Post - wedding message ... please help me, what the hell do I say??

[Puzzledandpissedoff]

I recently attended an ex-colleague's wedding where, in response to a request for cash gifts, I sent what I thought was a pretty decent cheque (£100 if it matters, though I can't help feeling it shouldn't)

Last night I received an email which opened with a few comments about how glad they were to see everybody and how generous they'd all been, then said "we were surprised that your contribution didn't seem to match the warmth of your good wishes on our big day. In view of your own position, if you wanted to send any adjustment it would be thankfully received"

For someone who's not easily shocked I confess I'm utterly gobsmacked by this. So as not to drip feed I'll mention that "your own position" probably refers to a recent inheritance I've had, which maybe they expected something from (and this is an ex-colleague, remember, not a close friend or relative)

Please, anyone, what do I do now? I've never come across anything like this before and still can't quite believe they've done it - but since they have, should I reply, ring them, ignore it or what??

Horse. Bolted.

This thread is further evidence that MN needs the option of different fonts. In this case a dedicate "sarcastic font". May I be the first to suggest Comic Sans?

wow, ive rtft, all 800+ replies

cancel the cheq (joke)

i am shocked at her cheek tbh and glad you told a loose lipped friend

be interesting if the other non attendee got the same email

Let's all send the op as many 1p pieces as we can ( millions and millions of them) . Op can then shove them all through Grabby's letter box in the early hours of Monday morning ,so she can't open her front door. Op can then kindly phone work for her and explain why she'll be late in

OP, usually on any contentious thread someone will by now have recommended calling the Police. I recommend you do this straight away. They will no doubt inform Interpol or whichever government agency they see fit, who will, in turn, ensure that cheque which may or may not have been cashed is returned to you.

Delay not.

Cut to the chase:

LTB

Haven't RTFT because it is super long, but maybe try canceling the cheque?

(Lies. I read the whole thing, it's brilliant, OP can have my 13p too.)

Puzzled, you need to make chance to "cancel cheque" or something!

Expat - she paid out of embarrassment. To save face.

It's going viral

Most of the comments being 'I'd just cancel the cheque'

Ready for another update please OP

Curlyblow
Well, she should, FGS.

place marking for any updates

Absolutely she should. At the first instance. Before things get out of hand.

I really think what you need to do is cancel the cheque, then LTB, and then call 101. Maybe book yourself in for a spa day then,because you're worth it

snowgirl29 I hate people like that, I really really do, the old saying "they know the price of everything but the value of of nothing" or something like that, it sounds like you've brought your children up to appreciate things, unlike the money grabbing Bride and Groom, you're better off without them...twats. Sorry for slightly derailing chaps...as you where!

Can't wait to see if the offensive bride comes across the sharing of this thread ...

I think the cheque should be cancelled. Why has nobody pointed that out even once ?

Not place marking or anything. Just stopping by to tell OP to cancel the cheque.

Just got back, the friend I told about it at lunch called and we went out for a lot to drink now instead of being pissed like in angry Im really pissed instead
oh dear

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it was noisy in the pub. I didn't hear my phone and theres lots of messages on it I think from people shes' been telling all afternoon, I'm dead when bride finds out arent I?

Puzzled, sorry the thread went a bit mad.
Dead when the bride finds out what?

You rang?

But you're already dead to her, Puzzled. Because you were the one who only gave her £100 for a wedding present, you tight cow.