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My husband is tired. I thought I’d better tell you all

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FlamingoAndJohn · 10/07/2020 17:22

There has been so much huffing and puffing around the house about how tired he is that I think he wants everyone to know.

OP posts:
RobinHobb · 10/07/2020 20:33

@ChickenFriedFudge

I'm so sorry to hear yours has been hit by the same affliction as mine. It's truly a concerning ailment. The oddest symptom appears to be being exhausted throughout the day, sleeping on the sofa until 7PM, and yet suddenly being wide awake at night and not going to bed until 3AM like some nocturnal cunty owl. Most strange.
Nocturnal cunty owl

Oh I can't stop laughing

Vodkacranberryplease · 10/07/2020 20:34

I think I might be a man! Housework exhausts me. Sitting in front of gardeners world after ironing 2 dresses. Summoning up the strength to do more but... am tired.

This isn't natural is it? No man will ever want me without the stamina of you lot. It's un-womanly.

ToriaPumpkin · 10/07/2020 20:35

Mine is rarely tired but good Gods the sniffing and snivelling and huffing when he comes into contact with even a microscopic amount of pollen... I have been known to throw boxes of tissues across the room at him when he sniffs, and sniffs, and sniffs... And sniffs. And then hawks it all back and makes that vile, vomit inducing burble of snot in theback of his throat, then coughs, then goes back to sniffing. I buy him the drugs and the local honey and implore of him to go to the GP for the good shit but apparently he'd rather flap around like a Dickensian heroine with a snotty tissue in his hand.

RobinHobb · 10/07/2020 20:37

Love this thread
So glad I'm not alone

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 10/07/2020 20:41

My DS (20) complains about "Sleep Deprivation" when he was up doing some University work.

He was doing long hours (pre-lockdown) on his University days , coming home , eating dinner (that we put on when we knew he was getting off the train)
Then he worked till 2am but was able to sleep late the next day .

Apparently my "Sleep Deprivation" when he was a newborn wasn't on a par with his .

MessAllOver · 10/07/2020 20:43

Is there any difference between husbands and toddlers? You could all be talking about your children Grin.

When my toddler is tired and grumpy, I run him a relaxing warm bath, lay out his comfy PJs, give a glass of warm milk, read him a story and tuck him under the duvet, stroking his forehead gently. Lots of husbands here seem to expect the same treatment (substituting the glass of milk for something stronger, perhaps!). That's spooky!

Am I setting DS up to expect the same treatment from future DIL in 30 years time? I hope not (poor woman!).

Pericombobulations · 10/07/2020 20:50

Mine also suffers this mandemic of being permanently tired.
He also manages to snore whilst being wide awake. Couldnt possibly have been asleep.

Although in his defence he is having to do all the housework since i got diagnosed with MS, although I am putting my PIP towards paying a window cleaner and gardener. If I can declutter fully then I will also treat us to a cleaner!

DollyPartons · 10/07/2020 20:51

@ToriaPumpkin Allergy tablets and a regularsaline flush bottle from boots because prevention rather than cure. I know your pain to be next to the fucking SNIFF . Like a cocaine addict on speed. I have had to cock my ear out of car window to detract myself from such fucking SNIFF. He can't help it don't you know? And it is knackering. But more knackering listening to woe me, woe me me me me I, I, I .

EmbarrassingAdmissions · 10/07/2020 20:55

dressing gown of doom

Along with the shuffling slippers of suffering?

FreddoFrogAddict · 10/07/2020 21:01

Mine huffs and puffs about what a long drive it is every time he drives us to our DD's who lives a 2.5 hour drive away. Once we get home it's (sigh) "that's a long drive that is", "that's a really long drive", and he's just so worn out by it he has to go straight to bed because (sigh) "that drive's really tired me out". I never mention the fact that I do, and have done, that drive countless times on my own, particularly on the run-up to DD's wedding, and have never required any special attention or sympathy as a result. Twat.

MitziK · 10/07/2020 21:02

Mine tried that once. He wanted to not bother cooking and for me to get myself a takeaway because he'd had to get up early for work (the day before) and wanted to take himself off for a little liedown.

'Why are you laughing?'

'What is it?'

You did three hours. Three. Hours.

'Yeah, but - '

When I made eye contact with him and whispered Three. Hours, his face looked like he'd just been caught in a cupboard on the Nostromo, struck a match and the Alien Queen had just appeared from the darkness. Because he'd just remembered that I was in the middle of six weeks of 57 hour weeks and was going in for four 17 hour days on the trot from 7am the next morning.

That was probably the nearest he has ever had to a Near Death Experience.

He's signed up for all the extra hours he can get this year.

MrBennsshop · 10/07/2020 21:07

Mine has IBS. He is prone to dramatic sighs every few minutes. I told him they were getting on my nerves. He still does it, but realises half way through just how much it pisses me off and turns it into a little beat box type tune at the end instead. Jesus wept. I could kill him.

ToriaPumpkin · 10/07/2020 21:11

Many thanks Dolly!

I do, vividly, remember the day he got home from work and complained that I had all but thrown our colicky, refluxy, infant first born at him.

I've been at work all day and I'm a bit tired and could do with a break.

Really? How many times have you been to the toilet today?

I don't know, three or four aince I left for work?

Right. I have not been since you left for work because the baby has screamed every second and the noise when I tried to put him down to get a new bottle for him felt like glass in my skull.

