To ask for your best examples of brass-neckedness to entertain us all on this dull day?

[Salmotrutta]

I've got one from decades ago.

My older brother was about 18 and going out with a girl of about 16.

It was pretty short lived as she seemed to be a bit spoiled etc. and they were only teens after all.

My brother was the one who ended it but girl seemed to think Mum was behind it.

Mum wasn't but she had asked to girl to help bring in washing during the rain when she stayed over at our house one weekend as mum was in the middle of something when rain started.

This was apparently a criminal act to ask someone for a bit of help so girlfriend moaned to brother (who I think had got rather exasperated by her anyway by this point) and he ended it.

Apparently this did not go down well.

Next thing, her little sister phoned my Mum and castigated her for being the cause of all this! Little sister would have been about 14 and mum would have been about 45!

That didn't go down well either.

[cyberfairy]

In a very busy Bath Sainsbury's, a woman got in the queue for the five items or less till with an overflowing basket. When this was pointed out to her by the cashier, she looked at him with disdain and trilled, 'But I am BUSY'. He served her.

An ex boyfriend ( gorgeous but so stingy) said he would take me out for dinner (first time ever) He took me to a very posh steak restaurant in Bath. I am vegetarian which he knew. He ordered meaty courses lavishly. I had risotto. Then he said ' We're going halves, yeah'? at the end. Then realised he had 'forgotten' his wallet. This is the same ex who promised me he would come to my house and cook me a brilliant curry. He was brilliant at making curry apparently. The brilliant curry was a tin of Sainbury's economy potatoes with some curry powder mixed in.

[DoTheStrand]

I live on the same road as a sixth form college. It is a wealthy area (street always packed out with student cars, etc) and some have developed an amazing sense of entitlement. One early afternoon I was in the house with DS1, then a toddler. Student knocked on door and told me a long and involved story about losing his car keys, someone was bringing a spare set but car was outside my house unlocked and could I watch out of my window to make sure no one stole the car while he went to lessons. I queried this with him and yes he really did expect a stranger to stay in all afternoon, standing looking out of the window for potential car thieves while he went to classes. I declined.

[Roussette]

I know Username! It was difficult to stop the unarranged childcare because the two girls got on and I obviously didn't want to mess up their friendship as they caught the school bus together. We did start to eat later though as it was getting on my tits after the shed incident.
DD and I do laugh about it now and says how she can't believe she has never seen the inside of Susy's house! I say to her... well you did see the inside of the shed

We still live in the same place all these years later, and the Mum (who is not next door but lives not far and is part of our social group) is still just as bad in fact she irritates the HELL out of me and has been to our house for bbq's, social events, drinks etc LOADS of times. I've been in her house just once for a drink on the way somewhere and I was hustled out pretty damn quick. I felt like wiping my feet on her cream carpet Aren't people odd... .

[Salmotrutta]

Celia and CaptChaos - outrageous!!

[Wineandcakes]

We live 150 miles from my parents & MIL who lived in same town. My parents visit us every couple of months, MIL comes maybe once a year. She used my parents' visits as a courier service to save stamps on birthday cards etc. and I was perfectly fine with that, stamps cost a fortune. However, a couple of years ago my parents moved to the other side of the country and so the courier service stopped.

That year MIL phoned at 10pm the night before DS 5th birthday to say she had forgotten to post his card and would do it next day ie on his birthday. She also said that DD1's card was in same envelope as her birthday was three days later. Cards arrived fortnight later as she put four cards in one envelope and posted second class so not enough postage. I had to go out to sorting office to collect cards, pay the difference in postage and the £1 handling fee.

When DH mentioned all this to her she blamed my parents for not being there to deliver them and griped that it was most inconvenient.....

[Salmotrutta]

If fact some of these people don't have brass necks so much as titanium necks!

[Wannabestepfordwife]

My uncles wife is brass necked beyond belief. They live abroad and these are just a few things she's done when coming back to visit.

If she ever goes out for a meal she hides in the toilet when the bill comes so someone else pays for her.

She was staying with my great uncle who has 3 bed house with my cousin and grandad. She expected my grandad who was recovering from cancer to sleep on the sofa so she had a room to herself to nurse her hangovers.

