My husband is tired. I thought I’d better tell you all

[FlamingoAndJohn]

There has been so much huffing and puffing around the house about how tired he is that I think he wants everyone to know.

Mine is suffering from the after effects of his "migraine"
To keep you all updated he didn't sleep well AT ALL. He couldn't get comfy, it was too warm etc. He is thinking about taking some pain killers but will have a cup of tea first. I shall keep you all updated on this crucial situation

TW2013, I raise you the ‘I think I slept ok....’
Thus reserving the right to later claim having not actually slept all that well....

I'm genuinely baffled as to why these men think anyone gives a flying toss about how they slept.... It's not like they in turn care about how their wives slept. DH sometimes comes in yawning and saying, "I didn't sleep well last night". I've adopted his tactic of completely blanking me when I say something uninteresting to him (like could you take the bins out ). Since I always seem to be the one getting up with DS (DH doesn't hear him, apparently ), it's either that or resort to physical violence.

Oh the poor lamb.

I haven't seen mine for nearly 6 months due to virus but he informs me every day that he is exhausted.
A few days ago, after being up vomiting most of the night (gluten!), then cleaning house from top to bottom, weeding garden, sorting horse and walking dogs, I said I was a bit weary. His response?

'You're always tired!!!'

WTF!!!?!!!

I did not take that well, I must admit.

I have just bought my huffing, puffing, sighing, grimacing and also refusing pain killers teen a new mattress.

So any future behavior I can say - but I've bought a new mattress like the loving mother I am while also hoping if there really is an issue it will be sorted.

@MessAllOver

I'm genuinely baffled as to why these men think anyone gives a flying toss about how they slept.... It's not like they in turn care about how their wives slept. DH sometimes comes in yawning and saying, "I didn't sleep well last night". I've adopted his tactic of completely blanking me when I say something uninteresting to him (like could you take the bins out ). Since I always seem to be the one getting up with DS (DH doesn't hear him, apparently ), it's either that or resort to physical violence.

Oh yes - My Dh apparently NEVER sleeps. So you’d think he would have heard the children when they were babies and got up and sorted them out seeing as he was laying there wide awake?

Funnily enough, every time they cried he was. Snoring away next to me oblivious to the screams as I sorted feeding abs changing.

He never slept though. NEVER.

Hilarious DH is good at the performative sighing.

@Billyjoearmstrong. I'm not sure what's worse... They're either telling porkies about being awake (most likely!) or they've actually been awake and listened to their children crying and thought, "sod that, I can't be arsed to get out of bed to deal with this. Muggins can do it".

@Nobbynobbsknob

My ex has been seeing out covid here as we get on pretty well and are sharing childcare /schooling while working. It's worked surprisingly well.

He has piles.
Fuck.ing.hell

You guys have it easy just coping with tired lambs. Try spending time with someone who is tired but can't sit down.

I'm really sorry, I am such a bad person, but this has creased me up.

@MitziK

Mine tried that once. He wanted to not bother cooking and for me to get myself a takeaway because he'd had to get up early for work (the day before) and wanted to take himself off for a little liedown.

'Why are you laughing?'

'What is it?'

You did three hours. Three. Hours.

'Yeah, but - '

When I made eye contact with him and whispered Three. Hours, his face looked like he'd just been caught in a cupboard on the Nostromo, struck a match and the Alien Queen had just appeared from the darkness. Because he'd just remembered that I was in the middle of six weeks of 57 hour weeks and was going in for four 17 hour days on the trot from 7am the next morning.

That was probably the nearest he has ever had to a Near Death Experience.

He's signed up for all the extra hours he can get this year.

😂😂😂😂😂

@MrsSnitchnose

Not tiredness, but a pain one.

I'm single but have been treated to a daily update on my dad's knee, courtesy of my driven demented mother. He has a problem with one of his knees (possibly arthritis, possibly cartilage wastage) but obviously those doctors don't know anything.

Consequently, he shuffles round the house moaning and limping and constantly wakes mum up at night because he's in so much pain won't do physio, painkillers or any of the other prescribed things How she hasn't murdered him yet I don't know.

