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to think it's really cheeky to invite someone to a BBQ then expect them to bring...

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dotdashdashdash · 11/04/2021 16:35

...The BBQ!?

We were invited last week to a friends today for a BBQ. They called this morning asking to borrow our BBQ, we assumed there's had broken or the one they ordered hadn't arrived etc - but no. They don't have one. So we suggested they come to ours and bring some of the stuff they'd bought as our BBQ is very heavy and large (won't fit in the car without removing the child seats and lying all seats flat) but it turns out, that not only did they want us to bring our BBQ, they wanted us to leave it at theirs as they are having other friends this evening.

Was IBU to say no? That I didn't want to take our large BBQ and gas bottle to their house and leave it with them?

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nancywhitehead · 11/04/2021 16:49

That's crazy, why on earth would someone arrange a BBQ if they don't even own one? Hmm

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UseOfWeapons · 11/04/2021 16:49

These are not friends, they are CFs!
You are definitely not being unreasonable!

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DaphneDuBois · 11/04/2021 16:50

What exactly were they providing as ‘hosts’ of this ‘bbq’? The fucking fresh air?!

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SnuggyBuggy · 11/04/2021 16:50

Not heard of that one before. A salad or some burger buns would be a more typical request. Can't they just get some disposable ones?

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redcandlelight · 11/04/2021 16:51

yanbu
this is funny @dotdashdashdash I hope you said fucking no! with a big exclamation mark.

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SteveArnottsbeadyeyes · 11/04/2021 16:51

So they expected you to bring a gas bbq, leave your gas etc? Beyond cheeky.

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SheldonesqueHasTheWeevils · 11/04/2021 16:51

Priceless.

Bring your bbq, show us how to use it, fuck off home so we can swank to our preferred guests.

Surprised you haven’t been asked to bring the chump chops.

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Lindy2 · 11/04/2021 16:54

I thought you were going to say they'd asked you to bring a cheeky amount of food or drink, not the actual BBQ! 😂

Tell them that unfortunately it is not very portable and far too big to fit in your car. The supermarkets are however selling plenty of disposable BBQs so you're sure they'll be able to get themselves a few from there when they do the food shop.

I would say you have been invited because of your BBQ rather than your company but it doesn't mean you have to go along with the cheeky request. We were invited to a party once and it quickly became apparent our bouncy castle was the reason why we were high on that particular guest list. We did take it along with us but it is far more portable than a dirty BBQ. We also took it home with us when we left.

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SheldonesqueHasTheWeevils · 11/04/2021 16:55

I'd made dessert and was providing some drinks as well. We'd pffered to take more.

Tea round your house tonight sounds delightful Wink

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osbertthesyrianhamster · 11/04/2021 16:56

Haahaa! No. CFers. I'd drop them for this given their response, too.

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ErniesGhostlyGoldTops · 11/04/2021 16:59

I would not bother with their friendship after this either. Cheeky Fuckery at it's finest.

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raincamepouringdown · 11/04/2021 16:59

Hilarious, really.

I'd have told them to nip over to Tesco or a like store and pick one up themselves.

But to be off with you about saying no? Cheeky fuckers.

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NothingIcando · 11/04/2021 17:00

The nerve of some people🤣 So many lunatics out there. How did you leave the conversation with them?

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DeciduousPerennial · 11/04/2021 17:01

So you’d been invited to a pretend BBQ in order that they could procure your nice gas BBQ for free for the real BBQ later on that you are not actually invited to?

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LemonMeringueThreePointOneFour · 11/04/2021 17:01

So they wanted you to come with a barbecue rather than to a barbecue.

CFs, yes.

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SheldonesqueHasTheWeevils · 11/04/2021 17:02

Bet they’ve got a right corn on the cob on now ..

Badoomtish Grin

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SunIsComing · 11/04/2021 17:04

My! What cf!

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HunterHearstHelmsley · 11/04/2021 17:04

Disappointed you didn't go as I want to know what happened 🤣

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alltoomuchrightnow · 11/04/2021 17:05

This did make me chuckle
It's like inviting you to a Christening
Then asking you to bring the baby to be christened!

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hapagirl · 11/04/2021 17:05

No way! BBQs are bloody messy things to transport as well. Tell them to get those disposable ones they sell at supermarkets if they’re desperate.

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littlepattilou · 11/04/2021 17:06

@alltoomuchrightnow

This did make me chuckle
It's like inviting you to a Christening
Then asking you to bring the baby to be christened!

Grin
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NewPapaGuinea · 11/04/2021 17:09

Hilarious! I’d love a TV show where these CF’s are invited on to explain their thought process

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WeatherwaxOn · 11/04/2021 17:09

Amazed that anyone thinks yabu

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Andylion · 11/04/2021 17:09

My neighbours had only moved in the month before when I received an invitation to a cookie baking party. Oh, and could they borrow my oven as they didn't have one.

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HowManyToes · 11/04/2021 17:09

Cheeky fuckers!

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