D'ya ever wonder how long the sun will last...?

[Sokmonsta]

Morning! Since its a sunny day here I thought I'd say sunny hellos. Unless of course anyone else has beat me to it and I've missed the new thread.

Evening girls, I remain busy, busy, busy .
Im sitting here waiting for the tumble dryer to finish with the boys uniforms in it, they had to be washed, but I hadn't been home to enough to do it I seem to have been trying to catch up with all the chores at home well into the wee small hours the past week or so.
Finally got the care planning system up and running on my new on call companies computer, after much stress and false starts.
Started my long hours at my main job, trying to sort out my mums flat, plus I've had both boys off school sick, M with a chest infection and 2 days later J came down with a nasty tummy bug, poor boy threw up all over his classroom floor Both went back today. I am also trying yo get the boys birthday sorted, they are doing Ringos (sliding down the artificial ski slope in big inner tubes) wth 4 friends on Sunday. I can't belive they will be 13 next week .
Mama - lovely pics, and wonderful to have a smile ftom Artie, good and bad news about Apollo, great he is improving, sorry that he needs another op, but at least it is not so invasive as the last one.
Hi to everyone else.

Morning girls xx

done soks, hope to see you back soon though :(

Hi everyone,

Thanks for your reports. We've seen this post and contacted the OP about it.

Hi whats going on? I can click on add message ok but nothing is happening when I click on message poster?? Getting cross! Thanks Chops for the voucher off tomorrow suit hunting! Kids off today, had a review day at school at 9.30am we were all home by 10.30am! No school tomorrow as its teacher training day!! They have cleared out fridge and cupboards, eaten me out of house and home!!

... I feel confused. Or I just confused myself...

Thanks, Bubby. Got more smiles out of her today and Apollo is such a trooper. HV comes on Saturday to check on Artie. Quite nervous.

I have no idea what is going on OR why it is going on!!!!!!!!!!

Maybe I am totally thick....maybe naieve....no idea - all I know is I have no idea at all what is going on - on our thread!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Boo!

Boo :)

Boo!

Morning girls

You're welcome, trips, hope you find something x

Zzzzzz. Late night last night - wine, beer, american football, burgers and pumpkin pie - thanksgiving!

Morning ladies. X

Morning!

[pushes in trolley with plenty of tea, coffee and cakes]

Hope everyone has a good day today.

kids in bed, training day.......dk being dk............
got to go up to my brothers the one with a poorly heart to change all his beds..............life is so bloody exciting I can`t contain myself.....

Thats it! I'm throwing in the towel
DH has injured his back big time at work yesterday. I took him to the GP, and he is now bombed out of his brain on valium and painkillers. His boss has already told him he will not get paid and he will lose his monthly bonus, even tho he has had only 6 days off sick the whole year, despite everyghing which has gone on.
I have the boys party Sunday, and we are supposed to be picking up and returning all 8 kids so we need both cars and now DH can't drive I am also supposed to be clearing mums flat today and tomorrow, so I will have to do that on my own now.
All I want to do is curl up in a ball and first cry, then sleep

Sorry, this is a very self indulgent, self absorbed post, but I have really come to the end of my tether

I know that feeling Bubby

I hope things soon dramatically improve for you xxx

Oh bubby! I don't blame you for wanting to throw in the towel. Think I would too

NN came today about the twins. She's recommending the HV does their 12 month check after Xmas because of dc3's lack of speech. Didn't have the heart to point out when 12 months was.

Mini (didnt want to use old psudename for your privacy)- Is DC3 making themselves understood without needing to speak? My DN did this, and because she was managing to do so, she took a long time to speak, now shes a right little chatterbox!

Well, I have pulled myself up by the boot strings and decided just to get on with things, I cant really do anything else, can I? I spent all afternoon at mums flat and made good headway. 2 trips to high school with art, english and history books and art equipment (mum was a keen and talented amater artist before her illness, as well as being very intelligent and self educated), 3 trips to charity shops and 3 trips to the dump. Still some things to sort through, but Im getting there. DBs came and removed all big items that were being dumped during the week, old suite, other furniture, carpets etc, so now there is only her clothes to sort, plus boxes and boxes of "stuff". Her few good pieces of furniture and some other bits are going for auction, and the money to go into her savings account, which the SS cannot touch as the amount will be well below the maximum allowance.I found loads of pictures, press cuttings, cards and even some old love letters from my dad to her, which made me both laugh and cry. We have to give the keys back on the 24th Dec.
DH is still in a lot of pain, so I am looking to hire a 12 seater minibus for Sunday, a local URC church has one, and my pastor said he will ask if I can borrow it for a donaton, If I cant, I will pay to hire one.

Bubby so sorry for you and your dh, back pain is really horrible and I know how upsetting it s clearing out your parents home, all bloody sad. I am feeling fed up. DD came home with her friend he friend said her Mum was taking he to gig in Deal tonight and would dd like to come. I asked who was on, somebody I hadnt heard of but I said yes. Friend then said it is £12 a ticket <img loading="lazy" class="inline-flex mumsnet-emoji" alt="Shock" src="https://www.mumsnet.com/build/assets/shock-7MJQdU1X.png"> to late to back out......she came back 30 mins ago, all excited it was amazing etc, I said I wouldn't have thought it was friends Mums sort of thing. "She didnt go" she said, "just us two and we sat with an old man who talked to us all night". I am just abit . Girls is it just me, I am really struggling to get it into my head that its Christmas Day weeks next Weds. Every year it feels less and less like Christmas. I start off early then all of a sudden it here and I still have so much to do. Whats the answer, how to look forward to it? I feel like such a misery at times, yet the house will look nice everything will get done but the" magic" isnt there anymore. Id love to have a crowd round, to laugh and have fun but it will just be us and I know that should be enough.............but......

NO its not you Trips. I get exactly what you mean. If me and you still had our Matthews here - and I had my Gareth here we would not even be having this conversation. We are 'older' Mums. We both know the joy of having a baby but also both know the immense loss of a child. We keep pinning on a smile and pretending to live life for OTHERS.

We both give everything....every last piece of ourselves to try and make our family lives complete. BUT it is never enough....in a few days I will be 57....we have no money for birthday celebrations and I am truly not bothered but my son and his little family have already told me they cant buy me a pressie....now thats not important to me BUT I feel they should make a homemade birthday card. DH going mad because they are not buying me a gift but he cant afford to buy a gift either. Its all a crock of shite.

We cant bring our boys back - all we want is for someone to care. Someone to say 'how are you doing?' Thats it really - thats all that matters xxxxx

Wide eyed........losing vital beauty sleep...........aghhhhhhhhhh

Morning girls xx