My colleague has thrown my lunch in the bin

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What is the correct etiquette please?

You need not quote directly from Debretts.

If I weren't in the queue for the soggy salmonella sarnies left in Tescos- I'd write a longer OP.

Part Two here: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/a2631196-My-colleague-has-twat-me-over-the-head-with-a-courgette - edited by MNHQ

I thought of another tale from back in my office days, we would get milk from petty cash but like so many 1 person would assume it was all theirs and so have it for their porridge. this really pissed us off no end when come 11 o'clock you go to make a drink and theres no milk left.

said user would also never get up to go and make a drink knowing full well that she'd have to run out g get some more milk first. so instead of telling her repeatedly to buy her own milk for her porridge and not use the whole companies on herself (which she assumed was a joke by the way). we started hiding the spoons from her. It started as a joke that we hid a few a week, then as we saw her getting so wound up we all eventually ended up sharing the spoons out between the rest of us.

It got so bad that whenever we went to make a cup of tea whoever was going to make them would have to sneak it out of their locked drawer up their sleeve and all the way to the kitchen, wash it and bring it back the same way so she didn't see anything.

She went beserk that she had nothing to eat her porridge with, she ended up bringing in her own spoon, but that went missing too .

Eventually her bowl was accidentally smashed by the cleaner as porridge woman hadnt cleaned it and left it on the side for the cleaner to do... yet again. Cleaner later told me she was sick of cleaning up after her so smashed it on purpose.

When i left she no longer had breakfast at work [grin. You really do need to take the fuse out the fridge, thats what id do anyway to make it look like it actually wasn't working and nothing more sinister going on.

Mine was Blackfriars Bridge MrsKoala. It got to a point where I was looking for blind spots on the CCTV cameras.

Op please cam you update, I have work to do :o

Yes I'm quite shocked at a lot of this. I was the office manager & business owner, 12 employees. We provided an under counter fridge so a reasonable size, milk biscuits, tea, sugar, coffee from petty cash and a quiet kitchen to have your lunch in. Anyone could bring their lunch or herbal teas or whatever; no one nicked stuff; more often than not, they would ask people to help themselves. Staff often did a bit of shopping as we were opposite a supermarket which reduced prices at 11am & 6pm. No piss taking so no complaints in 20 years. That's normal, right?
I find it really sad that people behave like this

Greengagesummer I think every office settles in to its own ongoing war, whereas we don't have fridge politics we have an ongoing battle with lazy bastards filling the sink with their dirty pots and expecting others to wash them. Several emails have been sent and everyone knows who the perpetrator is but she continues to do it and everyone is too scared to confront her.

We had someone who would do the porridge and milky drink think that a pp mentioned. A whole mug of milk, warmed up in the microwave with a teabag in it. Why? It must have tasted so grim!
The manager we had at the time took him to task on it as he provided the communal milk himself and was pissed off that if he wanted a coffee after lunch it had to be black as a certain person had drunk all the milk. He was a crap manager in many other ways, but was quite defensive of the milk.
There were some food stealers too, but as the only other lunch option in a reasonable distance was McD's they usually got their asses kicked pretty hard. When you've been on your feet for 4 hours solid and some bugger has stolen your chicken salad, you don't tend to have much patience for politics. The food thieves then turned their attention to the charity chocolate box, which was pretty low and that ended up being taken away too.
Once a month a note would go up on the fried along the lines of "The fridge is being EPMTIED on XX date, please remove anything you do not want thrown away before or you will not see it again" as we had a fair amount of mysterious items in Tupperware and tinfoil regularly placed in there only to never be eaten.
I think removal of the fuse is the best option.

covert we had a deputy manager who would use a glass and then give it no more than a very cursory rinse under the tap - think a second at best - and then put it back in the cupboard. We had a trainee manager who always managed to fill the sink at the end of the day and then would moan the staff room was messy. She was confronted by many an angry person for borrowing their own personal mug/plate etc. but never changed her grotty ways. To quote the late great Terry Pratchett - "Some people's minds can't even be changed with a hatchet."

DP does that Deepfried I don't really eat fruit but I buy it for him. One time he said in slightly harangued tones, "Quim, you know these strawberries (or whatever) have been in here for ages and they've gone all furry?"

I say "one time" because he never quite dared do it again

I have no idea what particular fairies he thought were going to flutter in and do it for him.

