the dark (its Scotland) and without a coat.

Nannewnannew · 18/10/2021 12:21

@TheOrigRights

There were no Pepperamis left. This was the final nail in the coffin of a Nothing Ever Going Right weekend.
Sorry, but this is sooo funny! 😂😂😂
Sunset999 · 18/10/2021 12:22

My 17 year old thinks our house decoration style is horrible and we never have any food................................

Sunset999 · 18/10/2021 12:22

Oh and me just talking to her annoys her ..................

TheMamaYo · 18/10/2021 12:24

My son had brain surgery a week ago. He usually has the box room, and my daughter has the bigger room. I asked her to swap rooms with her brother for a week or so, in case my son needs any medical care soon after surgery.

It was no problem at all, until she got in his bed that night. She jumped out with an almighty huff, and told me she couldn’t POSSIBLY sleep in his bed, as it hasn’t got her posh mattress on.

Both the beds have the same mattresses. 🤷‍♀️

spiderlight · 18/10/2021 12:26

My DS, who is 14, had a strop at the weekend because I wouldn't buy him a £500 ancient wreck of a car that doesn't go, which he'd found on eBay on the opposite side of the country. It's rare, apparently, and he could keep it on our drive and do it up so that it would be ready when he passed his test. Apparently not wanting a rusting hulk leaking oil all over our drive for three years while he does nothing to it because it's hard/it's cold/it's raining/someone from school might go past and see him - oh, and because he has zero experience with car mechanics/repairs - is totally unreasonable Hmm

spiderlight · 18/10/2021 12:28

@2389Champ - I once timed DS ranting and wailing about his maths homework, timed him actually doing the homework, and then presented him with a pie chart. It did actually get through to him!

BlameItOnTheBlackStar · 18/10/2021 12:28

DH text me this morning to say that when dropped DD off at a holiday activity thing he offered her a hug.

The words 'face of doom' were used.

Newpuppymummy · 18/10/2021 12:32

Mine is in a mood because she hasn’t bothered to sort out a placement for college and now doesn’t have one. I have asked her every day to do it and sent her links but apparently that wasn’t helpful

Shallwegoforawalk · 18/10/2021 12:32

@TerrifiedandWorried

I opened the window in in my sons' bedroom. "What have you DONE??? It smells weird!". That would be fresh air.

Snort of wry recognition here! Grin

Sunset999 · 18/10/2021 12:34

Another one who hates fresh air and lives in a pit of mess

foxgoosefinch · 18/10/2021 12:36

@BathshebaKnickerStickers

We bought our 17 year old a car.

She does not like the car.

She refuses to drive the car.

Crikey. Please adopt me? I would love the car and was always polite to my mum (she was not to me, but that’s another story!)

My 8 y o DD is already gearing up to teenagerhood - I booked a lovely week away in the countryside for half term and all I got was sobbing and “I might miss Halloween!” What tf is so special about Halloween these days…?