D'y ever wonder how life got like this?

[FrumpyGrumpy]

New to MN but like what I read so far. Struggling to get by day by day at the minute and feeling isolated but not enough to make the effort to join in the 'groups' the whole world seems to think are just what I need!!!!

Have daughter of 4 and girl and boy twins of eight months. Not had time since they were born when all three kids have been well, am I just cursed? Throw in a house move that took 6 months, a partner that works away most of the week and a mother-in-law I can wait another lifetime to deal with and I've ended up the sort of person I used to look at and wonder how life got like that.

Anyone give me hope that when the babes are eighteen months I'll feel better?!! If not, anyone tell me that alternate nights of gin then chocolate is an ok passage through?

kelly... don't know what you've done to me girl, but I'm about to book my theory test and have started a thread asking for the books etc....

There'll be no stopping me soon. lol

Don't blame me for this!!

There was a learnign to drive thread around somewhere, should dig it out again. I did have the disc and book, but I've flogged mine now. When are you starting?

Once I get the theory stuff, I'll book the theory test and will probably do an intensive course. Hopefully all in time for Christmas! And I do blame you

intensive? have u driven before then?

blame me then, see if I care...

yeah! Failed on over correcting my parking. Grrrrrrrrrrrr.... otherwise it was a brilliant drive. Never mind. Just want to do it and get it over with.

Consider yourself blamed!

oh right that was unlucky, better luck next time.

I'm doing better now I got a new instructor, hoping to pass before xmas too.

Hi all, how's it going? Are your babes doing that thing that makes us all smiley mums? As usual one of mine is and two are doing it on and off. DP missed out on many nights of happiness as he is working away best part of 3 weeks (this is week 2). It has now passed (you will all be DELIGHTED to hear!) and I am back to having spots and flaky nails. AND no period so I know my hormones are just taking me for a fool cos its well overdue. Jeez its a mad old life. I don't really want to say it but I have been feeling really pretty good for weeks now. Don't know what did it. Lots of little things have changed good and bad so who knows. Going to get my hair cut and coloured tomorrow so anymore of this and I'm gonna need a name change .

OMG learning to drive! Proud of you girls. Now you can be like me - go out in the car just for the chance to play loud music and sing your head off while kids look out the window, bliss!!! You might even get to (a) pick your own nose and (b) apply mascara and lipgloss without anyone emptying your make up bag or asking for some. Need to keep half an eye open for men in dark suits and blue shiny things on the roof of their cars though .

those men in dark suits sound scary!

my dts are giving me merry hell at the moment. dt1 slept through for three nights, then dt2 got a cold, so they were both up agin. then just as dt2 starts sleeping and stops vomitting, dt1 gets the cold. So now I'm up half the night with him. I've got three weeks til my exam and I need to revise - but I'm absolutely shattered!

Plus ds1 has had soem sort of tummy upset, four days on the trot he poo-ed himself. So I've had it both ends! At least dd is beign a perfect angel atm. What's the betting she's next?

Aw Kelly, sounds like a perfect hell and one thats all too familiar! I feel life has been like that since the DTs came along. Never really clear of illness for any stretch of time. Ah. You are so fantastic that you even contemplate revising, I seem to work at family stuff until half eleven and then flop. Keep going honey, you'll get your reward. Good luck and hope today finds their bottoms and colds a bit better.

It feels like a rollercoaster at the min. Didn't even make it to school tuesday. Ravi seems a lot better, is sleeping again. So - Akshay decides to start chucking again!! Things defo improving tho. Just hoping they can hold it off just til exam over with. Finally made a start (about a week late), just have to do best I can with it.

How's things with u, FG?

I've been doing ok Kelly, I think the worst has lifted I'm pleased to say. Still up and down but it feels more like normal PMT now! Still seeing counsellor woman from time to time. Not sure whether it helps but I'll keep going for now. Got bummer of a period though, has been trying to arrive for couple of weeks on and off and now its here big style. Came with a phenomenal head/face ache and two lovely spots on my chin and a couple on my chest (lovely, looking good ). Let my herbal stuff run out so I think that it was helping after all!! Generally feeling ok even though the DTs are driving me potty. New trick is emptying the bin and eating what they find while the other climbs (YEAH CLIMBS) onto the little table and stands beaming at me. Who do you run to first?