We were having a small family reunion with family mners who hadn't seen great uncle for over 30 years. They were staying close to where she was meeting a friend. She made them leave when they were having a whale of a time and was an hour and a half late to meet her friend just so she didn't have to pay for a taxi.

[AnnaLegovah]

We've had problems with noisy neighbours for years - woman who owns the house has long indulged her spoilt and perfect son who likes to have lots of parties. She moved out so he could move his friends in and now they rent from her. She's in major denial that he's an utter arsehole and in the past has used every excuse under the sun to defend his behaviour (she even appeared in the local paper with a sad face coz he got into a fight and locked up by the police and nobody rang her to tell her).

One night recently they had a huge party for one of their friends who doesn't live even there. DC was ill so we were cranky and tired. It gets to 1am, music still going and no answer when we knock on the door. So I text her. Being polite, point out that DC is sick, we're tired, and can she ask them to turn the noise down.

Her text reply? A weak-limbed apology and sympathy for our lack of sleep. Her words were - 'I know what it's like not to get much sleep, my Mum was diagnosed with cancer recently'.

Not only did she pull the cancer card, she used this exact same excuse 18 months previously (and I have the text from then to prove it).

[cyberfairy]

Oh- another one! I was waiting for bus to uni in Lancaster with my toddler- boarded and sat down at back-noticed student pleading with bus driver to let him on without fare, said he had a friend waiting for him at other end at uni. Bus driver refused- student aid he would miss his first ever lecture. Despite being skint, I offered to pay bus fare. He said 'cheers', sat down then jumped off bus at stop before uni- then I noticed he had that day's edition of the sodding Times under his arm.

[DesertDweller]

I had a house share with three other friends for a year. After a year, two of them decided to move out. We had bought some Ikea furniture for the lounge - table, chairs, two of those really basic sofas. When the two replacement housemates moved in, the moving out ones demanded that they pay them the equivalent of the brand new price of the furniture, despite it being a year old.

[KERALA1]

When I was a teenager I waitressed at the local pub as did my friends. A very grand lady that I babysat for asked if I and my friends could waitress at her sons 18th. We were about the same age but went to the local comp whilst son was at the local public school.

They had a mansion, marquee, caterers. We worked really hard 4 of us serving 3 course sit down meal for 150. At the end she announced she wasn't going to pay us because we should be grateful we were at the party at all! Note we hadn't eaten or drunk or socialised with the hooray Henry's. We were so shocked we slung off home luckily my mother was more ahem assertive with her the next day!

[LiDLrichardsPistachioSack]

Yay I love this thread! Some of these are shocking.

I'm a hairdresser. Years ago a client I'd seen once before booked in for a colour and cut. We chatted about what she was after, all fine and dandy--and then she says "so it's only been 8 weeks since you cut my hair last, so I won't be paying for THIS haircut."

I looked at her and laughed! Oh yes, I love doing my job for free! plus I showed her my records and it had in fact been 16 weeks, cheeky bitch

I also that same week had a mum with her newborn PFB who demanded I turn the music down, changed her baby's nappy on the dryer chair mid-cut, leaving the dirty nappy ON THE CHAIR, had her baby on her lap while I worked and then had a go at me for hair falling on her baby as I was cutting. Because I can just reverse gravity. I firmly but politely told her this was making my job very difficult and she complained about me and called me a bitch when she was paying!

[CaptChaos]

Because I had taken the world's smallest studio flat, I had nowhere to store a few things, camping stuff mostly, I'd had to camp in a friend's garden for a couple of nights while escaping the violent twat another 'friend' offered me their unused garage to store it.

About 6 months later, I went over to theirs because they had a list of campsites I wanted to borrow and we discussed what DS and I were going to do while away and if we needed to borrow any of their equipment etc.

3 days before we were leaving for the holiday, I popped round to collect my tent and other gear, opened the garage door to find it had all gone! I called them at work to be told that they had completely forgotten it was mine and had sold it all through the local paper!

The best bit of this was, I was paying them a small rent for the use of the garage, and they had actually offered to go through my stuff with me to make sure it was all in good nick!!!

