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Earthmotherimnot passed away peacefully in her sleep today.

310 replies

DaughterOfEmin · 04/09/2013 05:55

I am not sure if this is the right place for this but my mum (EMIN) had asked us to keep her mumsnet friends updated on her cancer battle.

I have already posted on the 'cancer' thread but wanted to make sure I had done what she wanted.

Mum - wife, mother of three, foster mother to over 80 children and grandmother of one - passed away peacefully in her sleep at 2:50 this morning. We were all with her, holding her hand and telling her we loved her.

Yesterday all of her family came to visit and they spent time with her, each of them getting their private time to talk to her and just be there with her and for her.

All she had ever wanted was to be at home with her family around her and she got exactly what she wanted. She will be missed so very much and we are devastated that she was taken so early.

She loved to read threads on fostering as babies were her life. She lurked a fair bit and would just offer words of guidance, comfort or encouragement where she felt she could help. In later months as she fought cancer she concentrated more on the cancer thread and I know it gave her some comfort.

She would have been 60 in October and we are devastated she never got to have her big family party but we get some comfort from the fact that all of her loved ones were with her yesterday.

I don't know how many people she communicated with outside of the boards or if any crossedover to real life but if anyone is interested in coming to the funeral once it is arranged then by all means drop me a private message and I can pass on the details.

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facedontfit · 04/09/2013 12:24
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PollyLogos · 04/09/2013 13:33

Yourmum was amazing and so, so inspirational. My condolences to you all. She leaves an imprint on so many children's lives.

BitBewildered · 04/09/2013 13:52

I am so sorry. Rest in peace, Emin. Thanks

YippeeKiYayMakkaPakka · 04/09/2013 13:55

So sorry to hear this. Thinking of all the family x

SarahJinx · 04/09/2013 13:56

Another one posting in tears. So very sorry for your loss of such an inspirational, wonderful woman. I never 'talked' to her but was always in awe of her absolute heart. RIP.

LegoAcupuncture · 04/09/2013 14:01

So very sorry for your loss. She was an amazing woman.

I read a few of EMIN's threads, the one that sticks is the one where she was fostering a baby born to an addict. She was an amazing woman.

NomDeClavier · 04/09/2013 14:02

I'm so sorry :( I read a few of your mother's posts about the drug dependant baby and she was always warm, patient and kind in what must have been such a tough situation. She made a real difference, not just to that baby but also to me when I had a challenging but perfectly healthy baby. I felt that if she could do it under such extreme circumstances and remain so together then I could cope too.

JumpingJackSprat · 04/09/2013 14:05

what an amazing, amazing woman your mum was to have looked after so many vulnerable children. Her love shone out from her posts, she was truly incredible. Ill be thinking of you and your family xx

Doyouthinktheysaurus · 04/09/2013 14:20

I'm so sorry for your loss DaughterOf Emin, your mum was truly inspirational.

I wish you and your family peace and good wishes at this most painful of timesThanks

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Auntfini · 04/09/2013 15:03

I remember reading her thread about the drug dependent baby. I was touched by her calm compassion and her love and dedication to her foster children. Your mum was a wonderful woman. Rest in peace emin

LaVitaBellissima · 04/09/2013 15:04

So very sorry for your loss Thanks I read the thread today about the drug dependant baby and cried, she sounded like such a wonderful woman, fostering 80 children over the years what an inspiration Smile

twentyten · 04/09/2013 15:06

So very sorry.She was amazing.

scarlet5tyger · 04/09/2013 15:22

I'm so, so sorry to read this news. Your mum was a fantastic lady who helped me personally both on here and through email as we were both fostering babies with drug addictions at the same time.

I still often think of funny phrases she passed on when I'm having a tough day with a poorly baby, and I use a version of her "goodbye" letter which she helped me draft whenever I move a child on to a new home.

If you get chance please can you post details of the date of her funeral? I'd like to raise a mug of wine to her!

Tiredmumno1 · 04/09/2013 15:22

So sorry to you and all of your family.

My thoughts are with you all.

EMIN was an amazing lady. RIP xxx Thanks

mignonette · 04/09/2013 15:29

I am so sorry. I read your previous posts on the Tamoxifen thread and have been thinking of you all ever since.

What a legacy your Mother has left. More than most ever will.

Flowers to EMIN and you all.

Thumbwitch · 04/09/2013 15:31

So very sorry to hear of your loss, DaughterofEmin - she was a wonderful lady, that's for sure. I'm "glad" she had a peaceful passing - I lost my own mother to cancer when she was 63, so not much older than yours, but she was in ICU and it wasn't perhaps as peaceful as it could have been.

Love to all your family xxThanksxx

RIP EMIN.

pantsjustpants · 04/09/2013 15:33

Im so very sorry for your loss.

RIP EMIN

VengefulCrumpet · 04/09/2013 15:47

My thoughts are with you and your family.

what a wonderful legacy EMIN has left behind.

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ExasperatedSigh · 04/09/2013 16:06

I am so sorry to hear that EMIN has passed away. I never posted on her threads but I remember her name because she always struck me as an absolutely inspirational, incredible woman. To do what she did for those babies in need of love and safety is an amazing thing. You must be very proud, as well as very heartbroken.

A peaceful passing, surrounded by love, is a real gift too, one I hope may be of some comfort to you all when things seem bleak.

Sending you all my best wishes at such a sad time. RIP EMIN, what a woman.

ExasperatedSigh · 04/09/2013 16:07

Sorry, I meant to say I never posted on her threads but I read a lot of her posts, hence remembering her name. Post makes little sense, sorry Blush

kasbah72 · 04/09/2013 18:16

I am so so sorry for your loss and for all of her loved ones.

I never knew her but was another touched by her compassion, strength and endless capacity for love and in awe of her practical, modest, no-nonsense approach to anyone and anything that came her way.

RIP Emin, you leave an incredible legacy and have touched more lives than you would ever have dreamed.

bluebump · 04/09/2013 18:18

I'm sorry for your loss xx

Methe · 04/09/2013 18:25

I am so so sorry for your loss DOE. Cancer is a bastard.

I read a post your mum wrote a while ago about fostering a little girl who had been born addicted and I rememeber thinking what a wonderful person she must be! She was an inspirational woman.

wilkos · 04/09/2013 18:27

So very sorry for your loss, your mum was an amazing lady Sad x