What little things does lovely DH/DP do for you? (balancing thread I'm reading toooo many EA/DV threads)

[merrywidow]

He comes to lay on the bed to cuddle me and chat

Presents me with chocolate randomly. Breaks into the bathroom while I'm having a soak and exfoliates my back. Lavishes me with affection even when I'm unkempt and bleary. He's wonderful :)

This is a fantastic thread - making me smile even tho DD kept us up half the night and I'm knackered and grumpy.

DH does loads of lovely little things, going out to get me choccy at night if we don't have any, giving me shoulder rubs, saying I'm gorgeous when I wake up and I know I look as rough as a bear's arse and probably have morning breath.....

But the biggie for me is that I have always been able to be completely myself with him, even if sometimes that self is horrible, grumpy, unreasonable, picky and very pre-menstrual.... and he's always just taken it on the chin and walked away (if I'm really bad) or given me a hug and sweet-talked me out of it. I will always appreciate that and remember how lucky I am

What a lovely thread

Dp is kind, considerate, gentle and never raises his voice.

He is an excellent father and is very understanding and supportive even though i'm 34wks pregnant with DC3 and tired, grumpy and irrational :o

Tells me I look beautiful even though I feel like an elephant!

Always makes me a cuppa in the morning

Loves cleaning and is a wonderful and attentive lover. I'm a very lucky girl :o

when I come back to bed in the morning and I am freezing/he is toasty warm I can put my cold hands all over him to warm up - he says "what you have to understand is heat lost=heat gained!"

Lets me use the footstool (we can't share it due to positioning of the living room furniture)

Takes DS to the shop to buy me a newspaper every Saturday morning.

Listens when I talk, even when I'm talking rubbish.

If he comes to bed after I do, he leaves his pyjamas in the spare room so he can get ready for bed without disturbing me.

Always says "that was lovely, thank you" after dinner if I've cooked and usually means it!

Never, ever makes himself a drink without asking me if I'd like one too.

Those are just the little things - he's also pretty good at the big things like being a fantastic father and most importantly, is genuinely my partner in that we share everything 50/50. He does 50% of the housework/childcare because he understands that it's 50% of his responsibility. I didn't understand how rare that was until I read some of the threads on MN.

Fuck all.

Although I heard of a man the other who wakes everyday and tells his wife he can't believe he's with her it's like winning the lottery everyday.

Aw Posie, that's crap. :( He must have done at some point, surely? Er, years ago?

Generally puts up with my mentalness !
constantly squeezes my bum, even in sainsburys .
wants a cuddle every, what seems like 5 minutes.
Does pretty much what ever i ask and never complains.
looks after the baby when ever i want to swim.
cooks yummy food.
constantly wants it .... with me, even with hairy legs.
likes me to meet his friends, work colleagues etc.
ditto the boob warming ! :)

Agree with Borntofolk. My DP in my partner in every way. I was beginning to think our relationship was very rare after reading some of the awfully sad threads on MN. This thread is resoring my faith :)

My DP also tells me that dinner was lovely even if i've been to lazy to cook proper food only cooked oven chips!

Posie show your DP this thread - give him a kick up his arse :o

DH is good in bed, which is less and less frequent!!

There is so much really but here goes:
Puts up with my PMT and will get me paracetamol in the middle of the night with some fresh water
Brings me tea in bed on a Sunday
Cooks dinners
Very hands on with the kids
Loves cuddling (very giving :-)
Makes me laugh!!

Probably dont always give him the credit he deserves really!!

Drives half an hour to pick up an mner then drives us for over an hour to the Xmas meet. Then #drives all the way home until coming back to get is, dropping friend plus another mner on route. Kindly pushes first friend through her door whilst she tries to thank him in kind. Then comes home to do what sf's Dh does.

He cleans up cat vomit.

Puts up with my pregnancy- induced unreasonableness (including sleeping on the sofa at 3am if he's snoring).
Makes me coffee and toast in bed before I get up for work.
Is fantastic with DD - loves her SO much!
Is really supportive of me and will do anything to help my mum out.
Aw, I'd forgotten how sweet he really us! Thanks for reminding me!

Loves me.
Loves the kids.
Works his backside off to support us.
Makes a mean G&T.
Always makes me a brew.
Loves to talk.
Great (and giving!) in bed, and doesn't hassle me for sex when I am feeling hormonal or knackered.

I forgot - loveliest thing of all is he writes the most heartfelt songs and poetry about me.

Admires me, respects me all the time.

Trusts me judgement on things.

Makes it clear to all people including littlemad, my parents random people in the supermarket and me how amazing he thinks I am.

Always looks at me with love and gentle eyes.

Tells me I am a great Mummy and I've done a fabulous job with littlemad.

Never minds if I fall asleep on the sofa.

Take littlemad out for a rampage on weekend afternoons so I can have some me time.

Loves Littlemad unconditionally.

Pulls his weight

Rakes the leaves and mows the lawn because he knows I hate doing it

Checks the oil and water in my car for the same reason

Always always cleans up the kitchen after we've eaten.

Empties the compost bin

Brings me flowers when he sees ones that are pretty enough'.

Bought me raspberry jelly in the supermarket yesterday because he knows I don't like jam with 'bits in'

chose the perfect engagement ring and proposed to me just before we collected littlemad from school because he knew who I would want to tell first.

I really am a very happy lady :)

Would usually agree with Posie sweet F.A.

But today:

Coffee

Cold drink

Bacon and eggs

Flowers

Hoovering

Laundry

DS to school

Painkillers

All I had to do was have surgery, I should do it more often.

I'm heavily pg and fed up, and last night he surprised me with a big tub of Haagen Dazs, and rubbed my back and feet while I scoffed the lot

But mostly, he is interested in me. He asks my opinion on politics and argues with me about books and listens intently to what I have to say.

And before he leaves for work he jumps back into bed in his suit to cover me with kisses!

Bakes for me.
Rings me the second he gets in from work just to hear my voice.
Has a cup of tea and a bath waiting for me when I get in from work - hopefully not for much longer, I've been for an interview this morning for a job with more civilised hours, unfortunately it means I'll have to cook the tea if I get it .
Strokes my hip or the back of my neck when we are falling asleep / reaches for me as soon as he wakes up.
Spanks me when I'm a bad girl.

Mine is always loving , generous and kind.

Just last week he flew home (he works abroad) arriving late evening and left home again at 4am the next day, because he wanted to see me on my birthday. He even arrived with a huge bunch of flowers and lots of pressies. We had a fun evening

He gives lovely cuddles and amazing massages, tells me how much he loves me and how beautiful he thinks I am (I'm not!!).

Lots of surprise cards, texts, flowers and little gifts.

Brings me coffee in bed every morning and makes me breakfast.

Carries my shopping.

Lets me have the window seat on an aeroplane and the spare extra seat when we were flying overnight, so I could get some sleep while he sat up.

Puts my comfort and happiness ahead of his own.

Never sulks, shouts, snaps or criticises.

I hope there are LOTS of men reading this and taking notes

DH feeds me fabulous food
and does other things I am too coy to say
He makes me coffee every morning
digs holes in the garden for me
just generally is a lovely lovely person

As soon as he comes in from work, he plays crazy games with the children for at least an hour so that I can get things done.

He helps out my family whenever he can

He finishes work early if I need to do something

He is always on my side

He gets up with the children a lot

He does a lot of housework and is always willing to do bathtime/putting to bed