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Today my teenager was upset because.....

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Positivelypatient · 18/10/2021 00:03

On the back of the amusing threads about the irrationality of toddlers and their meltdowns, I have this for you.

Today my 17 DD is upset because I suggested booking an expensive (for me as a single parent) spa day for her and her sisters and me that we would go to on her 18th birthday. I hasten to add this is NOT in place of presents, cake and special attention for the birthday girl. Apparently I have made her feel worthless for suggesting she share her special day with her family. Confused

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FreezerBird · 21/10/2021 14:51

@PyongyangKipperbang

And YY to the music ones.

AMAZING band, I wont have heard of them but they are really good and have some great "new" music.

Fleetwood Mac.

I kid you not.

Made it worse when I (innocently) said I had a couple of albums she could have if she wanted to go through the boxes. OMG the fall out from that went on for days because I only offered them to make her look stupid. Even her older sister thought she was being a knob over that one and normally they tag team against me!

A friend of mine had this from her stepdaughter only it was Led Zeppelin!
spiderlight · 21/10/2021 14:59

The Fleetwood Mac and Led Zeppelin ones remind me of DS coming home from a school residential raving about this amazing new dessert that they'd had and how it's really easy to make, so even I should be able to manage it, and how he was going to look it up and see if he could find anywhere to buy it. He started teensplaining to me that it's a special powder that you have to mix with milk, but that I wouldn't have heard of it.

It was Angel Delight.

Cameleongirl · 21/10/2021 15:04

@Odetomelancholy

Loving these….. Last night about 11.15 I’m tired and so say to DD15 just that and that I’m going to bed. She huffs and puffs and says “can’t you just sit there and wait for me to finish painting my nails - it’s not all about you” Oh the irony HmmGrin normally I would’ve said something but I thought of this thread and just laughed which obviously triggered more huffing and tutting - my word - glad it’s not just me and mine!!
Why do they always want you to do something late at night, @Odetomelancholy?! I was having this conversation with a friend recently and we both agreed that 9:30 is our deadline unless it's an emergency or the weekend, we're exhausted! Grin
Snoopsnoggysnog · 21/10/2021 15:19

Proper LOL at “teensplaining”

ShagMeRiggins · 21/10/2021 16:37

@creampuff99

I spent hours tidying up son's room when he was at College, making piles outside his room of all clothes too small for him etc. He came home, put all his clothes back, threw the hoover down the stairs and came to mess my room up so that I could see what it felt Like. Internet is down for up to 72 hours so both teenagers in a complete huff with me as it is clearly my fault that someone crashed into the BT box up the road 🤦‍♀️
Is your son the boy in the John Lewis advertisement? Hmm
notacooldad · 21/10/2021 16:58

A friend of mine had this from her stepdaughter only it was Led Zeppelin!
I did this to my mum in 1979 when I was 14.
My mum was like "🙄 They're not exactly new y' know!"

cricketmum84 · 21/10/2021 17:05

Teensplaining..... this is definitely a thing. I look back fondly on the ages of 15-17 and wish I knew as much now as I did then.

The current thing with my teens is the LGBTQ+

I can't even say "is that friend a girl or a boy" without one of them ticking me off for not including non binary in that statement.

cricketmum84 · 21/10/2021 17:38

Can I just make it clear that I ask that question on hearing some of their friends names! Not seeing them. That would rather insensitive of me!

GellerYeller · 21/10/2021 17:51

I now play only pre approved Spotify playlists if the teens are in the car. Otherwise I get comments like "ugh I'll have to stop liking x now if you like them" if I inadvertently play something they think they've discovered. Grin at the Fleetwood Mac incident mentioned earlier!
All strops are met with 'Fank you Mrs Patterson' in the style of Kevin and Perry.

Bokky · 21/10/2021 18:01

I just had the audacity to offer my soon to be 13 year old DD a Hallowe'en party, inviting any of her friends around. Apparently I have no idea what it's like to be her age.

Odetomelancholy · 21/10/2021 20:46

@Bokky

I just had the audacity to offer my soon to be 13 year old DD a Hallowe'en party, inviting any of her friends around. Apparently I have no idea what it's like to be her age.
GrinGrinGrinoh yes - I’ve had similar said in previous years
bendmeoverbackwards · 21/10/2021 21:32

@EmotionalSupportBear another parent of an autistic teen here. It’s bloody hard. She was diagnosed 3 years at 11.5 and to this day she is in denial about the diagnosis. At first I thought it didn’t sound too bad, she’s high functioning, at mainstream school, has friends etc. But the combo of autism plus teenage girl has been incredibly stressful and this summer reached an all time low which has broken me. Terrible terrible meltdowns which took all my patience to talk her down. We’ve learnt a lot of her triggers so try and act accordingly.

