Usually on these threads there are two sides and you can see that each side is right in its own view. On this one the CF does not have anything going for him.
On one side he
-was warned not to park on a private drive
-was warned about the locked gate
-lied about how long he was leaving the car (longest 5 min ever)
-didn't knock and ask to be released on his return (even for his kids)
-left the car without explanation (for days)
-got in touch but offered no apology
-demanded a time of his choosing for gate-opening
-ignored OP's appointment and deliberately turned up at a time inconvenient for her.
-name-drops an Xfootballer in his note and in conversation with stranger
-thinks a Ford is a 'puller'
On the other side:
-OP warned him off her drive (but politely and she accepted his 5 min delay)
-OP locked the gate (insurance requires it and she did warn him first).
- OP advertised for him on facebook. (He had disappeared.)
-OP did not arrange for someone else to open the gate for him when he arrived at the time he demanded. (I do approve of keeping open that opportunity for him to apologise. )
- OP shared the story with us. (I'm not complaining about that - it has been a really helpful distraction for me while nursing a very poorly pup through his injury and two ops.)