D'y ever wonder how life got like this?

[FrumpyGrumpy]

New to MN but like what I read so far. Struggling to get by day by day at the minute and feeling isolated but not enough to make the effort to join in the 'groups' the whole world seems to think are just what I need!!!!

Have daughter of 4 and girl and boy twins of eight months. Not had time since they were born when all three kids have been well, am I just cursed? Throw in a house move that took 6 months, a partner that works away most of the week and a mother-in-law I can wait another lifetime to deal with and I've ended up the sort of person I used to look at and wonder how life got like that.

Anyone give me hope that when the babes are eighteen months I'll feel better?!! If not, anyone tell me that alternate nights of gin then chocolate is an ok passage through?

glad you not been sick yet triplets.

I bought one bumbo at the weekend, and they both enjoy it, One sits in there and the ohter in the actvity center and they can coo and s ile at each ohter. I'm def going to have to get a second one tho.

Hi everyone,
Sounds a good idea, that holiday, I did go for a long w/end with a bunch of girlfriends in Feb, Rosies b/day. and we just laughted til we ached, it did me so much good. We are off to Cornwall in Aug, camping! Must say at 53 its not my idea of fun, but as everyone says, "the kids will love it". Like you said Meeely2, we are always thinking of others. Just beginning to feel that I truly am too old to have these three, and Harry is 11 years older than me, its just not the way we thought it would be, all those years ago when life was good. Saying that makes it sound as if it is all bad, which it isn`t, just frustrating, wanting it all to be as it was, to have all my children, to stop feeling sad. I guess its because its Matthews b/day this Sat, his 26th, I do think of him as being 26, not as 14, oh seems such a very long time ago that I saw him, since I heard the key go in the door at 4pm and he would say, "hi Mum, its only me". How I miss those words.Going to go or I shall get sad.

Triplets, I am sorry to ehar you are feeling low. Will you be doing anything special for Matthew's birthday?
I went on a few camping hols while growing up, loved it. Can't say I could do it now though!

Itis always hard to know what to do on "special days", sometimes I feel positive and want to do something, other times I don`t. What we are doing though, and Matthew would just have loved to have done it, is on Sat night once its dark, we are meeting in the car park at Walmer Castle and going on a walk in the dark up onto the common to spot bats! My Thomas will be so excited, he loves anything like that just as Matthew did. I am hoping for a lovely evening with a sky full of stars so that I can feel he will be watching us.

That sounds really fun. Do you actually see bats then? I don't think I've ever seen one ouside of a zoo. I hope mine are like that when they get older - outdoor people. My dp wasn't into anything like that, but I'm working on him!

Hi,
Well its the first time we will have been on one, but my friend Rosie has been before and she said it was amazing! Two years ago we rented a house in France and the owner said to open the barn door ar 9pm and the bats would fly out, they sure did, and also hung upside down on the door, the kids were fascinated. All my three love animals, insects anything! Last year in Florida we took them to a botanical garden and they had snakes, guess whose were the first hands to shoot up when offered to hold one! I dont think there is anything they wouldnt pick up, I run a mile!

Hi girls. All ok? DP was caught in Liverpool St yesterday and we were a bit shocked for half an hour till we heard from him (we live in Scotland and he works there during the week). He walked miles last night carrying all his stuff and somehow he managed to get a train and a plane and get home to us at 10pm! Was big time happy to see him. I consider my little life to have had a big arse kick into perspective.

Triplets, if its ok I'll raise a wee glass of wine to you on Saturday and send you my thoughts.

OMG, that must have been scary. Glad he is ok. Will be thinking of you tomorrow Triplets. Hope you have a good evening out.

Hope you are all ok. I'm so tired. Dh away on Boys brigade camp this weekend so I have the 4 by myself. dd driving me crazy, bombarding me with questions all the time, can I get a drink, I'm cold can I get a fleece, can I get a book, etc etc... she's 10 for goodness sake! ds nearly 8, convinced he has aspergers or something like that... have always thought it, and as for the twins.... hitting their siblings, saying no to everything they are asked or told, kicking things, fighting, one of them has perfected a high pitched squeal.... even my sister was exhausted after spending an hour out with us this morning. they are getting worse... thought they should be getting easier now...and to top it all they can't go to nursery/playgroup until january and then it will probably have to be at a different school to the one my big 2 go to!.......... sorry to go on......

my sister is having the three boys on sunday morning,as dd and I are doing the cancer research 'race for life'.... atleast it will be a break

Hi TMP, god your lovely. All that and still a space for running! Do take a bag of donuts and eat them as you run/walk. Its the only way .

Hi FrumpyGrumpy! Thought I'd reply to you on here - the other thread is just so sad

I was so touched by your commentWow your thread has certainly taken off, I must have a proper read through - it's full of wonderfully supportive (if somewhat frazzled) multiple mums.

It's nice to write out how you feel and get it off your chest to others in the same boat who can truly empathise. I'm a bit wary in RL to say too much cos it sounds like I'm moaning and ungrateful to have them all, which is not true at all but there's just so much ALL the time to juggle it gets exhausting.

