Things I've done wrong according to teen DD

[GreenHairThingy]

Have enjoyed the various "toddler meltdown" threads over the years - you know the ones where the sandwich was cut the wrong way or the sky was the wrong shade of blue

Well this morning my only interaction with my 17 year old DD had her complaining that:

(super whingey tone) "this isn't fair! My arms just aren't strong enough for this!!! You know I've no upper arm strength" as i callously showed her how to empty and clean the tumble dryer filter so she could dry HER clothes. Take away is: I'm to blame for her lack of upper arm strength: Noted.

5 minutes later she is making herself a sandwich. I've bought a Warburtons loaf this morning.

(totally exasperated tone) "Mum, can you PLEASE stop buying bread that's about to go out of date!"

Confused, I check the date of the bread. It says the 15th March. She continues "exactly! The last loaf ran out on the 13th!!" (the loaf we finished yesterday, on the 11th)

When I politely and calmly suggested she call the team at Warburtons to complain, as i can only purchase the bread that is available with the dates that are offered, she rolled her eyes and said" it's really not ok"

I long for toddler tantrums. They were so much more reasonable.

And knowing what you have been through with your lovely girl and seeing how she's developed into a normal human being, it gives me hope! ❤️

I am liking 'Schrodingers' Mother' and 'binge-teenage-ing'
My 13 y/o ASD dd calls me 'Muther'.
Not much eye contact but strangely her eyerolling is of a professional standard. My 16 y/o (also ASD) is a more appreciative type but oh boy can he monotopic and I think he wonders how I've managed to get through life so far without him :)

@mbosnz

Isn't it funny, how just as you're about to go Homer Simpson on your Teenaged Bart, they do something that just warms the cockles of your heart?!

Haha true. I'll keep her and her weak arms for now.

@GreenHairThingy

And knowing what you have been through with your lovely girl and seeing how she's developed into a normal human being, it gives me hope! ❤️

Uegh I keep deleting the bloody quotes before posting.

That was to @IHaveBrilloHair

Thank you @GreenHairThingy
They do eventually become human again!
I couldn't be prouder of her now.

You’ve made me smile OP. I have a 17 year old daughter too.
Maybe we could swap for a week, change is as good as a rest and all that.

Incredibly frustrating, but one day you’ll look back and laugh. My 18 yo daughter hasn’t spoken to me in 6 months and she will not tell me why. I wish with all my heart that I could roll my eyes in “ugh” with her whining than this silence. Still, from your POV it’s still fucking irritating 🙈

I have one of these too. However, I thought I’d got away with - then she reached her 20’s and BAM there it was. She’s 23 now and no better

Lovely post @Graphista your dd sounds fab and you have clearly done a great job in bringing her up 😀

I am always amazed how girls speak to their mothers these days. I was too terrified of my father to ever talk like that!

I genuinely don't know what I've done to deserve my teenagers, they are honestly a joy to be around (95% of the time). They're both sunny natured and easy going, always seeing the silver lining rather than the cloud. And I love how their sense of humour has developed into full fledged sarcasm and irony.

I suffered terribly with PND and it took months for me to bond with DD, so I feel doubly blessed at how close we are now. Right now she's cooking my favourite stir fry for dinner x

My kids do actually talk to me, so I take the rough with the smooth, as opposed to never talking with my parents! There is a limit though, and they know it. . .

My 16 year old daughter sulked for three hours in the car the other day because she dipped my purse under the car seat and moaned that I was unreasonable asking her to help look for it and then she forgot to take a mask when going to the shop and had to come back to the car park to get one. My fault apparently!

I've been fairly fortunate, DD got most of it out of her system as a toddler and DS has never been stroppy. However we DD would bring her uniform down to be washed late in the evening, expecting it to be done for the morning. She would take 2 hours to get ready for school, then moan she was going to be late while not hurrying at all. She enjoyed being downright awkward (she was going to be a bridesmaid, dress arrived for her to try on and she took it to her room. Several hours later and despite her telling me at least five times that she was just trying it on, it turns out it was still in the package. One mother's day she stayed in her room all day, only to throw a card at me in the evening when she finally came out for food. Making us miss a train when we were off for a night away because she had the hump and then a bird shat on her!). We laugh about it now though

Absolutely. We enjoy lots of bantz and taking the piss out of each other. But it is never, ever cruel and there is a line they know not to cross. They are 100% secure in the knowledge that DH and I utterly adore them.

If it's toxic to laugh on here and roll my eyes at my teens instead of smacking them across the face or not speaking to them for days as my mother did to me then I'm toxic.

I bought socks with the days of the week on ....... teenager put Tuesdays socks on on Wednesday ...... forgot to take a project that had to be handed in on Wednesday because the socks said it was Tuesday ....
My fault for not checking he had the right days socks on.

@Carol44

I bought socks with the days of the week on ....... teenager put Tuesdays socks on on Wednesday ...... forgot to take a project that had to be handed in on Wednesday because the socks said it was Tuesday .... My fault for not checking he had the right days socks on.

Classic!

@FreddieMercurysCat

Incredibly frustrating, but one day you’ll look back and laugh. My 18 yo daughter hasn’t spoken to me in 6 months and she will not tell me why. I wish with all my heart that I could roll my eyes in “ugh” with her whining than this silence. Still, from your POV it’s still fucking irritating 🙈

Sorry to read this @FreddieMercurysCat. Hope, for your sake, she snaps out of it soon, 6 months is a very long time to be sulking!

Oh I want to cry. I've got a nearly 13 year old and quite frankly I've nearly worn my back molars down. But I teach 17 year olds and they seem so civilised in the main! I obviously get the 'guest' behaviour! I thought I had something to look forward to and I was clearly wrong

I honestly don’t know how any of you put up with this and am not regretting being childless right now 😲

17 is plenty old enough to do their own laundry and buy groceries - if she isn't happy with her current level of "service" maybe she could do these things for herself in future

Because they are your child and you love them fiercely, you adore them, and in between the horrid, they are fun and kind, generous, intelligent, sarcastic and very much a wee part of you, and as hard as it is, you love being their Mum.

That was for @fluffycloudland77

And whilst reading all this and saying “been there” I wouldn’t swap a teen for a baby. Never. Despite the the head teacher calling me in, the police dropping him off, the squaring up to dad, the girl fall outs, the body insecurities, the first love break ups, I absolute love young adults that absolutely know it all.

They usually come up good in the end.