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My husband is tired. I thought I’d better tell you all

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FlamingoAndJohn · 10/07/2020 17:22

There has been so much huffing and puffing around the house about how tired he is that I think he wants everyone to know.

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ruabon · 10/08/2020 19:44

@FlamingoAndJohn has he always been like this? I thought it was only Kevin the Teenager who said that nobody understands me?

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FlamingoAndJohn · 10/08/2020 19:47

[quote ruabon]@FlamingoAndJohn has he always been like this? I thought it was only Kevin the Teenager who said that nobody understands me?[/quote]
Yes. He is lovely really though.

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TheSecondMrsAshwell · 10/08/2020 19:49

@FlamingoAndJohn

nocturnal cunty owl

I want that on a tea towel, cushion and bedspread.

That is deffo worth a t-shirt if you ask me: I want to be a nocturnal cunty owl - and I'll have one if poss.
ExtremelyBoldSquirrels · 10/08/2020 19:55

Mine is tired too. And sore. And grumpy. He’s not sleeping well because of the pain. It’s important that you all know this.

For context, he is whinging about this to me. I am recovering from a dislocated elbow a few weeks ago and I have nothing like full use of my arm. It may need surgery.

I also gave birth exactly one week ago. It was an EMCS, so I’m trying to recover from the Unexpected major abdominal surgery and breastfeeding an infant (in a house with 3 other children in it).

And, as far as I can tell, his terrible, broken sleep involves sleeping through all the night wakings. Even the ones where I have to struggle out of bed (with one arm I can push up with and no functional stomach muscles) to change a nappy.

So it’s clearly vital that you all understand his tired and sore he is.

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FlamingoAndJohn · 10/08/2020 20:04

Oh and he had a bad back. I had to know all about the bad back every time he moved, stood up or farted.

However at the weekend we were at a friend’s house who needed the chaps present to help move a piece of furniture upstairs. Guess who was first up to help.

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Badabingbadabum · 10/08/2020 20:12

My dh took dd1 to a holiday club and dd2 to nursery then sighed and said he was at a bit of a loose end. Obviously I am unable to entertain him and come up with things for him to occupy himself with as am working from home.

FawnDrench · 10/08/2020 20:19

My husband has a sore big toe joint and had a wee bit of difficulty putting on his heavy steel-toe capped work boots earlier today.

He has however worn said boots for 7 hours solid and seems to be walking limp-free.

But his toe joint IS still a bit sore...

Badabingbadabum · 10/08/2020 20:21

This thread has made me laugh so much! I am very much against stereotypes but it is good to know that Very Tired Man afflicts so many out there!

peaceanddove · 11/08/2020 10:29

Does anyone else's DH deploy The Shuffling Slippers of Sympathy when they feel in need of attention? I don't even need to look at DH to know when he's feeling at a loose end, because I can simply hear it. The SSofS creeping their way into whatever room I'm in, usually just when I've got settled with a good book and a cuppa. Helpfully, just incase I missed his SSofS, DH likes to heave a mammoth sigh as he enters the room, akin to a bear roaring into a steel dustbin. Even the thought of that helpless, scuffy, shuffle noise makes me hateful.

NormaLouiseBates · 11/08/2020 11:06

Christ, they're pathetic aren't they? Why do we put up with this shit? I'm asking myself too as mine is the same. The "I didn't sleep a wink" with pathetic sad face.... you were sleeping quite well when you were snoring like a PIG all fucking night. The deep sighs as he looks at me out of the corner of his eye. I just fucking ignore it now. Seems the best way. Ignore the bad behaviour and he'll (mostly) stop doing it. Like a dog.

sueelleker · 11/08/2020 11:09

@NormaLouiseBates Or smack his nose with a rolled-up newspaper?

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FlamingoAndJohn · 11/08/2020 11:27

Rub his nose in it!

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shadypines · 11/08/2020 11:55

@peaceanddove ..your post 😂😂..yes mine does the SSofS..like you say you can HEAR the mood can't you? I can sense by the what I can best describe as the 'depressed caveman' walk, where it looks as if his knuckles are going to aimlessly scrape the floor, that he is feeling 'oh woh is me'.

Camphillgirl · 11/08/2020 13:37

Just met your DP in Aldi. When I got to the till he greeted me cheerfully with Hello how are you today, me in brightest sparkly voice, “yes great it’s such a lovely day again I am going to sit in garden and drink cool drink and read the paper. What time are you off today ?” I knew it was your DP because I could see him puff up his face and do the eye rolly thingy before letting out a huge sigh......

