D'y ever wonder how life got like this?

[FrumpyGrumpy]

New to MN but like what I read so far. Struggling to get by day by day at the minute and feeling isolated but not enough to make the effort to join in the 'groups' the whole world seems to think are just what I need!!!!

Have daughter of 4 and girl and boy twins of eight months. Not had time since they were born when all three kids have been well, am I just cursed? Throw in a house move that took 6 months, a partner that works away most of the week and a mother-in-law I can wait another lifetime to deal with and I've ended up the sort of person I used to look at and wonder how life got like that.

Anyone give me hope that when the babes are eighteen months I'll feel better?!! If not, anyone tell me that alternate nights of gin then chocolate is an ok passage through?

glad u had a good time fg.

glad you enjoyed the ballet fg, hope all goes well with the move mars.
kelly, i'm obviously not the only cold one, am sitting here with a fleece blanket wrapped around me...

Thanks tmp, it reminds me that I should try more often to go out. Dp and I haven't been out together and alone (IYSWIM) for months and months, just always seems to be something else needed to do.....

Whatever I have has turned into a nasty virus and I feel utterly rubbish, gotta keep on with the routine though which makes you realise that the usual routine is preferable!! Couldn't sleep at all last night because of aches and pains and stuffiness - put light out at 10pm and was still awake at 1.30am, woke for the day at 5.30am . Hopefully I'll feel better really soon, I'm not a good ill person, much prefer being the nurse!

I agree its freeeeezing, slept with a gressing gown on last night until my temperature soared!

I don't want to be rude and memtion the C word (whispering Christmas under my probably smelly breath) but I have only done a few little things about it and really don't want to do it this year. My parents are having difficulties and are secretly living apart and it would be preferable to wake up and find its April. Am I just being true to my name or anyone else feel similar? (I love it for dd though).

Stay warm girlies.

Falling over boxes here. Can't wait for Saturday evening. I'll be at the great meetup and we will have moved house. Hurrah!

The DTs aren't very well at the moment.. so that doesn't help.

Tomorrow I have a load of friends coming to take boxes to the new house. I've already unpacked the kitchen and I'm hoping to finish DD1's bedroom when we get there.

Just spent the last day trying desperately to get a pink Nintendo DS with Nintendogs. The wonderful Beep (a MNetter) found one for me. Seems to be the LAST one in the country. Phew! Now looking for a table football for DS1.

Went shopping in Watford all day yesterday. Had great fun and almost finished my Christmas shopping.

Tomorrow am cooking a load of food for the movers on Saturday.

Will post again, probably Sunday. Depending on hangover of course lol

I haven't even started any xmas shopping! haven't done a thing. Xmas isn't a massive deal for us, we don't have any family nearby, and aren't hugely into xmas. We just do a few things with the kids and leave it at that. Since there's no pressure to make a big song and dance about it we enjoy it more that way. The time off is the bit we look forward to the most.

We might be going to Swindon tomorrow, to get some xmas pressies there. They have a hamleys outlet shop. It'll be my first go at driving on the motorway, so avoid the M4 girls!

So....... most of the boxes are at the new house.

I've taken delivery of bunkbeds and a sofa bed.

I have hung pictures, unpacked the kitchen and discovered how to use the boiler.

I have almost completed my Christmas shopping (thanks to 2 lovely mumsnetters).

I have an oven to clean (Yeurckkkkkkkkkkkkkk!!!), and lots of odds and sods to pack up. I have a couch to pick up, another set of bunk beds to take delivery of. My BIL is coming over early with the van. My sister is going to the gym first cheeky mare.

All systems are go. I have to pick up a small pot of incredibly pink paint for DD1's room. I have a guy on standby to rebuild all of the furniture.

I could do with 2 months sleep... but I can't give in as I have to get finished in time to go on the meetup. I have 3 strangers coming to stay with me.... I do hope the kids leave them alone. lol

And instead of going to bed early.... here I am lol

did u ahve a good time at the meet up mars? Sounds so busy for you. Moving really is a nightmare.

We've now done about half the xmas shopping, prob do the rest this week sometime, Then can sit back and relax. Driving on the motorway was scary but not as bad as I thought it would be. still not going to go anywhere near them on my own tho!

The kids and I met a lovely mum in sains car park today and she has invited us out to mother and toddlers and meetups on A friday with a couple of other mums of 8mnth olds. Hope the dts behave themselves .

The twins climb all over each other loads. I'm a bit worried they are going to clamber on the other babies. I can't remember my singletons ever doing that.

Hey girlies! Have been off being horribly ill with a nasty, nasty, flu-like virus. Had to keep going though and I've just been dragging my sore, sweaty body to bed as soon as the kids are sleeping every night. Feeling slightly better so hopefully I've turned a corner.

Kelly that sounds like there's life about your neck of the woods so that promising. Your Christmas day sounds great to me, me being an unsociable recluse and all !

