To feel "posh"

[leopardprintpants]

Have recently bought my DC towelling shorts from Boden for our holiday.. I feel like a bit of a posho which is weird, I know 😂

So what I want to know is, what thing did you buy for your children that made you feel "posh" or even, what have you bought your DC that your parents would have never dreamed of buying for you?

Lighthearted.

First class train travel. Sit in the special lounge at the station reading the paper and drinking free tea and orange juice, and then sit in your lovely individual seat while someone brings you more tea and biscuits.

And no one knows you booked your ticket six weeks ago so it only cost £12.

Fully robed chorister son suggesting salmon sandwiches for the the choir snack.

I feel dementedly posh when I make sourdough. It's so easy and cheap really but it just feels very MC and swank 😁

I once went to tea at a mummy friend's house and she have me my tea on a beautiful bowl shaped cup on a saucer, milk in a jug not just sloshed straight in the mug, and a few biscuits taken out of a glass jar and put on a little side plate instead of sticking the hobnob packet on the table All perfectly simple doable things but it just felt incredibly posh to me - just that extra bit of care taken to make "having a brew" a more beautiful thing ❤️ we're not mates anymore really - met through NCT and she was far too fancy to be friends with me!! 😆 - but I still remember that fancy cup of tea in her beautiful kitchen diner.

See also craggy white and brown sugar lumps in a bowl instead of spooning sugar straight out of the form paper bag!

@Draineddraineddrained

See also craggy white and brown sugar lumps in a bowl instead of spooning sugar straight out of the form paper bag!

Also - that there are people who don't make tea by putting the bag in the mug and just pouring the water on top.

Although I don't feel 'unposh' doing that. Just can't be arsed with a teapot.

😧 At people calling posters chavvy
I've just asked DH whether he wants breakfast on the balcony or the terrace while reading this and thought WTF, we just had a yard when I grew up

Buying an impromptu picnic from the chilled section at Waitrose.

“threatmatrix

Exactly, people have no idea of the ‘real’ posh and it certainly isn’t Boden or Moonsoon.”

I think you have not understood the point of the thread which was things that make you feel posh.

If you normally bought your children clothes
from a charity shop and came across something special you would feel you had something you might think of as posh. If you buy your children clothes from Primarkmbut one day get your daughter a velvet dress from Monsoon, even though it is difficult to afford it, just because it is Christmas and you want it to be special- that might well make you feel you had bought something ‘posh’.

Also, there is no exact formula or brand for ‘posh’. Even though there are associations made to shops or brands as many of us are doing here. You can’t say something is not posh just because it is Monsoon or Boden rather than X. An item from either B or M could well be well made in top quality material, beautifully designed, and make the wearer appear elegant …. Posh.

Some people might not have much money but have an air of ‘poshness’ . The converse is true too.

Oh spudlet, that's lovely. My sister and I, Londoners both and now years exiled still have to curb our excitement when either of us spots a Deer! Tractor! Bats! Rural Stuff! There was a hedgehog in my garden a couple of weeks ago. Visiting Londoner grandson 'Hedgehog!' 8 years old, never seen one before.

[quote Onlyherefortheconspiracies]@irresistibleoverwhelm My dad refers to salad as 'rabbit food' and once refused a cheese sarnie as he could see evidence of two kinds of cheddar

He refers to me and my pals as 'Young folk' (I'm in my 40's) and was we're 'Add our heid' for spending money on gigs and candles.

He's spent a fortune on theatre tickets and meals out for us but always has steak pie followed by trifle. I adore the man.[/quote]
My mum (79) recently referred to her brother and his husband as 'lovely young men". They are both pensioners!

My parents and sibling think i'm extravagant. My sibling laughed at me because I said I don't drink instant coffee and I prefer wine that's more than £9 a bottle

They think im a snob. I think they're inverted snobs

Of course no clothes are actually posh, the materials are all produced in the same way and using the cheapest labour and facilities no matter which brand you buy, often factories in China etc have contracts for multiple retailers just amending slight details but the basic product is the same, I saw one such programme where a lingerie factory produce essentially the same bra for a supermarket chain and a high end retailer (very high end) the difference was the plant manager admitted that the high end retailer sold there’s at 10 times the cost of the brand

I was also told by someone who worked at a uk brand for beauty products that again one of there products was branded and sold at a certain price and then the changed the packaging but the product stayed the same and they put it in a supermarket basic brand package, again it was a decent well known British brand.

