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Positivelypatient · 2021-10-17T23:03:14+00:00

On the back of the amusing threads about the irrationality of toddlers and their meltdowns, I have this for you. Today my 17 DD is upset because I suggested booking an expensive (for me as a single parent) spa day for her and her sisters and me that we would go to on her 18th birthday. I hasten to add this is NOT in place of presents, cake and special attention for the birthday girl. Apparently I have made her feel worthless for suggesting she share her special day with her family. [confused]

FinishWhatWeStarted · 20/10/2021 11:00

Dd15 was massively outraged on holiday when she and I spoke about what kind of holidays we would like to do in future when they are all grown up. Apparently thinking about adults only holidays ten years in the future is really disrespectful towards her!

danblack87 · 20/10/2021 11:02

ON dishes and laundry: my DD was told time and time again to bring down her dishes/glasses [PUT THEM in the dishwasher]/empty her bin [into the dustbin before overflowing] and put her laundry in the basket. Jeez I was such a bad parent: Lesson she learnt: Do not Piss me Off TOO far. She came home one day with her boyfriend --- oooo nice tidy bedroom she thought (she probably thought she had won too!!). WRONG ... hahaha I had put all the dishes and pots under her duvet so she couldn't get in the bed - I had disconnected the dishwasher so she had to wash all the pots by hand. The waste paper basket had been emptied underneath the bed AND her dirty laundry was placed into a drawer with some clean clothes. She learnt her lesson. Now she is 26 and a mother of a 3 year old she understands and we laugh about it. Sure taught her a lesson in life.

FuckingFabulous · 20/10/2021 11:03

@EmotionalSupportBear

Reminds of the kids who thought they'd 'discovered' this amazing new talent when they did a cameo on one of Post Malones tracks..

The artist? Ozzy Osbourne.

Like Twitter going mad when Paul McCartney featured in a Kanye West track, with "this is why I love Kanye, he just gave this old dude the biggest break ever" and "don't know who Paul McCartney is, but his career bout to blow up thanks to Kanye." Oh and, "this guy is proof that it's never too late to be discovered. He'll be thanking Kanye for his good fortune"

Oh, children. Children, children, children.....

FinishWhatWeStarted · 20/10/2021 11:12

Just remembered another one.
Dd15 (again) asked if she could have a tattoo and some piercings. I replied she could when she was old enough to get them without needing parental consent first. We've always taught her that her body is her own and she has autonomy over it so I'm not about to start deciding things like that for her now.
Apparently I'm unreasonable because I said yes and not no!
I could literally see her trying to find an argument to have with me in her head!

cricketmum84 · 20/10/2021 11:13

Also on music ones....

"Mum mum there's this amazing song out by a band called rage against the machine and it's gonna be Christmas number one! Omg you've got to listen to it!!!"

Hate to break it to you kid but I was owning the rock club dance floor with metal spike bracelets and black lipstick to this song before I had even met your father 😂😂

Thisgroupneverceasestoamazeme · 20/10/2021 11:37

@Hardbackwriter I can remember having a eureka moment about how to make everything more fair and excitedly telling my mum the idea and her telling me I’d just described socialism 😆

ineedsun · 20/10/2021 11:43

DD came home with a badge of a cannabis leaf on her bag when she was at college. I asked her if she smoked weed.

She was astounded that I’d recognised what it was and couldn’t possibly understand how I came by this knowledge.

Whitefire · 20/10/2021 11:53

[quote cricketmum84]@EmotionalSupportBear I hear you! My 17yo has just recently been diagnosed as ASD and ADHD. It's been a very hard few years before diagnosis. She needs everything repeating eleventy billion times as it "falls out of her brain" (her words not mine) [/quote]
I hear you too. As mentioned my DS has ASD, the issues we have with him make the ones on here pale into insignificance, hence not sharing them.

RockinHorseShit · 20/10/2021 11:54

Oh the music ones we get too 😂😂😂

DD on discovering ACDC & raving about how much better music is now.

She was most put out when I showed her a video of her dancing to the same track as an 18 month old & that the record was actually mine. I spoil everything apparently 😂😂

notacooldad · 20/10/2021 11:58

My kid asked me if I had ever heard of a band called "oh, my gosh what are they called, yeah The Beatles"
' son, go and talk to your nan, she used to go to the Caven as a teenager growing up in Loverpool at exactly the same time as the Beatles She screamed and nearly fainted when John Lennon walked past her!!!"

BlowDryRat · 20/10/2021 11:59

DS is 11 and considers me 'old' because I don't have encyclopedic knowledge of football players, music or football trading cards. It's also highly unreasonable for me to have parental controls set on his Nintendo Switch and his phone, unlike 'all the other parents'. He also considers it unreasonable that he's required to do extra chores to pay me back for the 50 quid's worth of PE kit he lost in the first two weeks of term.

EmotionalSupportBear · 20/10/2021 12:01

@Whitefire yep... some of what we have to deal with would make peoples hair stand on end. So i have no issue sharing some of the more 'typical teenager' moments, as to be honest, they're refreshingly normal.

danblack87 · 20/10/2021 12:05

@RockinHorseShit

Oh the music ones we get too 😂😂😂

DD on discovering ACDC & raving about how much better music is now.

