Frumpy......its a very long story. This friend I met thru school, young enough to be my daughter, she was funny and kind. Next thing she leaves husband and two kids, 7 and 5yr olds. Takes off with some man, goes pear shape, joins the police and meet new man also in the police. Basically their relationship has been volatile, both sides I think, I have listened to hours of tears, made her welcome here(she lives 4 hours away), DH doesnt like her so its all caused me problems. My house has no room, but have always put her up when times have been bad. She has been to Denmark to see her mum, sent me a message asking to stay Weds night, said I cant DH not well, going away on Sat, opticians, swimming lessons etc, no time to even blink. So then I get another e-mail asking to come here today, midday, then collect her 2 kids, bring them here, then Id have 5 kids trashing the house, then take them back to their fathers at 8pm!! So told her no can do, got technician coming today and repair man for washing machine, car exhaust gone, Dh not well etc. So last night the reply I got was, Dont bother, obviously dont want to see me, diff rules for different friends, will pick kids up on my own and wont trouble you. Am I being too sensitve? On top I have aching wrists, athritis in both and tbh I am struggling to keep up atm!