Evening all,
Im glad I find you all well !!
Shabs, hope your haiving the most fab holiday !!!!!!
Momma i am also getting married in October (4th) Lovely dress btw, do what suits you, we are having a fairly medium ish wedding 65 guests etc but i do feel i wish i'd done the registry office, meal in the pub thing alot less grief/cash !!!!
Just had a row with sis ( glam travelling the world no kids sis) so i am here to vent and ask how things work in your homes . . .
DD1 sometimes takes food without asking in secret and eats it upstairs and hides wrappers, which i then find when tidying, cant really remeber when it started, but im pretty sure the reason is DD2 didnt eat anything until over 2 due to cancer was fed via tube, wouldnt have anything in her mouth, but when she would i let her anything . . . crisps for brekkie etc, desperate for her to eat. I explained DD1 no she couldnt have crisps for brekkie as me and her werent poorly we have toast, cereal etc.
I have done the softly, softly approach, also cross, no pudding, sweets for rest of week etc.
Anyway tonight found wrappers and was cross as one was some sweets my mum brought for DD2, came down after row, sis said i was unreasonable, that when we were young we could help ourselves from cupboard as long as we asked, but i said she is 11, no she isnt helping herself and anyway, she is allowed plenty, two things for brekkie if wanted, good pack lunched with goodies and tea then pudding and as much fruit as you want in the evening.
I thought this was the norm in most houses. Am i being mean ???? Do your kids help themselves or do you restrict what they have ??
I know the situation with DD2 isnt easy, never has been but i can not change it. I try to have sympathy but surely that doesnt invovle giving her a free rein at 11 ??
Honest answers appreciated