Post - wedding message ... please help me, what the hell do I say??

[Puzzledandpissedoff]

I recently attended an ex-colleague's wedding where, in response to a request for cash gifts, I sent what I thought was a pretty decent cheque (£100 if it matters, though I can't help feeling it shouldn't)

Last night I received an email which opened with a few comments about how glad they were to see everybody and how generous they'd all been, then said "we were surprised that your contribution didn't seem to match the warmth of your good wishes on our big day. In view of your own position, if you wanted to send any adjustment it would be thankfully received"

For someone who's not easily shocked I confess I'm utterly gobsmacked by this. So as not to drip feed I'll mention that "your own position" probably refers to a recent inheritance I've had, which maybe they expected something from (and this is an ex-colleague, remember, not a close friend or relative)

Please, anyone, what do I do now? I've never come across anything like this before and still can't quite believe they've done it - but since they have, should I reply, ring them, ignore it or what??

£100 is extremely generous regardless of your financial circumstances my uncle is a millionaire and sent me £100 in marks and Spencer ,s gift vouchers I had a very small wedding and didn't invite many people and we were delighted with whatever we received I was very grateful to my uncle and had a lovely time spending it .

I'd be telling everyone about this :)

That is unbelievably rude! I would be tempted to forward the email to everyone who knows her who was also at the wedding.

I would 100% bring it up tomorrow.

I suspect she has a gambling or drug habit to try and fund- surely only desperate people behave like this??

Just read this to DH who generally is very blah about MN. His jaw hit the floor! No advice apart from telling her to FOTTFSOF

I'd have to know if she'd tried it on with anyone else.

I can't stand people who expect a certain amount at weddings dps cousins had a wedding recently and all we've heard about it is who didn't put money in the card. It's pathetic. I hope she feels thoroughly ashamed of herself op. Money grabbing bastards

You should definitely tell as many people as possible. Name and shame. This kind of grabbiness is socially indecent.

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Anyone willing to admit to knowing a DM journalist? If so please forward this thread... and make sure BridezillaMacBrideFace knows it's all about her...

And Appearance Fee

PMSL, redtoothbrush!! Fabulous idea!

I'm gobsmacked at this!! You must ask other people who were at the wedding if they got an email!!

We had a wedding invite recently to a wedding in Yorkshire on a Friday.
DH would have had to take a day's unpaid leave - £300
We would have to travel down and stay in the hotel (middle of nowhere) for two nights £450
Drinks, food outfits etc £400
There was a gift list - smallest thing left was a £100 toaster
Plus they were asking for donations to their honeymoon- in the Maldives

DH invited to stag do- long weekend in Gran Canaria (didn't even ask what it might cost)

DS (16 months) not invited.

We are staying at home with DS. Will send a card.

Dearie me, I have to placemark.

What the fucking fuck?

Crikey! I would definitely tell everyone about it at this weekend's do, if only as an ice-breaker.

Seriously, this has made me a bit nervous. We are going to an evening reception in a couple of weeks, not to the day ceremony and reception. I'm panicking about what would be seen as a mean gift? What if we just choose something off the list, surely that must be acceptable or why would it (whatever it might be) be on there?

I have nothing to add other than my dh once lost his bank card before a wedding so took book tokens. They were received graciously if in slightly baffled fashion.

I'd rather have had book tokens than the cake stand that has maybe once been used.

Just read the whole thread. When did people become so entitled?? You are going to be talking about this for a long time OP. Leave it a few months and then send glitter bomb :D

Blatant place mark.
How rude!

I would love to know how much money they think would be appropriate given that the OP has already paid sufficient to cover her plate.

I would love to know how much money they think would be appropriate given that the OP has already paid sufficient to cover her plate.

That could've been the response, couldn't it?
""I am sorry to read this, I didn't know you had a specific amount in mind. How much were you looking for, out of interest?"

Or better still - "please bear in mind the annual anniversary presents and sizeable new baby gifts that I was looking forward to offering you. Not any more, obviously..."

Movingon, I'd love book tokens. They'd be the best gift ever.

Place marking and hoping for response from bridezilla and news from ops friends

I can't believe the cheek of this! I feel embarrassed for the bride.

Place marking to read any updates!