Post - wedding message ... please help me, what the hell do I say??

[Puzzledandpissedoff]

I recently attended an ex-colleague's wedding where, in response to a request for cash gifts, I sent what I thought was a pretty decent cheque (£100 if it matters, though I can't help feeling it shouldn't)

Last night I received an email which opened with a few comments about how glad they were to see everybody and how generous they'd all been, then said "we were surprised that your contribution didn't seem to match the warmth of your good wishes on our big day. In view of your own position, if you wanted to send any adjustment it would be thankfully received"

For someone who's not easily shocked I confess I'm utterly gobsmacked by this. So as not to drip feed I'll mention that "your own position" probably refers to a recent inheritance I've had, which maybe they expected something from (and this is an ex-colleague, remember, not a close friend or relative)

Please, anyone, what do I do now? I've never come across anything like this before and still can't quite believe they've done it - but since they have, should I reply, ring them, ignore it or what??

How f***g rude....I am sitting here with my jaw dropped!!!! Abso-bloody-lutely, cancel the cheque, don't think of replying, and delete these horrid people from your phone list/email/social media/etc....and never speak to them again!!

Oh, I'm a bit sad the OP didn't apologise and ask if 500.00 would be enough or if 1,000 would be better, and then let us know...now we'll never know what 'adjustment' they were thinking of.

Not being funny but this seems really familiar. Am sure I've read of something similar happening before on MN, including the inheritance. Maybe I'm wrong.

Pleeeease let her reply!

Have I read this correctly. They emailed you to say, that £100 is not enough. The fucking hard faced fuckers.

Id be emailing them back saying.
As my very generous gift of £100 is not sufficient enough. I would like it back please. It's a gift. Not a tax. They can like it or lump it
20 years ago. I'd have struggled to believe brass neck like this, but. Absolutely nothing shocks me, now.
I doubt you will but don't you dare give them one more penny.

I've got all the way here and am upset there's been no reply yet

Over-invested and need to get a life

There is nowt as strange as folk is there!!!

Why would you invite anyone in the hope they would give a huge £££ gift, just bonkers.

FindoGask I said the same but MNHQ deleted the post!

The utter nerve. I think £100 is extremely generous.
I have to say that I don't see the point in wedding gifts now that people live together for so long before they marry. It's not like years ago when they would be setting up home. I didn't ask for anything for my wedding. It was my problem that I was getting married, no one else's.

While I'm here, why can no one read that the cheque has been cashed.

Just ignore it, and forget it/them... it is so rude... I cannot believe that their wedding was all about the money... not about the celebration, not about the great day having together. Fully a business - costs and income, profit or loss, what a shame.

I can't wait to see what the money grabber's reply is..

Shocking. If she does engage, suggest she prints her own email and puts it somewhere to read back to her older self one day.

unbelievable

For those calling the veracity of the post into question

1 MN have responded on that score, OP has probably not posted because nobody likes to be called a liar.

2 I was recently on a thread (that I can't find sorry someone else can link?)
Where much worse cheeky fuckery was talked about and that and real life experience means I for one am not at all surprised that this could happen! Some people seem to lose all sense and decency when dealing with their weddings!

How rude!

Could you donate a goat via Oxfam on their behalf, send them the information and comment in the card that there are real issues in the world that don't revolve around her.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2620781-Cheeky-requests-that-make-you-want-to-scream

Found it!

I'm not surprised my this thread, there are a lot of entitled, cheeky sods out there..

By this thread...bloody phone!

Marking.

Baconyum Op has replied, several times.

I'm totally over-invested in this thread and NEED to know if cheeky bride has replied...

I wondered if this was a wind up too, but having picked out all the OP's posts, (too many to read everyone's) and I believe it did happen! I now really want to know if there was ever a further response from Bridezilla....I hope so!

Origami's predicted response is spot on. Are you the bride Origami??!?

Noooo! (I eloped to avoid all this madness!). But I am a writer which is why I am SO impressed by that beautifully evil and stunningly crafted request for money (only let down by her use of 'thankfully' rather than 'gratefully')