DD started school so I'm doing the school run now too - its HELL. Not surprised you didn't make school, I'm thinking of home tutoring .

Best of luck Kelly, you're a better woman than me!

I wouyldn't count on that, I get stressed too - I threw a pan of tea at dp at the weekend! Luckily it was cold PMT isn't even due til next week - I'll think he'll prob move out for that.
Lack of sleep and stress is gettign to us a bit, but we'll get through it. Only three weeks til I finished study for the year, and things will def improve.

Sounds like you having great fun. It brings back memories and scares me. WE ended up putting the bin in the larder with the older two - but we don't have a larder now! I'm finding them rolling enough trouble atm. It took them both rollign off the bed before I realised not to leave them th any more. DD and ds had baby walkers and never got that good at rolling. The twins are ace atit though - Ravi can roll and roll across the room without stopping. Usually comes over to bite my feet when I nt looking. We've started workign on child proofing, rearranged the room a bit, but I'm still tempted by this when they start crawling.

I must learn to type - next on the list!

Hi, I've just joined mumsnet and felt right at home reading your posts. I have a son Jon Ryan (3yrs old) and Amy & Clare(1yr 9mts). I admire you for studying anything at all - I barely manage to get through the day! Good luck.

Hi Maltesemum. 3 under 3 must be hard work! my 4 driving me crazy as usual. trying to sort playgroup for the dt's 2.9yrs and secondary school for the eldest...

Hi maltesemum, welcome to mumsnet. You must have had a lot of fun when your dts were born. I have a friend of a friend now expecting dts, and her little one will be 18 mnths when they are due. I can't imagine how she will manage. At least my older ones were 2 and 4!
Did you have to use a triple buggy? How did your son cope with their arrival?

Hey, we have a malteser and a mars, I like this, women who think my thoughts!!

Hi Maltese mum, god thats a handful. My dd was 3.5 when the DTs arrived so at least she had an understanding when I tried to explain that crying is just what babies do sometimes (all the time)! Welcome to you. I turn the handle on my creaky old pc as often as I can manage and its lovely feeling that constant source of camaraderie on here. I'm usually to be found falling to bits at the seams but ocassionally I can manage a giggle and even the odd belly laugh .

Girls, advice please. I have a spare 2.5 hours on Friday morning. Do I (a) shop for a badly needed waterproof jacket and shoes warmer than flip flops, (b) get a desperately needed leg wax (seriously I could plait the hair (c) spend time with my gran who's 80 and not very well (d) put my house back together or (e) buy as many Flakes as I can fit in my handbag and eat the lot while hacking the hard skin off my heels watching daytime TV?

Kelly, hows it today? The pan of tea was a great thing to do really, my gran used to stain her legs with it during the war when no one had any stockings. Your DP will just have that late summer glow that we all strive for!!

Kelly, I so love that cage. Its a must-have this season, I feel a business being born ......... pink for the girls....... .

Oooh, i would vote for shopping, and take the flakes with you!! Sod the leg hair - it's winter, no-one will see it. And you can see Gran with the kids in tow.

I could try tellign dp that about the tea, but I think i would get in even more trouble. He doesn't really need a summer glow - he is indian. He's been desperate for his tan to go from our week in Spain.

The dts are STILL ill. I've tried calpol, medised, vicks, tyxilix, nothign seems to shift it. Luckily Ravi si still happy anyway. He is sittign up now, which keeps him entertained for a while. 'Til he pushes all his toys out of reach - then bellows angrily til I put them back! Akshay is a typical man - sitting in front of the tv with his blanket and bunny feeling sorry for himself!

At least the older ones are behaving though I'm a bit worried about dd. Something seems not right with her school, and I can't put my finger on it.

I jsut can't wait til I finished study, all that extra time to do things. Maybe I will even get round to plaiting my leghair.

Aw Kelly, I'm totally dizzy - your babies are called Ravi and Ashkay - of course somebody's skin was likely to be already that lovely glowing colour!!! Dafty here .

