to think it's really cheeky to invite someone to a BBQ then expect them to bring...

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...The BBQ!?

We were invited last week to a friends today for a BBQ. They called this morning asking to borrow our BBQ, we assumed there's had broken or the one they ordered hadn't arrived etc - but no. They don't have one. So we suggested they come to ours and bring some of the stuff they'd bought as our BBQ is very heavy and large (won't fit in the car without removing the child seats and lying all seats flat) but it turns out, that not only did they want us to bring our BBQ, they wanted us to leave it at theirs as they are having other friends this evening.

Was IBU to say no? That I didn't want to take our large BBQ and gas bottle to their house and leave it with them?

[Wowyouareboring]

Wtf that’s not even normal ! Defo say no to that one

[Embracelife]

So if you want rid of your charcal one offer them that one at a good price to keep.
Otherwise no carting of bbqs here Nd there

[arethereanyleftatall]

Really surprised at the responses. This wouldn't have bothered me whatsoever. It doesn't really matter does it? Put the seats down, pop it in, off you go, and have a nice time.

[Howshouldibehave]

So lunch was today? Did you say no and not see them at all?

I wonder what they told their evening friends

Honestly, some people! Who would invite people round to a BBQ when you didn’t actually own one!!?

[Brindisi32]

Hahaha! they'd planned bbqs with friends but didn't have one. And they still don't have one! And they've lost some friends in the process. What a shame, OP, they'll need to bum off somebody else.

[Howshouldibehave]

@arethereanyleftatall

Really surprised at the responses. This wouldn't have bothered me whatsoever. It doesn't really matter does it? Put the seats down, pop it in, off you go, and have a nice time.

And where would their two young children in rear-facing car seats go?

You honestly can’t see this would be a pain??

[Spidey66]

I thought you were going to say burgers as well, which is fine. But not the bbq! And then to want you to leavd it there as they had "friends" coming over? Arent you their friends?

Very, very cheeky.

[Spidey66]

@SheldonesqueHasTheWeevils

Bet they’ve got a right corn on the cob on now ..

Badoomtish

[arethereanyleftatall]

@Howshouldibehave
2 journies? Whatever. If I wanted to go, and they were good friends and I was looking forward to it, I'd just sort it. I just think life is more fun if stuff like this doesn't bother you.

[EmeraldShamrock]

Yes, us for lunch, other friends for dinner - I don't see an issue with this really what with the rule of 6/ 2 households thing. We've done similar last weekend.
Are you allowed change households throughout the day if you stick with 6 people each time?
Yanbu saying no.

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@arethereanyleftatall

Really surprised at the responses. This wouldn't have bothered me whatsoever. It doesn't really matter does it? Put the seats down, pop it in, off you go, and have a nice time.

Except it isn't is it - it's take kids seats out, put seats down , drive 25 - 30 mins, drive 25 minutes back, put seats back up, put kids seats back in, drive everyone 25 minutes and the do the 50 minute round trip to collect the BBQ tomorrow evening.

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Especially as the charcoal one was offered and would go with us and kids no hassle.

[BigPaperBag]

Haha, they should go into comedy 😂😂

[pheasantsinlove]

The CFs!! And they would definitely not have cleaned it properly afterwards I guarantee! YANBU op!

What did they say when you said no?!

[Bluntness100]

Bloody hell. This one takes the biscuit. Bet they only invited you for lunch so they could have the bbq available for the evening.

You don’t invite folks for a bbq if you don’t actually have a bbq..😂

[listsandbudgets]

YANBU. Its possible that I'd have been so shocked by the request I'd have gone along with it in some kind of trance. It's an unbelievable request. I wonder what they were asking the evening guests to bring - half a pig on a spit roast? A fire pit and toasting forks?

On a similar note DP was once asked to bring a TABLE to a party. It was a bit different though as they knew he had a couple of large trestle tables for his business and they did ask him a few days in advance. Neither did they want to use it to give a dinner party for their favoured friends later on.

[Caroline88h]

When my eldest son was one we were invited to a bbq at my cousins. My husband had to build the bbq as she hadnt done that (failed to mention this prior to invite) whilst her mates all had a nice relaxing time drinking and chatting. I was chasing my young son around seething as I used to find it stressful and was glad my husband would be there to split the responsibility of caring for our son. Clearly he couldnt as he was busy. She has since proven what a cheeky git she is by getting my husband to cut her hedges etc. Felt like my husband had the piss taken out of him numerous time by her. My husband is a helpful soul and I say to him people take advantage of him.Cheeky gits everywhere.

[amusedbush]

Fuck me, that's unbelievably cheeky! The fact they wanted you to leave it so they could have other friends round later

Some people have solid brass balls!

[AnneLovesGilbert]

This reminds me of an acquaintance who invited us to dinner and asked me to bring pudding. Got there and it turned out she’d asked someone else to bring pizzas, someone to bring salad and cutlery, someone to bring snacks and plates. I assumed she’d sort drinks at the very least and we were all offered water

It was brilliant. Everyone did as asked and at the end of the meal she sat back and said she was tired and asked if someone could do the washing up...

The next time she invited anyone to go over she found out quickly that everyone was busy.

[QueenValentina]

I once got invited to a BBQ and all invitees were told to bring our own meat, buns, ketchup, even plates.

Totally bizarre!

[EmbarrassingAdmissions]

On a related matter, I've stopped attending celebrations for friends who:
host the event at their home but
instruct all the food and drink it to be provided by attendees;
tightly control the food and drink to be provided by attendees (must be gluten-free to coeliac standards, vegan, and sugar-free);
insist that only public transport must be used to attend (less than convenient if you're toting food/drink/other provisions).

They also insist that partyware (cloths, napkins) is provided by others and that if it disposable it must be recyclable (at something like 4-10x cost of usual items).

I have genuinely needed to bring along a portable oven before now as neither the oven nor grill works on their cooker and only 2 burners. I should also mention that the fridge is not particularly big so if you're travelling a distance (by public transport - see above) you can end up toting a large fridge box to keep any food chill chain intact.

[viques]

Many years ago a friend of a friends neighbours popped round for a drink on Christmas Eve. During the course of the evening they asked what time the f of a f was planning on having their Christmas lunch, because they would like , if that was Ok , to borrow their dining table and chairs for their own festive meal..........

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We'd have happily taken the camping table, extra cahirs, anything that didn't necessitate 2 journies. We'd have also lent it to them if we'd been notified in advanced and could have arranged delivery.

My astonishment was mostly at the time asked (e.g. well after the invite) and wanting to leave it and then their huffiness when we said no.

[peak2021]

No is a complete sentence.

The second BBQ makes me suspect something with more people than the current Covid 19 restrictions, which I don't think you should be enabling in any case.

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Are you allowed change households throughout the day if you stick with 6 people each time?

I think so, I've not read anything against it.