Hope you and everyone here are doing well - I have a mountain of irorning with a snowcap on it that I should be doing instead of sitting here. That and a ton of tidying - the special kind that only little twins create in tandem called 'lets make the house look like it's been burgled!'

My older dd is also looking to me to solve the riddle of the ever popular Scoubidoo. So when I do manage to finally collapse at the end of the day, I'm sitting there in the debris of the day muttering and cussing twisting up knotty little plastic strings in an attempt to learn this and then try to teach it to her.

Every morning in the madness of trying to get them all out the door for school and preschool..'Mummy, do you know what to do yet? Can we do a Scooby right now? Can we?? Oh, you always say later!'

Hi everyone,
Feeling so sad today as it is my darling Matthews birthday, he is 26, so unbelievable. I am so positive in my mind that he is now 26, not 14. Oh, I get sooooooooooooooo angry still when we go to the cemetery, just seems so unreal sitting there putting flowers in vases, seems such an inadequate birthday present, so unfair. Standing in shops looking for a card for him, so hard, so very hard. This is the 11th birthday without him and it just doesn`t get easier.

thnking of you triplets xxxxxx

Thinking of you as well triplets.

Thank you tinygang for giving me the exact description that I need for the devestation the DTs leave in their wake: 'lets make the house look like it's been burgled!' Fantastic!!!!!!!!!

Hi FG how's it going? DT1 is now sleeping through, DT2 is still coming in with us, but only waking once or twice a night now. I've fully weaned them and am waiting for my boobs to go down, though it would be better if my tummy went down first lol

Found DT1 in the wash basin in the bathroom today. Great! New trick. DT2 cleared a section of the bookcase and was sitting in it. I say sitting, but what I actually mean is that I found him scrunched up inside it lol

Love them! Make me laugh!

hi,
triplets, was thinking of you yesterday, cannot begin to imagine how you must feel.
laughed at the 'burgled' description! had a lovely morning walking(not running) the race for life.Marslady, couldn't help but laugh at the thought of one of them in the sink! the phrase 'aarghhh' came to mind. Mine have discovered the outside tap, its a race to see how wet they can get before i stop them. dh home now and the dt's didn't have a sleep today so were in bed at 6.45pm and asleep 2 mins later... we've survived the weekend! take care all

Hi all,
Just had a huge row with husband, just everything is so stressful atm. Just nobody seems to be happy and I am so fed up I could cry.

Triplets honey, its an extra stressful time for you as a family and that is probably the catalyst for the fall out. Not that that makes it any easier. Wishing you well. How is today?

TinyGang, what the hell is Scoubidou? DD1 starts school in August and I'm already up to the top wrinkle on my forehead with worry. Is this something I will need to (a) know about and (b) be of olympic standard by 8.49am on her first day?! This is so much more complicated than chatting to her about birds, bees and bras!

Hi Mars, ah the sink, the sink!!! They can now bath without you, yahoo! I'm not doing so good just now thanks for asking though. Trying it all and nothing helping. Try not to post here too much about it cos you're all such a lovely bunch. Might try depressing the depressed! (Meant in the nicest self-deprecating, way.)

Mars, on a different note, do you need bits and bobs for your friend who's had twins? (I remember you posting for little things but all my tiny stuff is gone.) I'm sorting through some things to give to a charity convoy going to eastern europe but could easily separate. Things are 3-6 months and up. Nice condition and not too many foodstains!! Sorry to do this here but can't remember where your other thread was.

Hi Frumpygrumpy,
Thanks for your support, feeling very tired, up at 5am with a sore eye, headache and feeling unhappy. But.........I did get a hug and an apology this morning, haven`t had one of those for a long time, feeling a bit calmer. As you said, not a good time anyway, so awful feeling relieved that your childs birthday is over, makes me feel so sad.

Yes please fg. CAT me and I'll give you my address. Thanks!

DON'T YOU DARE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! stop posting on this thread. I have rhino hide. You post whatever you want babe.

DT1 escapes buggy on a regular basis. Need chains. DT2 spent the morning eating bf's favourite plants in her garden. DT1 sleeping through, DT2 not quite.

Glad today is better for you triplets.

Glad he apologised Triplets. Its so easy to take the stress out on each other, I know I do. As for being a relief its over, I think that's totally understandable, its not the date you long for, its the person. (Please tell me to stick my head up my bum if I need to mind my own business.)

Thanks Mars, your rhino hide is much appreciated and I bet totally this season. Will CAT you. I have no idea what this means so am off to investigate . But hey, it makes me sound good.

Oooh I did it Mars, I shock myself!

Mars, got your address and will send some stuff. Ta.

Anyone elses babes struggling with the hot weather? 2 out of 3 up last night for most of it and tonight DTs kept each other crying for almost 2 hours (and separate rooms!). Seemed to be nothing else wrong. Ah, glass of wine before getting down to the business of trying to find the kitchen. Then should eat but really hate cooking and hate eating alone even more. Toast is cooking right?

I didn't mean I was so sh* faced I couldn't find the kitchen (haven't poured anything yet!) merely that it was so stuck down with clothes, toys and dinner remnants that it would take me a while to uncover it! Wish me luck, I may be gone for sometime......