Luckily, other actual friends rallied round and we still went and had a fab week away.

[hollycomputer]

Oh, how I love this thread!

One from me. MIL has a relative who is loaded yet horrendously stingy. As he's family, he often ends up being invited for meals out. A few years ago me and DH took MIL for a mother's day lunch at a nice hotel near where she lives and the relative invited himself along. We were a bit but too polite to comment. He ordered the most expensive things on the menu and a large number of double scotches.

When the bill came, he sat and stared in silence into middle distance and DH ended up paying for the lot. I put down some cash as a tip as we were leaving and just as I turned away, I saw him go to pick the tip up and pocket it . I'd run out of patience by then so I said 'that's for the staff, not you' and he looked blankly at me but put the money down. But worse was to come.

We got outside and realised that stingy relative had driven to the restaurant and now was in no fit state to drive. So he turned to MIL and told her she was taking him home - an hour and a half's drive in the wrong direction for her. He'd also expected her to come back and get him the next day to collect his car! We were all gobsmacked. DH ended up taking him home. I was livid.

[fingerbiter]

When I was a student I stayed on in my student house for the summer after we finished - our lease ran out at the end of August and I used the time to hunt for a 'real' job. It was just me in a 4 bed house until one of the 'incoming' girls moved in early with her boyfriend.

I returned home from a weekend at my parents' to find they'd moved in, used my toiletries, cutlery, plates (unwashed), food etc etc with no intention of replacing it. Then the girl got the hump because in the september my room was to become hers and she wanted me to move into another bedroom so she could move her stuff in. I pointed out it was still 'my' room and said no.

I had weeks of intimidation from her boyfriend, her mum, her sister and her who took it in turns to try and bully me into moving. I came home early one day to find her mum and her trying to pick the lock on my bedroom door. I had to move everything that was mine into my bedroom (except food). She thought I was most unreasonable. She and her boyfriend paid nothing towards gas/electric so I took my name off the house bill and used as much as I could for the last few weeks I was there. She even piled boxes of her stuff against my bedroom door so I couldn't get out.

It was a sad day when I finally moved out of that house whe my lease expired. But I did get the last laugh - I went through the boxes she put against my door and stole all her microgynon.

[ptumbi]

I've had the 'neighbour asking for babyminding duties' only to find the gran in the house, just not wanting to look after gc.

We used to co-babysit; she'd look after ds3 while I went to school assemblies etc, and I'd do the same for her dd4. Until I looked out of the window, wondering where the hell she was (an hour after assembly finished) to see her staggering up the road with loads of Iceland bags...


And not 'Mexican' - but dp regularly finds the sister of a neighbour (that he's fallen out with) parking in his drive because she didn't want to get a ticket parking on the road. Their reasoning is that he is not using it during the day so what's the problem. (I fully expect them to have no problem using his kettle/teabags/shower...)

We had the 17YO daughter of the same toxic neighbour knocking on the door at 1am one saturday night interrupting, much? bleeding and cut, having fallen, drunk. into a few bushes, barbed wire, broken glass, dunno. We had been drinking so phoned a taxi to take us all to A&E (couldn't get hold of toxicmother, herself out drinking) so sat with daughter while cleaned up and bandaged - she wouldn't let them stitch the bad cut on her arm. Phoned taxi home at 3am. Next day we got told off by toxicmother, who harangued us that we 'should have' insisted on stitches on her arm. She was 17, and dragged back by her mother to hospital to get stitches. (same daughter totally cut us dead when toxic neighbour decided that the whole family should not talk to us at all. They still don't, even after all dp has done for them. They still park in his drive tho)

[pigglepaggle]

Out of the blue SIL and BIL asked if we'd like to go out for a meal with them one night. We don't normally socialise with them.
They chose the restaurant (which was miles away) and we picked them up (they didn't have a car at the time) and also paid for pre dinner drinks in the bar.
After the meal when we were presented with the bill she whipped out a voucher to pay for their half.

[PosyFossilsShoes]

First few weeks at university I got a reputation for being capable because I could strip / make a bed, knew how a washing machine worked, was capable of cooking without setting off the fire alarms etc.

