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My husband is tired. I thought I’d better tell you all

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FlamingoAndJohn · 10/07/2020 17:22

There has been so much huffing and puffing around the house about how tired he is that I think he wants everyone to know.

OP posts:
Mincingfuckdragon2 · 03/09/2020 13:59

Mine tells me he's 'so tired' because he 'only sleeps 6 hours a night'.

No, DH, you fall asleep on the sofa at 7.30pm, sleep until 11pm (snoring loudly so as to ensure noone can enjoy watching television or listening to music), then get up, complain about how tired you are at least twice, faff around for an hour then go to bed at midnight.

9.5 > 6 I think...

PollyPepper · 15/05/2021 11:27

Just resurrecting this Classic to inform everyone of another member of the OSVTC (Oh So Very Tired Club). DH has been a fully paid up member for a while now.

I work in emergency services, and regularly work 12 hour night shifts, but nothing can possibly compare to his 9-5 working from home Zoom meetings.

Strangley this affliction only seems to hit when he's been up on his phone until 3AM. It's all very strange.

Will keep you posted how today goes although I can see a 2 hour nap on the sofa approaching shortly, again meaning he doesn't fall asleep until 3AM, and then tomorrow contemplates how it could POSSIBLY be that he is tired AGAIN.

A medical mystery.

1988Username · 16/05/2021 09:34

@PollyPepper thoughts and prayers for the big guy.

Saetana · 20/05/2021 19:25

Thanks for the laugh ladies - loved the dressing gown of doom, nocturnal cunty owl and the shuffling slippers of suffering! Seriously though - with this kind of behaviour its best to nip it in the bud early on, my husband knows he would get an earful if he started being whiny. I did notice an earlier poster though who did not have children and no issues with moaning husband - same here, and mine was like the energiser bunny until we hit our 50s (he has serious health issues now - and STILL doesn't complain).

Strugging to see how some of you don't divorce the idle bastard - I did think younger husbands would have been brought up to take on their share of chores and childcare, clearly that is not the case. Then again, I have excellent taste in men and hit the jackpot with mine Wink

Ladies who are raising boys take note please - do not raise a lazy bastard for some other poor woman to cope with Grin

nildesparandum · 20/05/2021 20:01

I have just found this thread and feel I just add my bit.This was a longtime ago now nearly 49 years to be exact.
I am now a great grandmother and a widow.My late husband was ex merchant navy, he went on a sea trip when I was three months pregnant with my DS2.DS1 was two years old.He told me he would be back home in time for the birth.I had had an EMCS for DS1 and he and I almost died in the process I was very ill for quite a bit so was feeling very anxious about this coming birth.
Well as the delivery date got nearer and nearer still no signs of him just letters about how he was enjoying himself immensely and having a whale of a time at shore in foreign countries etc.No mention of coming home.
I went into labour 10 days late MIL was caring fo DS1.Complications in labour again so another EMCS under GA like the first time.I went under saying my prayers asking God to save me as I had a little boy who needed his mother.I came round to have another son and all was well Thank God.
Was in hospital 10 days still no DH.Came home to cope with a screaming baby and a toddler who needed comforting after being apart from his mother for nearly a fortnight.DM and MIL very little help.
DH announced he was coming home two months later.I was unable to meet him at airport because of childcare.I stayed at home prepared a dinner for him to be ready when he arrived.
Well he walked through the door, barely glanced at his two sons, and declared he was going to have a lie down straight after dinner as he was tired after sitting in an airport for ages waiting for a flight.
Tired? I told him I can tell you what tired is, coping here on my own with two children including a new born who could scream for England as well as doing cooking and housework and all after major surgery which had left me with a huge incision in my abdomen (the classical longitudinal version).I tried to forgive him thinking that he was doing this as coping mechanism after what happened the first time.To rub it in MIL had told him I did not have a c- section this time but a very easy birth as she did not want to upset the poor lad.I soon put him right about that one
Sorry for long story.DH passed away 18 months ago I feel awful now saying this but it is true.