Wearethechampionsmyfriend · 22/10/2021 00:14

Omg please get over the DS calling his mum a bitch, ok it wasn't nice but its been said! It must mean worse in some parts of the country, as its not the end of the world saying it where I live. Personally I think f........ and c... are worse and they're used all the time on MN.

TheBlackArt · 22/10/2021 00:16

@Wearethechampionsmyfriend

Omg please get over the DS calling his mum a bitch, ok it wasn't nice but its been said! It must mean worse in some parts of the country, as its not the end of the world saying it where I live. Personally I think f........ and c... are worse and they're used all the time on MN.
Are you the DS?
Cameleongirl · 22/10/2021 00:18

@Wearethechampionsmyfriend

Omg please get over the DS calling his mum a bitch, ok it wasn't nice but its been said! It must mean worse in some parts of the country, as its not the end of the world saying it where I live. Personally I think f........ and c... are worse and they're used all the time on MN.
Sorry, but I think it’s outrageous to call your Mum a bitch. I’d never have called mine that and my children wouldn’t call me it either, it’s derogatory and disrespectful.

If your Mum doesn’t mind being called a bitch, fair enough, but I doubt most parents would be OK with it.

PyongyangKipperbang · 22/10/2021 00:24

Its not about the word.

Its about the utter disrespect.

How fucking DARE he treat the person who is housing and feeding him in such a way?!

I will not accept that, even if you choose to.....good luck with that by the way.

KloppsTeeth · 22/10/2021 01:26

Sixth Form open evening tonight. I enjoyed watching the teens cringing with embarrassment at having to walk around with their parents/carers Grin when all of their mates were about.

Strangevipers · 22/10/2021 02:01

Been told that he is now a vegetarian.

Made him vegetarian pasta and everyone else chicken pasta

We are all evil and disowned firstly because he can apparently still have chicken despite being veggie and I should of known and that the whole family are evil for not supporting him a d eating chicken

SunsetStyle · 22/10/2021 06:16

@Strangevipers

Been told that he is now a vegetarian.

Made him vegetarian pasta and everyone else chicken pasta

We are all evil and disowned firstly because he can apparently still have chicken despite being veggie and I should of known and that the whole family are evil for not supporting him a d eating chicken

They really are just overgrown toddlers are they?! 🤣
Reallyimeanreally2022 · 22/10/2021 06:20

@Helpmyson

My 16 year old called me a bitch because I have refused to change our flights, back from long awaited holiday, so he can celebrate Halloween with his mates I feel.your pain , why are they so horrid to us ? Will it ever end
This is terrible. If he calls his own mother a bitch

He will be calling his wife a bitch. And worse

Reallyimeanreally2022 · 22/10/2021 06:22

Some of these aren’t just teen moodiness / hormones

It’s abuse. Towards you, their parent.

And they will do the same when they have their own families.

Some of you are raising the men that are splattered all over the Relationships board with posters pleading the OP to leave and go to a refuge with their children

Snoopsnoggysnog · 22/10/2021 06:37

How best to deal with that then? I don’t have teens yet but I am genuinely curious as to what you do when your 16 yo calls you a bitch. Kick them out? Stop their funds?

YanTanTetheraPetheraPimp · 22/10/2021 06:41

MrsFezziwig
the main reason 60s teens wouldn't have said those things is because of the fear of being on the wrong end of ANOTHER violent assault by one parent or the other.

@LaetitiaASD what nonsense.
Yes, what absolute tosh. I was a teen in the sixties and had loving, caring parents. Never a finger lifted in anger, and I’m offended by that nasty post

Then weren’t you bloody lucky, I would have been walloped and shut in my room for days - my parents definitely weren’t ‘loving, caring’!
You were very lucky, many of us weren’t 😡

Iloveallofthem · 22/10/2021 06:42

@MrsRobbieHart

16yo sulked with me for two days because I made him eat breakfast, take a multivitamin and have a good night’s sleep. Apparently this is the height of cruelty.

GrinGrinGrin

Iloveallofthem · 22/10/2021 06:46

@FatAnkles

I'm taking my 15 yo to visit her grandparents ALL HALF TERM. They live 80 miles away in the countryside. There is a bus tothe nearest town every 2 hours. My city-born girl is LIVID.

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