I think you are all probably tucked up in bed, I know Shaby is and rightly so. I just am going to sit here and pour it all out, because I am so upset about today. Harry phoned me at 1pm to say he was still in the waiting area, no bed as yet, he sounded very low. I came home from school at 3.30pm and phoned the hospital to find out where he was, xpecting to be told he is is what ever ward. Well, after being passed from one ward to another they couldnt find him, though in fact one person said they thought he was in theatre! Eventually at 5pm they phone and say they have found him, he has been put in the Rotary suite and we could go over after 6pm, its 40 mins away. We got there at 6.30pm and went to the Rotary suite, lots of very poorly people in little private cubicles, no Harry, sister came thru, took us into her office and said she would locate him for us. After several calls she said he was in Kings A2, so off we went. Walked in, met by staff, no, he is not here, then said jokingly he is probably where you left him this morning, in the waiting room!This is now 7pm, we go to the waiting room outside pre admissions and there he is, sat on a chair holding his coat with his bag by his side, looking so very very upset. He had been there all day, they still were trying to get him a bed. Then Julie the stoma nurse who had been with him most of the day, called me over and said she was very worried about Harry and it was all their fault, it was unforgivable that he had had to sit there all day, and she had phoned and phoned all day to get him a bed and so far couldnt. I said so what do you think you will do with him tonight and she said he might have to spend the night on a trolley by A&E!!!!!!! I said I would take him home first, to which she said he was almost going to walk out at 4pm, his blood pressure is very high and she said he wasy scared about tomorrows surgery. She to be fair had really done her best, she had been there since 7am and should have been at a dinner party 10 miles away but had cancelled it and said she would not leave until she knew he had a bed. Then a nurse came and said as he had had such a rotten day he was allowed a little hot clear soup and a tiny pot of jelly, poor poor thing, I felt heartbroken watching him eat it. Julie then said she would take us to a tv lounge, normally locked but it would be nicer than sitting there, we followed her, then Harry flew off to find a loo as he had been given the second lot of bowel prep. I sat with my brother and the kids, then I heard him calling me from the loo, I opened the door and it was everywhere, the walls the floor his clothes shoes everything and he was almost crying saying I am sorry. Iwent to find Julie who was with someone else she gave me some gloves and wipes and said she would come asap. I went back to him, and physically felt sick, he would not let me help him and cleared it and himself up as best as he could. I got his pjs and clean underwear out of his bag, Julie came and finished clearing up. He came into us looking dreadful, then a nurse came to check his bp which was very very high, hardly surprising. At 8.15pm Jukie came and said at last a bed had been found and a male nurse would come up for Harry, and that she felt so dreadfully sorry. We then followed him down to this awful ancient 6 bed ward and he was told to choose any bed he wanted!!!! We then had to say our goodbyes, boys just skipped off but Becca hugged and hugged him. I then hugged him and he started to cry, I have never ever felt so gutted and sick and sad for a very long time. I walked away and left him standing there, and all I wanted to do was bring him home, I am sure if it had been one of the kids that is what I would have done. Poor poor H. So got home at 9.30pm, boys playing up as usual, gave them a snack and sent them to bed where they finally went to sleep about 10.30pm. I then had to wash out his clothes, just cannot believe he has had such a bloody awful day before such a big day tomorrow. My back is aching, my leg is hurting. I am hungry and I am tired. They had better look after him tomorrow, he will be in theatre at 1.30pm. Sorry to go on and on, just needed to get this all out.
FG , good on you for today xxxx