Oh. Right.

Maybe that's why he doesn't complain about being tired nine years later 😂

SlightyJaded · 10/07/2020 21:14

Ahhhhh yes, another sufferer here.

Poor DH is also surprised to find himself exhausted after doing, broadly, fuck all, today.

He has a special routine for letting me know.

He begins with doing the ‘actions’ – yawny, wide-eyed surprise face. He might puff out a breath as though caught off guard by this unexpected exhaustion. He might even freeze in his tracks with a hand on a drawer where the screwdrivers live as though he was genuinely about to do something useful but, to his great disappointment, finds he can barely stand, so exhausted is he.

This is ignored by me, so then he will suddenly flop down onto a chair as though he is gutted he can’t go for that 10K run. This is done with a sort of flopping-flourish and usually accompanied by gentle eye closing for a few seconds. He can't keep them closed though because he has to make sure I am aware that the charade is playing out.

As long as I am stoic and ignore this, he will look at the cooker and ask “Is it really only eight thirty?” as though he has had major surgery whilst suffering jet lag. I either treat this as a rhetorical question or I might distractedly say “Oh I think it might be a minute slow”. Often at this point, for a bit of fun, I will ask if he fancies nipping up into the loft so we can get ‘that box/those bags/anything I can think of’ down. This is met with a look of sadness. He SO wants to but he really has a bad case of The Tired.

At this point, he can’t really hold out any more and has to share his Tired with us all. He might say “God I really am extraordinarily tired. Bone tired actually – I might need to lie down”. I usually can’t help myself and will often tell him “You do that. I’m just going to take the bins out/move the chest of drawers. But once I did say, “Oh do you mean like when I used to get knackered in the first trimester with DC2? When I could almost sleep on my feet” and he gratefully replied “Yes! Like that! Weird isn’t it?” Hmm

I left the room.

SunshineCake · 10/07/2020 21:17

You are all ridiculous for putting up with such pathetic, game playing, productive shite.

EmbarrassingAdmissions · 10/07/2020 21:19

Baggy grey joggers!

How can I have forgotten the loose leggings of lassitude?

Or the fleeces that indicate he's a baa lamb enduring the sufferings of Jeremiah and Job? Or the cosy cardigan that signals he's in the depths of self-pity for his exhaustion (the cardigan is crossed because he's too tired to do up the buttons)?

PolloDePrimavera · 10/07/2020 21:20

Oh come on now girls, you've had your fun! You must be tired being pretty and thinking of fluffy bunnies but it really is nothing like the SHEER EXHAUSTION of never being wrong. Just imagine the responsibility that comes with that.

PolloDePrimavera · 10/07/2020 21:20

Oh come on now girls, you've had your fun! You must be tired being pretty and thinking of fluffy bunnies but it really is nothing like the SHEER EXHAUSTION of never being wrong. Just imagine the responsibility that comes with that.

TeddyGizmo · 10/07/2020 21:24

I have a tired husband, he's not even working right now because of Covid.
I have a full in job and the commute from hell.

No dressing gown of doom here.
We have the Underpants of Mordor.

He went down the drive tonight to close the gate in the Underpants of Mordor and no top on.
He's not slim and I just thought, put some fucking clothes in will ya?

He's got a dozen pairs of shorts but fucks about in his underpants.

Nobbynobbsknob · 10/07/2020 21:30

My ex has been seeing out covid here as we get on pretty well and are sharing childcare /schooling while working. It's worked surprisingly well.

He has piles.
Fuck.ing.hell

You guys have it easy just coping with tired lambs. Try spending time with someone who is tired but can't sit down.

Maggiethehorserustler · 10/07/2020 21:32

My DH, (after me giving him tea and breakfast in bed) says 'please be kind to me today, I'm tired'.

I honestly don't know I haven't murdered him

Seapatrol · 10/07/2020 21:33

@MessAllOver

Is there any difference between husbands and toddlers? You could all be talking about your children Grin.

When my toddler is tired and grumpy, I run him a relaxing warm bath, lay out his comfy PJs, give a glass of warm milk, read him a story and tuck him under the duvet, stroking his forehead gently. Lots of husbands here seem to expect the same treatment (substituting the glass of milk for something stronger, perhaps!). That's spooky!

Am I setting DS up to expect the same treatment from future DIL in 30 years time? I hope not (poor woman!).

This sounds like a perfect night in (substitute the milk for a dram of single malt). Do you know that we can all still talk a lot about whisky while tired? Grin
SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 10/07/2020 21:33

[quote 2018SoFarSoGreat]@FlamingoAndJohn I have to say I am quite surprised that you would blithely go for a walk. Leaving him home ALONE. In his state? That is shocking. I'm quite unsure how to react. What is the right number to call to report your reckless action? You knew full well that we are ALL here - thousands of us - ready and willing (and indeed, fully experienced!) in the care and nurturing of The Tired DH. Sorry, The Poor Tired DH. You had but to ask. You didn't even.

Poor, poor dear. I hope you have at least ordered him a DGofD as an apology gift? Express delivery, of course.

Please give him my best regards. And my sincere sympathy.

:)[/quote]
Log it with 101, I think!

fatgirlslimmer · 10/07/2020 21:37

@SlightyJaded
The Tired 😂

BBCONEANDTWO · 10/07/2020 21:40

Ha ha - love the OP's post.