Mars, hows it going? You've got a lot on your plate, moves and illness and the meet up. Can you talk? At times like this I usually say things like "yeah, she's had calpol already, maybe try a teething powder and bonjela" when I've been asked something like "cashback madam"? Its why I advocate the singing very loud in the car to very loud music method of survival! Not atm though as I have no voice at all, it left me last Friday night and has yet to return. Thats my chance of being on TOTP right up shit creek .

Ah, its a wonderful world.

ooh, I'm learning about that singing along loudly in the car method of survival. Get funny looks though, going down quiet local roads with twins screaming in the back and stereo full blast to drown them out.

I think mars is still waiting for broadband.

hi girlies.

Moving with twins is NOT recommended lol.

We're in. I got to the meetup which was brilliant. A bit sad that I missed the post meetup lovefest lol.

Managed to sort 2 of the bedrooms and the kitchen since Saturday. Am beginning to see light at the end of the tunnel.... but it's a blimming LONG tunnel.

Gotta go do some more before pick up.

Chat soon!

hello mars, glad you getting there. I'm never moving again after trying to move with dts.

fg - dya know sains have gin on special offer Got a biig bottle for our cocktail cabinet.

hv has jsut been and sorted out ds's referral to a pediatrician. Didnt' give us many clues really, but said he seemed very withdrawn for his age. His going to have a series of three appointments in maidenhead, which is going to be interesting with the twins in tow!

How's everyone else doing?

Hi Kelly, bit stretched with christmas taking up all my (non) free time! But after 6 weeks of illness in the hoose I think (whispering) we're coming out the other end, legs crossed.

Sorry, didn't realise your ds was being referred, what's up? So hard to do the appointments with DTs, do you have anyone that would take one from you, it makes a massive difference.

Thanks for the invaluable gin info, even though I'm still unable to stomach any alcohol after my horrid virus, I'm beating a fasttrack to Sainsbury. After all, it doesn't go off now does it! And its so good at making me look like this.

Debating whether to have an early night or write christmas cards....... Sleep well girls x.

Nope nobody around here to help. The HV seemed to think they would be ok there, I'll just take some toys with me. ds have behavorial and speech problems. I've been posting about him here

Gin is essential here atm, what with ds, sts, and bed bugs. WE'll get there with the help of the gin, malibu, barcardi, archers, tequilia... Every night is cocktail night around here atm!

Kelly darling, I read your other thread with great interest. You're right to have him checked out because you won't rest until someone else rules out all the possibilities.

Personally, I'm thinking that he's really extremely bright. Bright kids have a very sharp sense of humour which can come across as strange behaviour. I'm certainly no specialist but I wouldn't be surprised if he is an intelligent boy who is just working out the ways of the world in his own way. My ex neighbours second born wore wellies come hail, rain or shine and was found halfway down the middle of the road one day (about age 3) when he had worked out how to turn the key and open the door.

Honey, I can't say either way for you and I think you're doing absolutely the best thing by asking for someone else to cast an eye over him. I hope he's just making his own way in a large family of siblings and that actually self sufficiency will be the making of a real life survivor.

Keep going to the toddlers club, maybe someone you like will also be empathetic and lend a hand to let you go to the appointment with ds alone or even just one. I'm sure you'd both like that. Any hope DP could take time off when the appointments are? (I know this is really tough.)

Wish I could help more.

OOOh I did it! A great big blob of Christmas just fell on my head and I did it! There you go!

(Still got shit hair and hairy legs mind you.)

Night

Just checking in girlies. Hi and peaceful nights all x.

Hi FG and Kelly.

Who told me to move before Christmas? lol

I've got my bookgroup coming round tomorrow for our Christmas do... it was all my own doing. Have sorted the lounge, put the tree up, but no decorations until the weekend, cos it's DS1's 13th birthday on Thursday and we don't do decorations until after his birthday.

Bought out the last of M&S party food. No supplies in because of the depot fire. Gonna make a HUGE pot of mulled wine.

Bought a new hoover today, a lovely Henry. Got a free Henry shopping bag too lol.

DD1 was Titania in A Midsummer's Night Dream today. They've had a LAMDA woman in school for the last 10 weeks. It was BRILLIANT!!!! and so was she.

She's not too well this evening though.

Stopped a fight in the playground this morning between 2 mums. Dunno who's worse anymore, parents or kids!

Other than that, all well in the Mars Household. Wishing you and yours health FG and Kelly etc.

oh sounds like everyone is gettign in the Xmas spirit!

