What little things does lovely DH/DP do for you? (balancing thread I'm reading toooo many EA/DV threads)

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He comes to lay on the bed to cuddle me and chat

Jeez where do you get your hair done? I could have done it for £35 - are you a bit posh?

Not romantic but meant a lot at the time: he took an hour off work so he could come with me to the pharmacy to get the MAP after a condom-related incident, even though he was sure there was no chance of pregnancy. And insisted on paying for it. And kept asking me how I was after taking it, as if it was major surgery. :)

Pixie - nooo not posh, just my local Saks. Have 'style director' though so very £££

He tells me that he loves me every day :)

He thinks about things that I might like and remembers them. Once I made a post about chocolate cheesecake on bookface on a thread about what might cheer me up and sure enough, I had some the next day!

When I had to go to hospital and I was scared and in pain he was by my side in world record time and stayed with me all through the night.

Even in scruffy clothes and messy hair he makes me feel totally desirable!

Anything that has happened when I worried he would be cross with me, I was proven wrong. He is the most understanding and patient and caring man I have ever met. He has never once said a single short tempered word to me.

He is also very affectionate, both verbally and physically. I can't wait till we can live together. I wish it could be sooner but a few months in the grand scheme of things....

He makes me lovely coffee every morning.
He whispered that he LOVES our new kittens when I asked if he likes them ! x100

Today he rang me at work when he came home from school because he knew I'd had a horrible few days. So has he

And when I got home from picking up my DC from my parents he had washed all the lunchboxes, made sarnies for tomorrow, emptied the dishwasher and left me some flowers.

He always cuts the middles out of my tomatoes for me.

He does lots of other lovely things too but that's one of my favourite!

Lets me warm my freezing feet on his hot body in bed .

Makes my sandwhiches when the night before I go to work when I'm busy mning working on the laptop.

Gives me a kiss when he comes home from work.

Gives me compliments at random moments and is very sincere about it.

He texts me every day at lunchtime. He always ends his texts by telling me something lovely about me - he loves me, he thinks I'm beautiful ( and I'm a very ugly beauty-is-in-the-eye-of-the-beholder sort of woman!), he desires me.

He gives me excellent, thoughtful, heartfelt advice whenever I have a problem, and I know I can trust him completely.

He listens to all my nonsense, and to all my important stuff too.

He's lovely to his three step children, not as a substitute dad - they've got a 'real' dad - but as a truly special, trustworthy man in their lives.

He loves me very deeply, and I know it every day.

Oh, and he makes me laugh :o

He has to go away for a week for work. I was out working this morning and because I couldn't get back in time before he left, he drove to where I was to say goodbye. We kissed and cuddled in the car

What a lovely thread ....... wish I could join in but:

Is a great Dad, loves being with our DS and takes him out and about a lot which gives me time alone and encourages me to have weekends away on my own.
(is there a reason for this I wonder?? )

err....... that's about it !

This morning he made me scrambled eggs on toast and cut up the carrots I've been craving so I could take some to work.

He did this despite the fact I was in a hideous mood and bing snappy and mean .

PS: Actually, something that my DH is good about which I see a lot of difficulties on MN is that he never, ever argues about money and spending - as a SAHM I don't 'earn' any money as such but in all our married life we have just had one bank account and never any issues over who can spend what - so he does have one or two good points .

Ummmmmm..........

I'll get back to ya.

you've joined Ragwort! seems like some pretty positive stuff

What a great thread - I've read so many threads on MN that have made me sitting crying at the miserable trapped lives that some women put up with and seem to think are totally normal - and where they've said 'oh but he's nice really because he...' and then said something that's just a basic expectation, not a kindness at all. So glad that other people are happy and in love too - and hope that others who read it have an insight into what love is like.

For my kind, lovely DH the list is endless but just a selection:-

• read my first two (unpublished) novels for me and gave me lots of encouragement and feedback, and supports me so much while I'm writing my third. When I've said that I may never succeed as a writer he says 'You are already a success because of the quality of your work, if you never get published your work is still successful, it's not conditional on what anyone else thinks, and the only thing I worry about is that you don't believe in yourself as much as you should."
• he takes DS out at weekends so I can write, even when he's working an 80 hour week.
• praises my cooking as if it were Michelin starred
• does the ironing
• tells DS over and over 'aren't we lucky to have mummy? she's the best person ever isn't she?' etc.
• thanks me for every single thing I do - never takes anything for granted, or assumes that it's my 'job' because I'm at home. Even if I've only put his clean socks away, he'll thank me for it.
• listens to me when I need to rant on about something and gives the best advice and never tells me that I'm just being silly or over-sensitive.
• kisses me so perfectly that my knees go wobbly every time

DP always reads my dc's bedtime stories (complete with silly voices etc), and even though he works very long hours he cheerfully got up with them early this morning, and all of them trooped up 20 minutes later with breakfast and coffee in bed for me.

If there's ever a choice of two things where one is nicer than the other, he'll make sure I get the nicest one.

He is incredibly kind, and is always the first to laugh at himself. Sees us as a little team and never tries to compete with me (other than in scrabble, and then loses gracefully )

I think you must all be such lovely wives/girlfriends/partners/lovers etc etc for your OHs to be SO beautiful!!

Sends me beautiful, inspirational text messages when I'm feeling down about life/myself.

Never kisses me once, always four or more at a time!

Tolerates my serious mood swings without batting an eyelid.

When I am snappy/rude to him for no reason, looks into my eyes, cuddles me and tells me he is on my side (this took some training but fuck me it's worth it).

When I ask him to get me a cake from the shop, comes back with loads of different varieties and chocolate as well (think he wants me to get fat!!!)

Says 'you're so sexy' all the time.

Buys me little girly presents like earrings and perfume. (and chooses the right stuff somehow!)

Other stuff too. God we're lucky ain't we girls.

becstar, your post made me go wobbly at the knees :)

I think this should be in Classics. Everyone needs a reminder sometimes of how relationships should be. :)

Very lucky ladies

We are lucky, domeafavour. But then, our DHs/DPs are lucky to have us too, because how many women cook dinner/make coffee/do the laundry/buy presents/give massages to their partners? Loads and loads and loads.

I put DP's clothes away or they never get put away, I buy him little stupid presents or cards, or mini kids chocolate bars (fudge and freddos etc) if I meet him after work because he is always starving. I proofread all his written work and make the bed and leave nice notes around for him sometimes.

Niceness breeds niceness I think - I have to strive to keep up with him.

Have you started a thread because it sounds like you need some support?

Oh, I have a lovely DH, so glad there's so many of us! Short selection:

He warms my feet when I'm cold in bed.

When I told him the other morning I'd had a nightmare in the night, he told me next time I have a nightmare I should wake him up and he'll give me a hug.

He tells me I'm gorgeous when I don't have make up on and my hair is a bit like a wheetabix. When I said I had some more baby weight to lose, he looked at me and said "I dont think you get how stunning you are."

He knows I hate it when he cycles in central London, so sends me a text to say he got to work safely every time he rides to work (I'm not just being a complete wuss, he has been hit by a lorry when riding to work in the past)

He tells me I'm an amazing mother

He randomly buys chocolate for me