Oh I am soooooo tired and HOT...............

Bless. Run tepid bath and change cool sheets on bed so he can have a rest before X box till 4 am

Ilovesausages · 11/08/2020 14:36

We were on holiday last week in a holiday cottage. My DH found a blanket and took to shuffling round wearing the blanket like a dressing gown of doom.

He also is Very Busy. This morning I was in bed and he brought me some coffee, then he jogged out of the room to demonstrate how busy he is. He also eats cereal while doing other things which I also find irritating.

Honestly though I probably moan about tiredness more than he does 😁

Oldraver · 11/08/2020 15:05

Mine has hayfever (the same as me) but on bad days he always says look my eye is pissing (as in fluids coming out) and he will look at my with one eye closed. He wont take anything specifically for said 'pissing eyes'

Yesterday on the sofa he said "look my eye is pissing, and it's all closed"

I just said "well open it then" and he did. His eye wasn't swollen shut, oh no, he was just closing it for effect

ExtremelyBoldSquirrels · 11/08/2020 19:22

Mine’s been for acupuncture this morning (£50) for his sore back. And he’s been taking magnesium to help him sleep.

The physio doing the acupuncture told him that his posture is dire (all physios tell him this). Then established that he does know what he needs to do to fix that. His back won’t get better otherwise.

He also told me to stop talking to our restless week old baby who was fussing in the early hours. Apparently he was trying to sleep. Because me quietly shushing a tiny baby who won’t sleep while he snores away is dreadful behaviour. Clearly I’ve got it easy.

Elbbob · 11/08/2020 19:47

@ExtremelyBoldSquirrels please kick him out of bed next time the baby wakes in the night! And then again the next night. Does he realise you had major surgery and a recently dislocated arm? How can he justify letting you do everything!

ExtremelyBoldSquirrels · 12/08/2020 10:32

Oh. I wasn’t nice about the ‘trying for sleep’ nonsense @Elbbob. Far from it.

I’m breastfeeding so he’s not much use during the night. The least he could do is be bloody grateful for everything I’m doing!

caulioccolii · 16/08/2020 20:12

My husband is wet.

Last week it was hot, we know that. He makes a point of telling me what the weather is each day despite me not asking.
As if ' huff' it's hot today so I'll just sit here, or 'huffffff' raining so I'll not go to work is an option.
Have advised taking spare t shirt, socks, deodorant etc as if he's a toddler but no.
Today it's raining. He knew that, he told me this morning that is was going to shit it down. He's just text me to say he's drenched.
More washing for me- yay!

Halfpastafreckle · 19/08/2020 10:26

This must be a candidate for classics - we need to record ‘high functioning for a man’ for future mumsnet generations

RobinHobb · 25/08/2020 18:28

Yes agree
Also nocturnal cunty owl

isthismylifenow · 25/08/2020 19:03

Gawd I do not miss this. My ex works away 5 weeks and home 5 weeks. Whilst at work he has to have 11 hours sleep a night. 11 hours! If we were chatting he would be, uh-oh it's x o'clock, time for beddie byes. Ffs. He's 49! Then when he was off from work he spent the first 2 weeks sleeping to catch up on sleep as he reckons he missed loads. Then he would sleep until say 8am, have a cup of coffee, then go back to sleep until about 10 or 11am. Then he'd need an afternoon nap and then wonder why he wasn't tired at 10pm like me. Who had done a full day's work. Then his last 2 weeks before going back to work was the same sleeping pattern, but this was to get the last of the lie ins in before going back to work.

If course it went down like a lead balloon when I claimed he wasn't tired all the time rather than lazy. The relationship went downhill at a rapid pace after that.

And if I had to hear about his bloody tennis elbow one more time. Wouldn't see the Dr, wouldn't do anything about it except moan.

Apparently I'm not very sympathetic.

Delphinium20 · 02/09/2020 02:58

I convinced my sister to join MN because of this very thread. Her husband is equally tired. Must be an epidemic.

differentnameforthis · 02/09/2020 10:14

I'm so pleased I know that!

Mine would like everyone to know the same. Even though I am not sleeping well myself...but yeah, the guy who goes to bed at 8.30pm is tired.