Waiting to see what happens today! If I was you I would move the bin so it is in a visible place. Then you'll see her doing it

I would just get everyone in the office, & then stand up & make an announcement & If there isn't enough room in the fridge for everyone's lunch, then the shopping bags will be removed.that the next time anyone bins your lunch, you will be cutting the cable at the fridge end.
Would it be possible to make small cuts in the bottom of the bags so that the whole lot drops onto the pavement on her way home?

don't get me started on the colleagues who leave their mug in the sink when we have a dishwasher right next to it.

The biscuit story reminds me of maltesergate.

We used to take it in turns to buy the big tubs of celebrations (out of our own pocket). The maltesers were always the most popular, which is fine.

I took in a tub of celebrations and left it on the side. About 5 minutes later, a colleague went to get a chocolate and exclaimed that it must be a faulty tub as there weren't any maltesers in there. Much discussion and consternation ensued, until someone became suspicious of another colleague. Opened the desk drawer of the suspect to find ALL the maltesers. Culprit claimed that his plan was to 'ration them out', ie if you wanted a malteser you would have to go to him cap in hand and ask if you were allowed one...

Don't worry Becky I asked dh for some good food stories from his work and apart from the time someone made someone else a coffee and used sugar instead of sweetener, nothing has happened of note. Apparently there was quite a bit of sulking.
Oh, and the time the sewers overflowed up the kitchen sink and all over the floor, but you can't blame a colleague for that. The boss paid for a proper deep clean but nobody used the kitchen for weeks after.

A clear plastic pot loosely covered with cling film (needs to have holes punched in the top) full of live fishing bait (maggots) and some heinous smelling raw green tripe for dogs is what you need to keep cool tomorrow OP. If there's not much room just ram it in really tightly and accidentally puncture all he wrapping on her food while you are at it.

Stop whining online and call her on it.

What happened when you went into work today?!?
over invested in this thread

write a note on the fridge again and take a picture. attach this in an email and send an email round to everyone at work, including the manager/boss. saying you are very upset that someone threw your lunch in the bin.

I would also throw her stuff in the bin (all of it) and when she says something say yeah me too! as previously mentioned!

Call in sick tomorrow. Claim it is food poisoning from contamination of raw meat in fridge.

Bonus day off work and a staunch bollocking for the CrappyShopper

Is there a manager or somebody above her who you can talk to? Somebody needs to set her straight and confirm whether or not this fridge is communal or solely hers. Then said manager can tell her not to put her shopping in the fridge so nobody else can put their food in, and also that she is not to throw food away that is not hers. She sounds like a real control freak and only a manager can set her staight. She is likely to kick off and still do it but it is better to put her in her place and if she continues then there are grounds for a disciplinary and then if it continues, there are grounds for termination of employment.

I had a similar situation. Where I used to work there were break out rooms on every floor. The floor I was on had a woman who was a real b-word when it came to the fridge. She'd randomly throw other people's food out because she felt that they shouldn't be eating it - not because they were mouldy or whatever.

When confronted by management she said that if school could encourage kids to eat healthily, the company had a moral obligation to ensure people at properly and if they didn't she would. She was got an informal disciplinary.

After that she got really bitchy - she would wait in the kitchen and tell people 'you can't put that in there' rather than taking them out or she'd leave passive aggressive notes on people's desks (she literally told a plus size woman in a note that if she ate unhealthy food she wouldn't be so heinously overweight and a strain on national resources - the woman had a cheese sandwich, a packet of crisps, some yogurt and a small chocolate bar in her lunch box - hardly deep friend and unhealthy). That earned her a formal disciplinary.

Then she decided she would fill every shelf up with her own stuff to stop people using the fridge. Then she got her final warning and she decided she was being discriminated against and tried to take legal action. After a really messy few weeks and her making everyone's life miserable she was fired. She tried to take legal action against that but as far as I know, she hasn't succeeded.

But yeah, the best way is to set these people straight. The company might decide to take away the fridge to resolve conflict, which will be bad for you but at least the cow will also lose out and learn not to be such a b-word.

Is the sushi in the fridge yet? We need to know!

Like others on here I have zero patience for this kind of thing, confront and be damned all the way for me.

Wow BuddahBelly, you sound like a bunch of bitches. Glad I don't work in an office!

Put a mouse trap and rat poison in the fridge next to her food. Tell everyone immediately that you found a very large mouse in there, that it shot out of a bag of shopping and off across the room somewhere. Ask them to help you to try and find it.