She was most put out when I showed her a video of her dancing to the same track as an 18 month old & that the record was actually mine. I spoil everything apparently 😂😂

I saw ACDC live at De Montfort Hall when I was 17/18 ... I am now 57!!

cricketmum84 · 20/10/2021 12:07

@BlowDryRat

DS is 11 and considers me 'old' because I don't have encyclopedic knowledge of football players, music or football trading cards. It's also highly unreasonable for me to have parental controls set on his Nintendo Switch and his phone, unlike 'all the other parents'. He also considers it unreasonable that he's required to do extra chores to pay me back for the 50 quid's worth of PE kit he lost in the first two weeks of term.

Oh god the losing stuff!! Typical of my ASD daughter. I often say she reminds me of a puppy chasing a butterfly and everything she was carrying just gets dropped and lost.

She once left her school bag on the bus. Inside were her house keys and her planner that had our address in. Had to change all the locks before we could go to bed as it hadn't been handed in at the depot.

Snoopsnoggysnog · 20/10/2021 12:34

[quote Thisgroupneverceasestoamazeme]@Hardbackwriter I can remember having a eureka moment about how to make everything more fair and excitedly telling my mum the idea and her telling me I’d just described socialism 😆[/quote]
😂 I love this - exactly the sort of thing I would have done as a teen. Mine are I fear, not such deep thinkers but they’re still young so may surprise me

FancyAnOlive · 20/10/2021 12:43

[quote Snoopsnoggysnog]@FancyAnOlive

Your 13 yo is vaping?[/quote]
She isn't but some of her friends are. She tried it and thought it was disgusting.

Chandimum · 20/10/2021 12:45

@TerrifiedandWorried

I opened the window in in my sons' bedroom. "What have you DONE??? It smells weird!". That would be fresh air.

🤣🤣🤣

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 20/10/2021 12:50

re. vaping - honestly, it's endemic in Australia in high schools, it's atrocious.
I'm on the PTA equivalent of DS1's high school and the principal is VERY hot against it, but they reckon about half of the kids at school do it. Not only do it themselves, but deal in them too - they're supposed to be only sold to over 18s but if they're bought over the internet, then who's to know? The sales websites state "only over 18s" but it's not that hard to get around.
Some high schools in NSW are so overwhelmed with the problem that they've given up even trying to deal with it.
A lot of the problem as well is that some families don't care that their kids are doing it, because they think it's better than them smoking. The health and education departments here aren't working well enough together to knock this on the head, but they're trying to find ways to stamp it out.
I actually think Trump's answer to this was quite a good one - to make it illegal to send them by post - but I don't know how well it's worked, to be fair!

Point being that vaping is becoming a real problem in high schools, from Y7 up.

Mummyoflittledragon · 20/10/2021 13:49

I recently caught my 13 yo dd trying a vape and I screamed at her like a fish wife in very colourful language to get in the car. All of her mates scarpered. Think she got the message.

She was in a shop with dh and called me earlier to complain he wouldn’t buy a WKD for her and her friend. Then when I told her no, she relayed that I’d said yes. We are wise to this now and he demanded to speak to me. Funnily enough I’d also said no.

She was most indignant as apparently it’s only 4% and everyone drinks them. We are so uncool and embarrassing. Clearly.

MackemLass79 · 20/10/2021 14:50

As I always told my very frequently embarrassed and annoyed by me dds when they were teenagers and slamming doors stropping off and well just generally being a teenage pain in the arse if u do not hate me as your mum at least once in your life then I haven't done my job properly 😂😂🤣🤣. Needless to say they were not impressed by this haha

Mirw · 20/10/2021 15:05

The problem with your teens are they still have this attitude when they go to uni and try to inflict it on neighbours. The difference between parents and neighbours is that neighbours get attitude from these teens, they phone the police... And their local ASBO unit. Having the ASBO Unit visit can be a very alarming wake up call as it becomes part of their criminal record and needs to be disclosed when they are ready to start working. Just sayin'.

GrealishHairband · 20/10/2021 15:24

My teen reserves the questionable behaviour and somewhat selfish attitude for her Dad and I. Everyone else gets the ‘yes missus pattison, no missus pattison’ version of her (a la Perry).

I don’t worry about her being an entitled asshole to anyone but us. And she knows she gets called out on it all the time and usually responds with a wry smile and acknowledgement of her dickishness.

ineedsun · 20/10/2021 15:42

@Mirw

The problem with your teens are they still have this attitude when they go to uni and try to inflict it on neighbours. The difference between parents and neighbours is that neighbours get attitude from these teens, they phone the police... And their local ASBO unit. Having the ASBO Unit visit can be a very alarming wake up call as it becomes part of their criminal record and needs to be disclosed when they are ready to start working. Just sayin'.

Of course, they all do that. Not just a small number of them who actually have other stuff going on beyond teenage strops.

FinishWhatWeStarted · 20/10/2021 15:57

Dd15's newest one is to instigate an argument about something tiny, push it on and on until I get cross and then plays the victim 'Oooohhh I can't keep doing this. I'm so fed up of arguing with you' wail, wail, cry.
When Dh and I point out that if she hadn't started in the first place it literally wouldn't have happened. The same when she complains about how her younger sister speaks to her when she's the one who started it

NeverDropYourMoonCup · 20/10/2021 17:34

@cricketmum84

Haha on the music ones.

My eldest started to get into Rammstein (a German metal band if you haven't heard of them)

She was most put out when I sang along to a song called Sonne and then told her what the lyrics were in English 😂

One of my best pub conversations ever was in the arse of nowhere with an 85 year old whose favourite band was Rammstein.