Personally I want to cancel Xmas. I've had a really shit couple of weeks. AS well as worrying about ds, the house we've moved in is infested with bed bugs. The council came yesterday and he said it was the worst infestation he'd seen in ten years, and it has been here at least 4-6 months, so defo before we were there. I have to destroy the kids bed, which is only abt 6 mnths old. (I replaced their bunk beds after ds fell out and hurt himself quite badly)

So I've had ten loads of washing to do, spraying, sweeping etc, and got to go through it all again straight after Xmas, then maybe again two weeks after that and that might get rid of it. It's going to end up costing em a fortune, in medicine, laundry, sprays, new bed and treatments. Plus, I think I am allergic to them. I am covered with bites on my arms and legs which are ulceratign and infected. So, I'm not sleepign much.

Saturday, my parents were supposed to be visiting and didn't bother becuase they mgiht catch somethign. (bedbugs). Never mind the fact that it is only upstairs, only upstairs gets treated and iut is only spread by beddign etc. My bloody parents who can only make the effort once in a blue moon, because the dog is more important ('less trouble' taht the grandkids) managed to get on the net and read a load of crap. Funny that, since they can't manage it to get directions (I have to print them on and send them) or to look at photos I've sent.

They didn't even let me knwo til the evenign before, after I had been rushign around all day getting food and presents for them. They had been rignign the landline but were too tight to ring my mobile. So the kids arent gettign their Xmas presetns, whcih I wouldn't be btohered if htey hadn't ask me what I was gettign them and then pinched my ideas!! So the things the kids really wanted, they won't be getting.
dd had her school nativity yesterday, which I couldn't go to, as I wasn't allowed to take the buggy in, and I can't manage the twins and ds on
my own. I ended up lying to her and told her I was at the back, so not to disappoint her!

Plus this mornign, I get in the car and the bloody thing won't start. I joined the aa, called them out and then he gets me to follow him to a garage for a battery, then gets there and decides it wont fit. He was a lovely bloke, but sooo gormless! So I have to wait for the nissan dealer to get one in, and drive to aldershot tomo to get it fitted in. So dd has missed school today and I cna't take her tomorrow. I was plannign a nice long, de-stressing drive with the stereo up full too!

I'd like to go to bed and hibernate til spring, but I'd prob be munched to pieces by then!

Yikes, big moan alert

Aw Kelly my darling [shock} .

Thats the pits, is there nothing the council/previous occupant can do about assisting with the cost? Insurance? I can imagine you must feel demented and damn angry too I expect.

Sad about your parents . They don't deserve to see your lovely brood and their wee smiley faces on Christmas day. I know you said you feel their gifts won't be what they might hope for but really kids love presents full stop and chocolate and being allowed to eat it for breakfast without limit and Christmas music on to create atmosphere when inside you've none. Once when my dd was little and I'd been ill and not had much time to shop for her birthday I made a sparkly trail of confetti stuff from her room, down the stairs to her gifts and she actually loved that bit the best.

Its awful when you feel its all coming at you thick and fast from every direction and its so hard to keep perspective at these times and see a way through. But it will come through, really it will. I'm focussing on spring and summer and thats getting me through just now. I thought we were out of illness but dd is off school with the nasty virus I had a couple of weeks back and dt1 is coughing like mad. At least maybe this means they'll be clear for christmas (famous last words).

Moan away Kelly, as much as you like, it always makes a massive difference to me to bash it out on here. Thinking of you, check in again tomorrow x.

And by the way, I'm boiling mad for you about the nativity. SPIRIT OF CHRISTMAS - NO ROOM AT THE INN??????

I get on my high horse about things like that, glad she thinks you were there though.

Mars, how'd the bookgroup go - did you end up doing cheese and pineapple chunks on cocktail sticks, stuck into a foil covered potato a la hedgehog?

sorry to hear that Kelly. Here's hoping that this time next week you are all excited about Christmas again.

there you go FG

well, car is fixed, so that is a relief, although not even that was straightforward. The garage where the aa bloke was supposed to have ordered the battery had no record, so we ended up calling round to try to locate it ourselves. Found one in slough, then had a load of hassle trying to get hold of the radio code. can't believe our luck atm! I got to drive on three motorways on my own tho, which was great. Starting to get the hang of this driving lark! Tho our car seems to skid a lot, and I don't think I driving that quick. I don't know if it 4x4s or what.

I've started to find a lot of dead bugs too, which is pleasing me, as I was really worried that there seemed to be more alive than dead at first after the treatment. I've been trying to get hold of the landlady. We don't have insurance, still haven't got round to sorting it here.

That confetti idea is lovely. I spoke to mother today. She sent the cards in the post, and I thought it was mean that now there four of them, she decides to get one card between them. I didn't mention that but I told her to forget Xmas. The kids believe in santa so there no point in her turning up with presents later. Told her to take some stuff back, that I really wanted the kids to have, and I will go and buy it. She just said they'd get double for their bday. fgs, the kids won't understand that at all. I'm still really peed off with her.

Thanks for listening girls, it's pretty lonely round here. It's good to have someone to moan to.