My husband is tired. I thought I’d better tell you all

[FlamingoAndJohn]

There has been so much huffing and puffing around the house about how tired he is that I think he wants everyone to know.

Once upon a time after Dd1 was born while I was pregnant with DD2 (DD1 is now 16.5 and DD2 will be 14 in 2 months)...my DH decided to follow the dream of his “hobby” (OF COURSE IT WAS FREAKING CYCLING) and ride the “old railway line” to his mum’s house (his childhood home) which was 40 miles away.

The itinerary was set. The time I dropped him off on the outskirts of our city, the time I then left home with Dd1 in the car to reach his mum’s at a similar time, laud his arrival into the village, have a meal, fold all the seats in the car down for his bike and then go home.

OMG. Literally the worst time of my life. 2 weeks of Moaning about muscles and chaffing and “the awful state of the railway line”. Every hour spent “piecing my GOOD BIKE back together” and “needing smaller gears” that don’t exist. Chris Froome doesn’t have those geRs, I doubt a project manager from rural Aberdeenshire needs them.

Genuinely I finally cracked. I said the immortal line which I may have engraved on my tombstone.

“So DH, how is the guy who HELD A GUN TO YOUR HEAD AND MADE YOU DO THIS TRIP GETTING ON”...

And he never mentioned it again.

He brought up how wrecked his gears were a number of times. I genuinely muttered “held a gun to your head did he) and it stopped.

His mum moved to our city 9 years ago. His quest and self inflicted damage, exhaustion and bike wrecking has never again been mentioned.

We now have Dd16, Dd13 and DD10 and this nonsense has stopped

Wait a sec - you mean you didn’t immediately find his pipe and slippers?

I think mine’s broken. He keeps making whiny noises.

I was so tired yesterday I was actually sick.

Well maybe it was the bottle of wine and large bar of chocolate I had after dinner, but like I said - sooooooo tired.

Mine is asleep (and snoring so loudly I can hear him from another room). I'm leaving him to sleep there. I would not be able to sleep through that

Mine was a little tetchy this evening. He felt the need to inform the cat that he was 'Bloody knackered from work'. Like the cat gives a shit.

He's learning, though. When I remarked that he didn't appear to be in the best of moods today, he sighed and said 'I'm tired from work, it was pretty shit today, but I suppose I'll just have to suck it up and get on with it as there are thousands who would do it instead of me'.

So I said 'Well, if you need an early night, I've changed the bed, picked up all your the washing off the floor, vacuumed everywhere and cleaned the bathroom for you'.

I didn't get praise for that, unsurprisingly. But it's the first time I've ever had the opportunity to say it to him - I had to take it, didn't I?

Mine had a sore left nostril recently, as well as being tired. Oh the struggle.
As it happens, two weeks before nostrilgate I was taking a few days to myself in the high dependency unit of our local hospital, having gotten myself in a spot of bother with organs shutting down and such.
But oh my god that nostril...

Mine is tired. Specifically his 'eyes are tired'. Sometimes it's his legs. I honestly think he experiences tiredness differently from other people. He doesn't.

Mine is far too awake and wants to talk to me about cricket.
I don't really want to talk about cricket... I'm tired

My OH is very extremely tired from hiking 9 miles today, he was hangry and didn’t know what he wanted to eat or if he even wanted me to cook him anything because he was so tired.
Also my OH is not that tired that if I nodded for upstairs snoosnoo I’m pretty sure he’d run up the stairs.

The indigestion is back again. He's been fine all day but now the groaning, stomach rubbing and burping cycle has started again. He thinks that there is either something seriously wrong with him, or that it's something to do with my cooking. I think it's the way he inhaled a bowl of spag bol, plus the 5 beers he has drunk this evening. Also we've just watched a Greg Davies comedy thing on telly - he guffawed his way through that but as soon as it finished, the reedy thin voice of discomfort came back. As did the burping. Did I mention the fucking burping?

the reedy thin voice of discomfort came back. As did the burping.