LookItsMeAgain · 20/05/2021 20:11

Yep. I have one of these long suffering males in my house too. He doesn't have the dressing gown of doom but he does have the grey leggings/trackies.

I'm still waiting to find out what "The Incident" that @GoldenHoops mentioned months ago in one of their posts was.....am I alone in that???

Rosieposie79 · 20/05/2021 20:18

Persuaded my DH to go the the GP today because he has moaned about a painful toe for weeks now and insists on showing the whole family at every opportunity. GP gave him plaster and told him to get new shoes!

(Apologies for wasting NHS time).

AdaFuckingShelby · 20/05/2021 20:18

nildesparandum that takes the biscuit.

OneMamaAndHerGirl · 20/05/2021 20:53

Just thought I’d let you all know mine has been on a roof in the pouring down rain all day, you know because he’s said it 5 billion times I think he wants you all to know

Hooplabum · 20/05/2021 21:11

@muckandnettles

Mine has had the huffing and puffing for a while but now I'm afraid he has a bad case of tutting as well.
This made me laugh so much. Sometimes feel like it’s like being married to Victor Meldrew.
BorderlineHappy · 20/05/2021 21:58

he actually complained about a headache during my 14 hour labour and then told everyone after how difficult it was for him because he didn't have any paracetamol hmm

I was getting 2 blood transfusions after the birth of my last child.
Dp god love him told the nurse he was tired.
So i told the nurse to give my DP the blood as he obviously needed it more than me.
At least he had the good grace to look ashamed and the nurse was pissing herself.

1sweatybetty · 20/05/2021 22:54

Oh God yes, the whining while I was in labour. Complained of hunger, then of being tired. Then asked the midwife about 5 times how long it was going to take. Then put the telly on, then had a nap. Then went for a walk to 'stretch his legs' just at the pointy end, and got lost so very nearly missed the birth.

And I couldn't say anything about any of this, as I was in so much pain from the start that I couldn't speak (induction).

(After some robust discussion about how he might correct his behaviour, he was much better for the second child Grin ).

TopBlogger · 20/05/2021 23:16

"After some robust discussion about how he might correct his behaviour"

Grin that's so funny! Would love to have been a fly on the wall!

1sweatybetty · 21/05/2021 00:30

@TopBlogger it actually took me ages to realise how shit he'd been - first birth was traumatic and and it wasn't until I got very very anxious about having a second and talked to a professional about it that I realised he'd been really neglectful. So for the second I said - no phone, no TV, no naps or wandering off, look at me the whole time, ask me regularly if I need water/ice/a backrub/ someone to advocate for me. And if I say 'no I'm fine' once that doesn't mean he doesn't have to ask again. And I told the midwives in front of him that he hadn't done enough in the first labour and that they could feel free to.prompt him if he slacked off. And he was great (helped that second labour was under 2 hrs).

He has ADHD although it was undiagnosed at the time - knowing that has made it easier to forgive him.

TopBlogger · 21/05/2021 08:53

I love that set of "rules" - and great that he was such a help after the first birth!

FlamingHot · 21/05/2021 08:58

My dh is also tired and grumpy. I am peri-menopausal and have chronic insomnia. He will NEVER win this one. He still tries though.

iknowimcoming · 21/05/2021 09:34

My husband is not only tired, I'll have you know, he is also VERY STRESSED WITH WORK! So because he's VERY STRESSED WITH WORK he's not sleeping well at all, and he's therefore VERY TIRED AND VERY STRESSED WITH WORK!

So he's wearing his shuffling slippers of sadness WITH his onesie of woe, and it's truly heartbreaking to witness his suffering!

Please join with me in lighting a candle and counting our blessings that we can only imagine what these poor men-folk are going through Sad

Saetana · 22/05/2021 08:40

Onesie of woe lol - I need to make a list of these Grin

1988Username · 22/05/2021 14:31

Well, mine NEVER sleeps at night, he is awake ALL night (apart from the times that I wake up and he's snoring, where he had just drifted off) every night.

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