Today my teenager was upset because.....

[Positivelypatient]

On the back of the amusing threads about the irrationality of toddlers and their meltdowns, I have this for you.

Today my 17 DD is upset because I suggested booking an expensive (for me as a single parent) spa day for her and her sisters and me that we would go to on her 18th birthday. I hasten to add this is NOT in place of presents, cake and special attention for the birthday girl. Apparently I have made her feel worthless for suggesting she share her special day with her family.

mine swear, i don't mind it. However, i do set out the boundarys about it being extremely disrespectful to swear AT people, including name calling.

I simply lay down the law.. that regardless of what THEIR opinion on it is, it's not acceptable in my house and definitely not in my hearing, and if i hear it out of their mouths again, they will find their tablet/phones confiscated and only returned for homework, which will be done under my supervision.. and any/all other websites/apps will be blocked/deleted if they're so much as looked at sideways.

I don't shout at my kids in these situations, any sanctions are explained calmly as part of a discussion where i explain my reasons (that they need to learn when/where swearing is ok, and when/where its not appropriate), but i also don't allow them any wiggle room or negotiation.

@beigebrownblue good news. Basic parenting = child not yet dead

@PanicBuyingSprouts

No internet doesn’t work practically. Much of her homework is online, on Teams etc

Ok so what sanctions do you normally put in place?

Usually some money docked from her allowance

@ducksalive

My dc use the word bitch far too much and also tell me it is just an everyday word. The most successful thing I have found to stop them is launching into long boring lectures about how they are buying into a patriarchal oppressive system when they use this language, what is the male equivalent... If nothing else fear of hearing these lectures means they try quite hard not to use the word around me at least.

@ducksalive mine tell me bitch is used to males too 🤷‍♀️

My 16 year old DD had an episode today because her baby pictures are not Instagramble enough... it was 2005 and I had just given birth wasn't really thinking about her outfits 6 hours after giving birth

@patrickbatemansbusinesscard

My 16 year old DD had an episode today because her baby pictures are not Instagramble enough... it was 2005 and I had just given birth wasn't really thinking about her outfits 6 hours after giving birth

You mean that you didnt have an entire clothing/bedding/bunting set made just for her first insta post?

You are a shame to motherhood!

:o

We've been away for 3 days, came home to this... my poor wok

Me, "DD, it's good to see you've been cooking for yourself, what did you make ?"

DD "my signature dish"

Me erm, what would that be, I haven't seen you cook anything like that

DD "it is the dish I make for BF, not you" 🙄

Me "what was it"

DD "fajitas"

Me

Me "it might be nice if you made that for us sometime, dad & I like that"

Me still bloody hopeful that she might remember the state of my wrecked wok & apologise

DD "NO" look of horror on her face, rolls eyes & flounces out of the kitchen

so I won't be getting that apology then😏

& why use the wok, why use the wok to cook EVERYTHING

My DD 17 was upset because she had to come all the way downstairs to ask me something because I didn't hear her shouting "mum". I am a terrible mother - I was in the garden. Oh, and I hadn't taken my phone with me. ( our garden is not big ) no stealth boasting here 😂😂

@patrickbatemansbusinesscard I bet you didn’t even bother to buy her a personalised baby grow either did you?

@RockinHorseShit Pink stuff paste will get that off. It looks like you’ve seasoned it though so it’ll get that off too.

Thanks @Fluffycloudland77

I didn't know about that stuff, though usually find a washing powder & vinegar paste does the job, but probably a lot more faff than your paste.

I've decided I'm making her clean it, she needs to bloody learn so it might sit there til she heads off to Uni ,

[quote spiderlight]@2389Champ - I once timed DS ranting and wailing about his maths homework, timed him actually doing the homework, and then presented him with a pie chart. It did actually get through to him![/quote]
This is my 13yo. I’m stealing this.

Today my teen dd is upset because I won’t let her buy this to wear at Halloween. She’s 14.5.

@beigebrownblue

DD criticised me and said that 'everything I did' in terms of washing, cleaning, financing (ten months home schooling to get her through G.C.S.Es) didn't matter and came under the banner of

'basic parenting'

I spent the next few months racking my brains as to what 'basic parenting' might consist of....

any ideas?

Put then in a shed at the bottom of the garden and leave trays outside the door?

p.s. we have no shed.

To be fair, she’s not wrong! Sometimes they call us out and they’re right! I hate that 🤣

This isn't about my children but my mother. My eldest child was born 9 months and 1 day after I got married. She was two weeks early. My mother was disgusted and told me that all here friends would be counting and I mustn't have been a virgin bride!

I think this bears repeating.

And this.

@MsAdoraBelleDearheartVonLipwig

Brilliant 😂😂😂

Though I've just realised that mine was born a know it all & just got rapidly worse from 14 onwards 🥴😂

Oh I can add another one.

I can hear my dd moaning at dh in the kitchen because I haven’t cleaned it up and ‘it’s gross’. Clearly I’m the only one that uses it.

She can get to fuck. It’s Sunday. I spend all bloody week running them about and cooking and cleaning and washing and food shopping. Fuck off madam.

This thread is hilarious 😂😂

My son (15) had a face like a slapped arse as I had the audacity to take him and his brother to Harry Potter Studios. He managed to keep the face up for 3 hours and not smile once, I was quite impressed.

Having showers Is honestly torturous. My younger one has frequent rants about who invented school 🤣

Classics?!

My 15 year old is pissed off with me because he’s gay, has his ears pierced, has no curfew (because he always comes home at a sensible time anyway), I don’t tell him to do his homework (he does it anyway) and let him wear nail varnish. Apparently by not telling him off, disapproving or allowing him to be like this I am not allowing him to rebel like a normal teenager.

@Belendacarlisle

My 15 year old is pissed off with me because he’s gay, has his ears pierced, has no curfew (because he always comes home at a sensible time anyway), I don’t tell him to do his homework (he does it anyway) and let him wear nail varnish. Apparently by not telling him off, disapproving or allowing him to be like this I am not allowing him to rebel like a normal teenager.

Has he seriously said this?

He thinks fact he’s gay is a rebellious act?

Just applied for DS's provisional driving licence online. DS couldn't be bothered to sit down and touch the keyboard so just watched ove rmy shoulder. We got to the organ donation page and I clicked OK - he asked what it was and I told him, he went a funny colour and said I wasn't allowed to disrespect his dead body by ripping bits out of it. So I may have made things worse by saying it's generally only your corneas they take once you're dead, they have to keep your body alive to harvest your heart etc which made him stamp his feet and almost cry with horror. He made me promise I wouldn't "disrespect" him by agreeing to it, and then kicked me off the pc so he could find the organ donation website and opt out of everything.

He admitted he would accept a donor organ, mind. But that's not hypocritical.