One bloke asked me if I would show him how to iron, to which I agreed, the next thing I knew he'd brought in a tub of crumpled shirts and announced that I didn't need him to stand and watch, he was sure I was able to do them, but please to be careful round the seams under the arms as it really annoyed him when those weren't straight.

Then he made for the door.

He was most indignant when I told him that I wasn't doing it for him, and even more indignant when I turned down his suggestion that he pay me, on the basis that he was offering me more than his mother paid their ironing woman at home!!

[wiifitaddict1]

Went to a local fayre and dd won a cuddly toy. It dipped it downsol she put it under her coat and dropped it. We searched for pa tent to find out if it was handed in. This was less than 5 minutes after it was dropped. We were told it was handed it but someone else claimed it as theirs. Cue one very upset dd.
Another one in Sainsbury. Wow some of their customers are entitled. I was queing at customer services. Not a proper queuing system but there were two people in front of me. A lady came from the other direction and stood near the counter. I just knew she was going to cut in. The other people were served and my baby was getting more grizzly. Predictably she dashed to the counter. I said excuse me I was 1st but she just ignored me. The member of staff was young and embarrassed so I didn't pursue it more apart from pa discussion about rude people with my friend. Anyway I got the last laugh whe she was all indignant about being overcharged but she actually picked up the wrong item.

[GemmaWella81]

Manager at my work gave permission for her two staff to be off, she then realised a few days later she'd have to be the one doing the work (she was a skiver). She guilt tripped the other two to cancel their holiday.... And then proceeded to take the week off herself.

[cailindana]

I've tried to figure out why my sister is the way she is and I think it's basically down to the fact that she has inherited the worst of both my parents' traits. My father is a self-absorbed dreamer who is kind at heart and my mother is a childish manipulator who is very capable. She is a self absorbed childish manipulator :( Since my parents have never ever challenged her behaviour she hasn't learned to be any different, and probably never will at this stage.

[HermioneDanger]

My father paid off my younger sister's debt to the taxman as they were threatening legal action. It was thousands of pounds. HMRC, being the joined up organisation they are then sent her a tax rebate. She spent the lot going on holiday.

[Sidge]

I lived in Wimbledon Park as a student at Uni, in a rented house. The house had a driveway which had a gate across it, padlocked. None of us student renters had a car but the landlady liked to keep the driveway clear in case she came back for a few days (she lived and worked in East Anglia but kept a room in the house for her own use for when she came back to London).

Anyway given that the house was only half a mile from the Wimbledon Lawn Tennis Club we were quite used to the roads being rammed with parked cars, and had even had people knocking on our door asking to use the loo or if we had strawberries for sale. But one day we came back from lectures to discover someone had cut/broken the padlock on the gate and parked their car on the drive!!!

We found another padlock on the shed and relocked the gate, then when the owners came back after a long hot day watching the tennis we sent the Brazilian student who spoke virtually no English to deal with the couple. They ended up having to leave their car there for the night and come all the way back the next day

[futureponyclubmum]

In my last (and final) house share one of my housemates got 3 months paid redundancy, to supplement her income she decided to start dealing reasonable quantities of illegal substances from the house....she failed to understand why we were a) horrified and b) terrified as she also put a few noses out of joint in the process and if someone had called the police we would all be liable as it was a shared house. Needless to say the lease got quickly terminated and we all vacated asap, during which time she was generally very unpleasant to live with.
I organised a cleaning company to blitz the house and as she was the last to leave I had to give her enough money to cover it so left her with 160. She texted me to say that it was done and that it had cost the full amount.....what she didnt bank on was that I would double check with the cleaning company. No it had actually only cost 120. She obviously forgot as I managed the household accounts I could simply take the 40 from the deposit she was owed. She was very indignant apparently I should have 'paid' her 40 for letting the cleaning company in??? This after weeks of grief she had given us and forcing us to give up a perfectly good house......

[Yerazig]

I'm a nanny a temp job I was working in Hated the dad at the best of times. He came in 3 hours late drunk and literally was like oh I'm late..sorry!!!