Is there any chance that your DH's sphincters, muscles and junctions are especially tired and this contributes to his belching? And that the tiredness is stressed even further by the carbonated beverages like beer?

Belching is the expulsion of air from the upper GI tract. It occurs in everyone and is a normal physiologic process that decreases the volume of gas in the upper stomach. With each swallow, or when drinking a carbonated beverage air is ingested and conveyed to the stomach. The swallowed air stays in the stomach because there is a muscle called the lower esophageal sphincter (LES) at the esophagogastric junction (EGJ), which remains contracted most of the time. This closes the passage between the esophagus and stomach so air cannot go back up the esophagus. Accumulation of gastric air stretches the top of the stomach and sets off a reflex that causes a relaxation of LES. This relaxation is called the transient LES relaxation (tLESR). Gastric air can then move back up into the esophagus. When it distends the top of the esophagus, a second reflex is triggered that relaxes a muscle called the upper esophageal sphincter (UES), which partitions the throat from the esophagus. The air then leaves the esophagus to fill the mouth and be expelled. This type of belch is called the gastric belch.

www.uclahealth.org/esophageal-center/belching-disorders

Poor dears.
Mine had a funny pain in his chest the other day, obviously very concerning except that is was most likely indigestion from the 4 fajitas he'd just inhaled.
Luckily he didn't call an ambulance as I suggested, if it was really that bad, as he would have looked a right fool.

Seriously though, how do you manage to not see the rage when they are being so utterly pathetic?

Mine is shopping. Thought I'd better tell you all.

When I do the big shop I just erm... do it.

We wrote a list together. He's phoned twice to see if I want xx impulse buy. I don't give a shit. If I'm not shopping I don't want to have to think about it. He's home as much as me, eats the meals I eat.

He's ringing now. I'm ignoring him. When he gets home it'll be "should I put this in the fridge or the cupboard?" on repeat.

I'm ironing, he's a grown up!

Have only skimmed the thread, but DP is like this. Is always complaining how completely knackered he is and how he gets 'no sleep'.

Which is strange because I have chronic insomnia and nocturia which means I get up a for wee every 2 hours throughout the night without fail and often can't get back to sleep, so have survived for decades on 4-6 hours of broken sleep a night. And of course, during all my night time awakeness, he never appears to be anything except fast asleep. I wish I got as little sleep as he did.

BathshebaKnickerStickers

Umm, an old railway line is, by definition, flat, as near as makes no difference, otherwise trains tend not to be able to use them. Gears, being for hills, not required.

The only thing responsible for wrecking the gears would be the incompetent berk operating them . You may wish to mention that if the subject ever comes up again.

@Giespeace

Mine had a sore left nostril recently, as well as being tired. Oh the struggle. As it happens, two weeks before nostrilgate I was taking a few days to myself in the high dependency unit of our local hospital, having gotten myself in a spot of bother with organs shutting down and such. But oh my god that nostril...

Such attention seeking behaviour, @Giespeace - you should be ashamed.

I'm very very tired.

Today we’ve had an optical migraine which seems to have affected his speech somehow. It’s ok though because him and the cat took themselves off to bed.

I've just gone into the kitchen to make some breakfast/lunch, due to wfh.

And I walked straight back out again when I saw the state of it. Every pan has food in it or is in a bowl of dirty dishwasher. Every packet, jar and can is on the countertop and the plates haven't been scraped off, so have been left on the side.

He cooked yesterday. Seems that he was too tired to clean anything up afterwards.

Guess what he's going to come home to tonight? It sure as hell isn't a fucking clean kitchen.

I thought of you all when this advert popped up on FB yesterday.

@TheWoollybacksWife

I thought of you all when this advert popped up on FB yesterday.

🤣

That’s going to be under a lot of Christmas trees this year.

And notice how it appears to be a mans shirt?

The weekend seems to have done nothing to alleviate the levels of tiredness.

my dh is exactly the same. we mere women would never be able to understand what it is like to be that tired