As an aside, the problem miraculoulsy disappears the second she's not in the vicinity

God this describes my dad exactly.

I even made him a GP appointment (in Jan, before all the corona stuff started) and he refused to go.

Pisses me off because he's such a drama queen about it.

Years I put up with exDH falling asleep on the sofa, snoring, waking up and then claiming he hadnt been asleep. I would suggest that if he is tired, he go to bed but no, he isnt tired and he hadnt fallen asleep. I took to videoing him but it made no difference.

I had forgotten how much it pissed me off, getting annoyed thinking about it and I got rid of the cunt 2 years ago!

My dad used to do that.

If I turned over the TV he would wake up x amount of time later pissed off that his tv has been switched over

When I said he was asleep, apparently he wasn’t asleep he was just “resting his eyes”

Of course, when I said he was snoring, I was hearing things.

Oh god yes....resting his eyes.

He once slept through an entire programme he was "watching" (with Xray vision through his eye lids presumably), and then accused me of turning over when I said it had finished before he woke up. He hadnt been asleep AT ALL, he knew I'd turned over and just didnt say anything......

That the TV was on the same channel and the clock clearly showed and hour and a half had passed since the show had started meant NOTHING!

I'm genuinely baffled as to why these men think anyone gives a flying toss about how they slept
Their friends on the cycling forum care

Reading this thread makes me think how do we all NOT manage to 'rearrange the patio' .. ahem.... iyswim, Fromage I think judge and jury would have backed you up.

This morning (not working, should have been a lie in and leisurely breakfast time) I came downstairs and got about an hour of moaning regarding pet dust in the living room. This included a bad tempered 20 mins clattering about looking for a dust mask and the usual passive aggressive question to me about have I moved seen it?

Thanks for the op OP

Mine is tired. AND IT'S HIS BIRTHDAY!!!!

And I am currently bedbound under strict instruction from the gp and district nurses NOT to get up but to keep taking many many many strong drugs.

I have a commode.

I have been like this for nearly a week.

So dh is bringing me many cups of tea every day. Up to the second floor, and meals.

So often he is a bit of a knob, but currently he is being an angel.

@shadypines. This assumption that all mess is the woman's responsibility 😡! I've found the most effective strategy is to aggressively assume it's someone else's problem. When DH "points out" that the floor needs hoovering or there's no toilet rolls in the bathroom, I tell him to report it to housekeeping because it's not my problem!

Husband has a bad wrist because he's been wanking using his cell too much.

I gave him my wrist splints that I used when I had Carpal tunnel in both wrists when pregnant.

He won't wear them as he says they look foolish. He does look foolish, of course, but he seems to think I should give a shit and offer him sympathy?

Why would I care?

Oh, my DH is never tired.
He is fatigued .
Always fatigued.
I hate that word now...

Couldnt possibly have been asleep.
My Dad was never asleep, just 'resting his eyes'.

@MessAllOver ha ha yes that sounds like a good strategy!
@Billyjoearmstrong oh dear your poor soundly asleep not sleeping DH! This state of not being either awake or asleep must be terrible!

My DH take on too little sleep "woe is me, I feel awful, I've not slept",
-too much sleep and I get "woe is me, I feel awful, I've slept too well"

LOVE your name @motorcyclenumptiness!

Some of these men sound very self centred and really fucking annoying actually. I could not cope with a grown adult moping and sighing and complaining, it's not attractive and I certainly wouldn't want to fuck them. That's before we even discuss the cardigan

I know a lot of this is lighthearted and I love a dressing gown of doom but some of these men sound like self centred pricks.

My ‘exhausted’ DP (despite him having slept for 9 hours while I got woken up by dd twice in the night and started the day at 5:30am) sighed so loudly this afternoon that dd age 4 looked at him and asked me “why is he breathing like that? Is there something wrong with him?”

Oh, my DH is never tired.
He is fatigued .

TATT (Tired All The Time) syndrome is typically associated with women so your DH obviously needs something to distinguish himself from that.

FAULT - Fatigued And Unappreciated Longsuffering Trooper?