Hello everyone.
Hi devondoris, welcome to mn, and congrats on the pg.
Keep coming on here and you will soon get an idea of what it is like.
My dd was also 4 when my dts were born and she was brilliant at helping out. I have four and they all much in now. My dts are now 15 months, and I have a ds who is 4 and dd is 6.
My dp went back to work after 2 weeks, and I didn?t have anyone else to help and I got through it. I coped by getting out and about as much as possible, as babies are happy when being pushed around, even if it is just to the shops! As long as you make sure that you do get some time for yourself you should be fine. In the early days it is rather relentless, a constant round of feeding and changing, but they do at least sleep a lot. If you can get any help from anywhere at all, then take it! The local mother and toddler group were fantastic for me, they cooked me a meal a day for the first two weeks when dp went back to work. Try local colleges for childcare students.
I actually find it harder now, mine have been driving me up the wall lately. They are into everything, dt1 is teething and very unhappy and I just want to scream! Ds was ill yesterday too (though seems fine now) so they are off school, which is a relief because I?ve not got three school runs to do, and I?m hoping to throw them all out in the garden later! Yesterday I went for a long walk by myself late in the evening, just to enjoy some total quiet and destress. I desperately need my hol, and I?m working how I will survive the four weeks until then!
I am shocked that the consultant said that straight off! Did you have a straightforward delivery with your dd? Mine was actually the opposite, some nasty Australian lady who had only just started a few weeks before I was booked in. On the day of my elective section they insisted that I should be induced for a natural. Mine kept movng right up to the last few weeks. They thought one baby was head down, when I was convinced they were both breach. I had to scream and sob before they allowed the section, but I was right!
Before I discovered I was expecting two I wanted a homebirth. But twins aren?t straightforward, the human body is really only designed to carry one baby at a time. So keep an open mind for now, you have a while to go yet, and a lot depends on the position of the babies. If they are both head down then fight, but personally I would save my energy for now. Twin pgs are tiring; you will need all you got! My singletons were straightforward, but with two it really is different. My legs ballooned because of water retention, my blood pressure went up, I had a lot of problems with sugar in my urine and then the pressure of the babies collapsed my lung. Prob not want you want to hear right now, but it is worth considering that you might also need help before the baby is due! I had a neighbour taking my dd to school.
My pg showed me that things can change literally at the last minute, so don?t start worrying too much. Just remember that you are entitled to the birth you want, and let them think what they want for now. I would have liked a natural birth but at the end of mine, I was so exhausted I didn?t have the energy to push mine out so there was no way I could face a vaginal delivery. I could have used a doula though, to fight my corner on the day!
Good luck with it all!
Mars, glad to hear you are ?studying? hard!
Talking of fit men, I got my car jammed in a space outside the school and couldn?t get out. It was sports days, cars parked everywhere, you know the idea. I was heading into the school with the reg of the offending blocker when I saw two gorgeous men! I batted my eyes a bit, and they came to the rescue and one of them backed my car out of me while I drooled. You should have seen them, al muscled and young and sexy!
Hope you are having a good time fg, missing you!
Hm, how are you doing?