I feel for you big-time on the illness, you sometimes feel like you're not getting out of the bit don't you. Its tough all the time but when somebody's ill it sends everything up ten gears. My DTs get things one after the other (with DD in between) and they always need cuddled and, atm, if one is getting a cuddle the other wants one too and they don't want to share my lap! Best of luck. My best way of coping with illness (the doctors advice) was to do the Calpol then two hours later the Nurofen then two hours later back to Calpol. You're maybe doing that already. It means they can have something every two hours instead of four i.e. well before something wears off. I ended up at hospital back in May with dd1 with her temperature and they said if they're ill spoon it in regularly without fail for a few days. I do that every time there's illness now and it has made a difference. Good luck honey.

Whats up with DD and school? I always think if you've a hunch something is up you're right.

I'm with you on the leg hair. Its waited this long....

Hi girls.

so there's a new chocolate cousin on the block. Welcome maltesemum.

Filled in all my OU documents. So just waiting for it to start. Have started reading Shakespeare's plays. Can't find my license so that I can book the Theory Test. Need to do that this weekend.

We are looking to move in the next few months. I'm fighting a head cold, the DTs have been ill on and off. They both have molars coming through so you can imagine the joy in this household.

I've been visiting senior schools with DD1. Been to a curriculum evening for DS1 (on the same day as school visits with DD) and am completely shattered.

We have friends over for supper tonight. Am in a bad mood with DH who broke a glass and left it in the mop bucket (one of DT2's favourite "toys") and he's b*ggered up the hoover.

Didn't get to have my normal Friday lunch with BF as she was away on a course grrrrr..... so the week feels a bit upside down. Our Friday lunches keep me sane.

Bought myself a desk. No one is allowed to touch it, work on it, put anything in it, take anything out of it. It is all MINE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It is now my centre of operations. Suddenly I can find pens and paper when I need them. Envelopes, calendars, letters, bills. I'm sad I know, but I love my new desk!

Got loads to do, and yet here I am posting. Good to see how you are all doing. Here's hoping for shortlived illness through the winter for the DTs, cos this lap ain't big enough for both of them. lmao. When they are ill and grumpy I am only allowed to be mummy to that particular one. Terrible babes!

Just to make you laugh I'll tell you what DT1 says when she sees particular pictures in her picture book (DT2 can say all gone. And that's his full reportoire lmao).

Dog: Woof Woof...dog
Cat: Miaou...miaou...cat
Duck: Wack wack duck
(bear with me now)
Ball: ball...and then she says DS1's name
Telephone: ring ring allo allo then she says my BF's name
Jumper: she bounces up and down
Spoon or fork: she puts her finger in her mouth and says yummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
Sponge or tap: bath bath and rubs her chest
Table: geddown... geddown......
(that's my favourite. Can you tell what I'm always saying).

they sound so sweet! Haven't the dts discover ur desk? i've normally got one up mine, grabbig my hands or the keyboard - hence the terrible typing. Ravi's turn atm.
it sounds like things are a bit chaotic for u at the moment and u normally sound so serene and calm!
What shakespeare are u reading? I love shakespeare.

fg - thatnks for that tip, will give that a go. Meeeley recomended the karvol plug in and they slept heaps better last ngiht. Def a good one to use.

Really not sure with dd, but she off her food, she pooed in her knickers at school the other day. Her teacher didn't even bother tellign me. I had to go speak to her. She seems so quiet. I think the work is too hard and is stressing her out. She normally loves books and is very confident, now she is whispering and I can barely hear her. She reckons she likes school and is happy, btu I'm not. They send hoem some maths homework today, and it is waaay too hard for her, absurd really. There is a parents eve soon, i'm going to speak to them then.

remind me how old she is Kelly? please

she turned 5 in june.

that maths thign tells her to think of a number between 1-9
add 4
double it
take away 2
halve it
take away number first thought of
write down ur answer

Sound too hard to u?

it sounds like Y1.

DD2 used to do the whispering thing... so I hope it's a phase and not cos of any problems.

With the homework whenever I felt it was too much or too hard I would let her do what she could, then sign it and tell the teacher.

gotta go, DT1 crying and giving me the look!