Interesting @Backwaterjunction, but not really in keeping with the spirit of the thread

We had hired a car and driver from the airport to Sorrento as it worked out cheaper. Felt very fancy when someone had my name on a card in the airport. Yes before the grumps start I know it isn’t and it’s actually very mundane but taxis never did that where im from!

Also on the same holiday instead of the bus/coach tour down the Amalfi Coast. We found a company that did them by car with a driver. Not that more expensive for a group and he stopped at places the coaches didn’t. We almost felt important and again extravagant.

These experiences are very normal to a lot of people but to someone very working class who only went abroad once as a child( we never had lots of money. In fact we were poor at times in the 80). It feels extravagant and fancy to do things differently.

I guess and apologies for that, I just had a professional interest in social justice sustainability and green issues and can’t help myself I know that about 10 years ago Monsoon were in trouble for using child labour and didn’t pay there workers or suppliers sufficiently so hardly an aspiring brand to me, yep I do buy with ethics in mind even though I’m on the poverty line now

@Perky1

Fully robed chorister son suggesting salmon sandwiches for the the choir snack.

Ha ha! Proud momma?

I remember my son who was hardly old enough to talk saying "no! Black olives not green".

It might have been his first sentence

@VictoriaLudorum

Boden is not "posh" however you define it. Boden sells lower quality goods with a marketing slant on making people feel like they are living a higher quality life.

You really don’t understand this thread do you?

@ItPearl

Shame is when you're having spag bol somewhere not at home and your children ask for pecorino

More shame when your child advises the host that cheddar is not the cheese to serve with pasta and asks where the parmesan is. 😩Fortunately the host was a friend who found it hilarious.😀

I remember feeling posh many years ago when cigarettes were brought to the table on a silver tray!

@Onlyherefortheconspiracies I have very similar memories of my late dad. In the last year of his life ( aged89) I used to travel up the 200 miles once a week and occasionally he asked if we could go on a Sainsbury’s trip. He would choose his bottle of Sherry ( Sainsbury’s own cheapest) and when I pointed out he could try a more expensive brand he looked aghast! He had plenty of money but only in late adulthood so he just couldn’t do “ posh” in any way! Posh to my dad was usually inherited wealth and privelesged lifestyle throughout whole lifetime.
He did often remind us and the grandchildren n, great grandchildren though he was never the complete opposite of posh as in his own words “ we weren’t deprived as I could take an apple to school every day with me in the 1930’s, the poorest children stood by me and asked if they could have the apple core when I’d finished eating the rest”
A different way of life !

He also had a clear difference in his head between “ posh” “ fake posh” “ snooty” etc! Although he was never let them know he knew which camp they fell into!

The story's about children made me think of dc1 the other day trying out a day's golfing activity. They told the pro who was looking after them for the morning that "Winston Churchill said golf was a good walk ruined". Thanks kiddo, I bet he loved you. It was the only golfing related anecdote I've ever related to them. Little bandit.

@Knittingnanny

He also had a clear difference in his head between “ posh” “ fake posh” “ snooty” etc! Although he was never let them know he knew which camp they fell into!

Ah, snooty. I'd forgotten that word. It perfectly describes the killjoys who've poured cold water on this thread.

"I think you missed my point. They both go with salad. I buy mayo all the time now, and I know it isn't posh. But that first time, I felt posh, which is what this thread is about. Not what IS posh."

I'm not saying that one is posh & one isn't.

For me salad cream is for salad & mayo is for chips!

The people that are calling this thread sad are the sad ones and I feel sorry for them. They will never feel the joy of finally being able to afford 'nice' things. Of giving your children more than you had and of treating your Mum to something special.

In a month (hopefully) we will be getting the night train to Cornwall as a treat, and I will feel posh. And I can't wait.